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The Phoenix System

@asher-valentine

I have too much empathy for my own good it/its this is Jay I also run this blog he/him for me
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bauliya

do you think earthbenders often see water and fire benders obsessing over night/day/eclipses/temperature/cycles of the moon and air benders talking endlessly about spirits and lightness and go bitch,, just fucking,,,, bend,, stop with this nonsense,,,

Firebenders, Waterbenders, Airbenders: My bending powers are granted to me via the cosmic energies of the universe.

Earthbenders: My bending powers are for rocks. And they come from rocks.

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abimee

I hate the trope of "I refuse to hit women!! [Gets decked]" cause it's boring but I do like the trope of someone in an RPG going "hey I don't wanna hit a kid that's kinda fucked up" and the kid just obliterates them

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abimee

"i refuse to hit a woman!" = Sexist, overdone, does nothing to actually empower the woman or make the guy seem nice

"I refuse to hit a kid" = valid, even funnier when the kid whips absolutely ass in one go

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nyandaah

imagine if your sister who's a cop shows up at your doorstep and tries to arrest you and then you go "ok but only if you beat me in a game of basketball" and she agrees

No cops at Pride, just Elton John with his Gucci shirt and a knife

no cops just elton john with his elton john brass knuckes

Saturday nights alright for fighting homophobia

If someone isn't available during your most crucial time, then their presence any other time is useless.

This isn’t realistic for adults. I’m sorry it’s just not.

Don’t fall into believing that, “if they’re a true friend they’ll drop everything and run to be by your side!” crap.

As a responsible adult there will be times that your friends are hurting and you won’t be able to go to them.

There are times that you will have to go to work, or take your sick kid to the doctor, or do many other things that will prevent you from being there for your friend.

When your friend calls you and they’re falling apart and it’s ten minutes until you have to leave for work, you’re not a bad friend for saying, “Look, I love you. I’m sorry this is happening, but I have to go. I’ll call you back tonight when the kids are asleep.” Or “I’m so sorry this is happening. I love you and I want to be here for you but I’ve got to get to work. I’ll call and check on you during my lunch.”

Adult life is hectic and busy with important things all the time and unfortunately it’s also full of shitty things happening to people we love.

Do your best to be there for the people you love and ask for support when you need it but be understanding when being a responsible adult comes before helping you.

The idea that people need to be there any time you need them is really damaging and unhealthy, too. You can’t place value on a person or a relationship based solely on whether or not they’re available, no questions asked, whenever you need them.

In addition to the above: sometimes, someone simply does not have the energy to help. Maybe they’re coming out of a rough patch themself, maybe they have been busy all day,maybe a chronic illness is flaring up. There are a myriad of reasons someone may not be able to be there.

Obviously, if someone is taking you for granted, and never seems to care how you’re doing, that’s an issue. But to write someone off because their life and your life didn’t line up quite right at a given point in time, or maybe even on more than one occasion, is not a healthy way to handle things.

me trying to sound employable: i love effort.... and doing things. i love trying. working is the best. i love it when its hard, and bad

Ya know what’s kinda cool about Dr.Doofenschmirtz? NONE of his tragic backstories had ANYTHING to do with his ex-wife Charlene.

Because let’s get real here, Heinz had it out for a LOT of people who screwed him over, from Hot Dog salesmen, to baking soda volcanoes, yet in NO episode in the series did he ever say ANYTHING negative or acrimonious about his ex-wife. Never tried to screw her over, never battled her for more custody of Vanessa, he respected her dearly and never saw her as an antagonist, just someone he grew apart from emotionally. GRANTED he still bled her dry with alimony checks, but hey she’s loaded and she didn’t seem to mind.

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kereeachan

Like, once or twice they reference reasons they didn’t get along and he sometimes references her meanly in songs (mostly just to get a rhyme) but they’re generally both totally cool with each other. Like, they have a very amicable relationship for exes and I think that was good to portray on a kids’ show, doubly so because Heinz is often an unreasonably petty man and yet Charlene is never someone he feels “wronged” him (as compared to, say, the girl who bullied him in Gimmelschtump as a form of flirting or the woman who left him for a whale). Like, the most he’s done with lightly bicker with her about picking up their daughter when he’d planned to do something else.

And this pretty much HAD to be a conscious choice by the writers. Like, Heinz goes after almost everyone at some point and him not going after his ex was clearly something they made their minds up on.

As the child of divorced parents who did their damndest to always be cordial around me and not disparage each other when they had me, I appreciated this a lot. Not every divorced couple is in a screaming match at every interaction or trashing their ex around their child. It’s an easy crop of jokes to do for a comedy, and I liked that Phineas and Ferb didn’t go there. 

If your partner feels threatened when you want alone time: RUN.

welp

thats creepy

This applies to you boys too- if your girlfriend won’t let you hang out with your friends, RUN

No matter what gender you or your partner are, if they refuse to let you spend any time with your friends that’s a big sign of danger.

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rizadyke

The fact that Asami was a rich kid/is a fucking CEO and Korra has not worked an actual job ever.....you KNOW when they’re on dates Korra is like “idk how much to tip so I’m gonna give the waitress $200 she seems nice” and Asami is like “yeah that seems right!”

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actvii

petals to the metal

[ID: a drawing of the tres horny boys from the waist up with the wind blowing in their faces, making their hair fly back really epic. from left to right: magnus is a smirking buff light-skinned dude with light brown shoulder-length straight hair and a short bushy beard. he has scars on his arms. he’s wearing a white t-shirt, a piece of shoulder armor, and a light brown bear mask that covers the top half of his face and head. taako is a tanned elf with downward-facing ears and a long light blonde loose braid flying in the wind. he wears a white collared shirt with gold buttons, a wide dark brown belt, a loose faded magenta robe falling at his shoulders, and golden jewelry on his neck, ear, fingers, and wrist. he wears a light tan mongoose mask with fangs jutting out of its “mouth”, covering the top half of his face, and a wide-brimmed dark brown wizard’s hat with a dark magenta band. merle is a dark-skinned dwarf with a perfectly white bushy beard and hair. 

what do you mean you don’t want a vial of my blood on a necklace???? i thought you had feelings for me????????????