Hi :D

someone tell the tumblerinas that you can raise an issue without deliberately guilt-tripping everyone about it

okay, I take it back. I don’t think everyone is doing this deliberately. some of it is so deeply entrenched in tumblr culture that you probably don’t always notice you’re doing it

“nobody’s talking about this” -> you can just delete this phrase

“if you can’t reblog this, unfollow me” -> you can also delete this one

“x group can, and should, reblog this” -> remove the “should”. or you know. delete the entire sentence

your post will still spread all the important information without the guilt-tripping parts, I promise

if an otherwise valid post tries to guilt trip me it’s a pass on the rb, sry.

Resisting the urge to use all of these phrases while reblogging this post

Hey. Gentiles. Listen up for a sec.

When September and October are nearing and you’re planning an event: google “Rosh Hashanah *year*” and *Yom Kippur *year*” and then, and I cannot stress this enough, don’t plan your event on those days. In fact, don’t plan any events starting sundown the night before. Those are the three most important days of the Jewish calendar, and, once again, I cannot stress enough how much this little bit of forethought and kindness will make every Jew you know cry tears of joy.

in 2023, the night before Rosh Hashanah is Thursday evening, September 14.

Rosh Hashanah ends Sunday evening, September 17.

calendar date

in 2023, the night before Yom Kippur is Saturday evening, September 23.

Yom Kippur ends Monday evening, September 25.

calendar date

cadash has probably my fave varric prologue origin banter

Varric: So let me guess: fellow surface dwarf, maybe part of the Carta?

Cadash: What makes you say that?

Varric: I can tell a proper Orzammar dwarf from twenty paces. Also, you have that shifty-smuggler look to you.

Cadash: I’m not the only one with a shifty-smuggler look.

Cassandra: Varric did not destroy the Conclave.

Varric: That you know of. We shifty-smuggler types can be tricky.

star wars fans excitedly inventing The Darth Vader Company Town

“I seek an audience with you, Lord Vader” *clambering over a dozen person-sized stacks of Death Star branded polo shirts, crashes through a wall of official Imperial Navy insulated coffee mugs*

cassandra, softly, with gravity: that is where you walked out of the rift and our soldiers found you... they say a woman was behind you. no-one knows who she was.

the herald, picking through the templar corpses: that’s crazy. oh sick a fire resistance cowl

btw my tumblr still normal, like what's up?

I think they rolling out the new dash to losers only. Cool dudes like me get to keep using the normal one😎😎😎

and then they adopted each other and lived happily ever after, the end (HA)

so yeah, go watch Nimona, it's great

*taps mic*

Forcing/pressuring someone to top or be dominant for you during sex is sexual abuse.

Yes, even if that person identifies as a man.

Yes, even if that person is usually masculine.

Yes, even if you're queer and it's a queer relationship.

Especially if that person has a body that gets stereotyped as automatically masculine or dominant, such as fat, tall, or muscular people. I don't care if fandoms make you believe that bigness equates to a specific sexual position.

Especially if that person said yes because they felt pressured to please you or to follow the gender/body norms put on them. Consent is not an "I guess." You need to give a person the safety to say no.

Especially if you are misgendering that person, including a cis person. Pressuring a fat cis woman to masquerade as a man for you in bed is not okay because pressure is not consent.

Sexual abuse is not just faced by a person who is penetrated, is submissive, is smaller, is a woman, or whatever other stereotypes society pretends are requirements to count as sexual abuse. Sexual abuse isn't even just full on rape, and the sexual abuse that isn't full on rape is still able to create unbearable trauma that matters just as much, that affects a person mentally and physically for possibly the rest of their life if they are not given the support needed to recover.

And when a person has experienced sexual abuse but is not a woman, was not submissive, was not being penetrated, was not smaller than the other person(s), or did not experience sexual abuse that is viewed as full on rape, then it is that much harder for that person to receive the support and help they need.

How someone looks does not tell you what they are comfortable with sexually, and it sure doesn't tell you whether that person is capable of facing sexual abuse.

Thank you. *drops mic*

Information Wall (with Hat)

terfs keep mentioning the % of autistics who are trans/nb and that we're 'brainwashed'

and because i'm an asshole, i decided to look into why so many autistic folks are trans/nb. it's not an inaccurate statement, at least the first half, but terfs lie through their teeth so i decided to get to the scientific root of it.

the answer blew my fucking mind.

the study on gender and autism i found said two very specific things about autistic people: we are more mentally resistant to things like social conditioning and binarism. we like our secret third things, y'know.

an excerpt:

“The finding that non-binary identities are most elevated seems to support hypotheses focussed on autistic resistance to social conditioning, which are consistent with existing evidence of the same effect with respect to self-description of sexual orientation. Perhaps elevated rates of trans identity in autism might result from a rejection of the binary cisgenderist norm, which combined with a below-typical concern for social norms could promote the disclosure of the identity.”

94% of autistics surveyed for that paper identified themselves as non-binary.

other studies have found autistic people have higher levels of critical thinking, and require more evidence to maintain or convert to a belief system (hence why many of us eventually fall away from religion) than allistic people.

which means, at least from my perspective, that:

a) the 'brainwashing' terfs are accusing the trans community of inflicting on autistic folks would likely not even work if they tried.

b) the current binary definition of gender flies directly against embedded autistic modes of thinking to begin with.

you cannot brainwash someone into thinking something they already believe.

This essentially suggests that autistic people are likely to be NB because we are in fact resistant to the relevant brainwashing.

i do enjoy how context affects everything in dai. those medic notes beside ur bed that are like “wish we could station a templar here just in case” because as cadash i’m like oh okay i would probably feel the same but i’m used to being a mage where i’m like oh okay i’m going to die here

it’s crazy making a game about religion when ur most coherent criticism of the institutional religion is “prayers don’t do anything”

sorry i mean “prayers don’t do anything. which is why people with SWORDS should be in charge”

Hey, by the way you can report someone for telling another person to commit suicide, because it's against the rules of the site. Because it's wrong! Who would have guessed? And if enough reports get put in, their blog disappears and you don't have to block them!

I would file it under hate speech because he's specifically telling disabled people to kill themselves because we didn't like his joke about disabled people. He's done it twice in the same thread and you can report both incidences if you want.

I rarely ask things of my followers, but if you're able and willing, have at it!

the fact that a river ends at the mouth implies that the source is the anus, and a river flows from anus to mouth

not for this one I don't think so

??????

Returns to the scene of my crime post 10k notes like I'm watching a bonfire and bringing my favorite additions to roast like marshmallows over the flames.

Hey, friendly, and sometimes unfriendly, reminder that we've known stuff like "oh you're so articulate" is a micro aggression for years. Don't do it to intellectually disabled people either. Just don't comment on the way people talk unless they want to know your opinion, it's RUDE.

IQ tests are horrible.

And

People with ID are real and valid.

Are both statements that can coexist. Stop invalidating people with ID by your discussions about IQ. Stop. Invalidating. Them. ID exists.

BOTH ARE TRUE

If the WHOLE COUNTRY'S economy cannot work without the labor that UPS workers provide, than their labor is worth their demands and more.

No other conclusion can be rationally made from this information.