Happy Transgender Day of Visibility! I hope every trans person has a great day, and I hope today can be a day of being proud, loud, and visible! I want every trans kid to know that there are trans people out here living amazing, happy, fulfilling lives - and that future is waiting for you too!

(Here are some of my trans pride bird designs from my (way too crowded - sorry!) Redbubble store)

but it only works if 4 people are having sex lol

how many hands you got

two? don’t see how that’s relevant

allow me illustrate you

that’s still four people

i truly can’t make this any clearer

will smith isn’t gay. he has a wife and three beautiful, talented children

don’t know what you’re on about. will smith and slightly wider blue will smith have been married for years. they’re a hollywood love story

I can’t believe this post predicted the live action Aladdin genie

If we lose tumblr how will we ever replace these posts in which every reply feels like a punch in the face

Or you might say… a slap…

The mind cannot fathom how much I despise this website

As a certified Queer who ALWAYS sticks LGBT rep into my stories out of principle, let me just say...

… I have never actually been enticed into reading/watching/listening to a media solely on the promotion of representation. 

“This story has gay characters! :) The love interest is a genderqueer ace! There’s polyam rep!” 

Honey, that’s fantastic, but what the fuck is the story actually about.

Yeah, there’s the Pretty Flower Girl aesthetics and the Dark Queen aesthetics, but I still prefer the Dirty Farm Girl aesthetics for Persephone. ^^

not gonna lie, this made me tear up a little bit.

I wish like doctors offices and other places were this chill and inclusive and helpful.

not gonna lie, this made me tear up a little bit.

I wish like doctors offices and other places were this chill and inclusive and helpful.

Still bothered by the US cultural idea that men can only be non-romantically intimate with one another in war-like or competitive circumstances.

I'm pretty quiet about the fact I'm a transman usually, but holy shit I need to tell you about the culture shock I'm going through because it's blindsiding me.

There's a huge sense of social isolation that comes with being perceived as male, because now people are subconsciously treating me as a potential predator. All strangers, no matter their gender, keep their guard up around me.

It made me realize that there is no inherent camaraderie in male socialization as there is in female socialization—unless, of course, it's in very specific environments. And the fact I don't amnbiently experience this mutual kinship in basic exchanges anymore is an insanely lonely feeling.

You know how badly this would have fucked my mind up if I had grown up with this?

It is 4:30am and I'm mourning the loss of a privilege I didn't even know I had.

Anyway, I'm going to figure out how to navigate this. Don't know how yet, but I'm gonna.

Absolutely, because it's an extremely sticky issue.

Frankly, this is something I would've never understood without living the experience.

It's now blatantly clear to me that most cis men probably experience chronic emotional malnutrition. They're deprived of social connection just enough for it to seriously fuck with their psyches, but not enough for them to realize that it's happening and what's causing it.

It's like they're starving, but don't know this because they've always been served 3 meals...except those meals have never been big enough.

This deprivation comes from all sides of aisle, by the way.

In the case of women: When I'm out in public and interact with women, all of them come off as incredibly aloof, cold, and mirthless. I have never experienced this before even though I know exactly what this composure is—the armor that keeps away creepy-ass men.

As someone who used to wear it myself, I know this armor is 100% impersonal. Nobody likes wearing it, and I can say with absolute certainty that women would dump the armor in favor of unconditional companionship with men if doing this didn't run the risk of actual assault. (Trust me when I say women aren't just being needlessly guarded.)

But I only have a complete understanding of this context because I've experienced female socialization. If I hadn't, I would've thought this coldness was a conspiracy against me devised by roughly half of the human population. Even now, with all that I know about navigating the world as a woman, I'm failing to convince my monkey-brain that this armor isn't social rejection.

And as for male socialization? Again, it seems taboo for a man to be platonically intimate with men for reasons I have yet to fully understand, but I think it boils down to a) the fact society teaches boys that it's not okay to be soft with each other, and b) garden-variety homophobia. Our media only shows men being intimate with one another when they're teamed up against a dire situation, and I'd bet real money it's a huge reason why men gravitate toward activities that simulate being teamed up against an opposing force.

But men are not machines of war. Yes, testosterone absolutely gives you Dumb Bastard Brain, but that just makes you want to skateboard a wagon down a hill or duct-tape your friend to the wall, not kill someone.

The human species looks so much colder standing from this side.

I can see how men might convince themselves that their feelings of emotional desperation is personal weakness as opposed to a symptom they're all experiencing from White Imperialism. Because this human connection, this frith, is as essential for our wellbeing as water is.

So sick. How sick. I want to destroy this garbage.

#I think that’s why there’s that stereotype about men raised by or around women#because they actually know what it’s like to be around women who aren’t afraid and who value platonic intimacy#so they KNOW that it exists and they can get there#versus a ‘man’s man’ who doesn’t even realize it’s a concept#it’s a HUGE fucking problem

Guys who get mad at discussion of "toxic masculinity" don't understand that this is what it means. Grown men are conditioned to feel weird if they're too personable or too easygoing or otherwise too human. Humans evolved to want to be kind and happy and open but a mix of paranoid religious and military culture is devoted to mercilessly crushing healthy emotion in half the population.

head’s up that as mentioned in the TPoH post I’m visiting family for three days this week and taking it as an opportunity to be without internet for a while so yeah I haven’t died im just takin a break :’D tues to thurs I’ll be afk

head’s up that as mentioned in the TPoH post I’m visiting family for three days this week and taking it as an opportunity to be without internet for a while so yeah I haven’t died im just takin a break :’D tues to thurs I’ll be afk

“we were lovers in a past life” trope but the current incarnations are enemy-to-lovers trope. when. 

To be clear. I don’t want “our past love ended in betrayal and anger and now we hate each other.” I want “we died in love and in each other’s arms” but the current incarnations do NOT remember and they ARE trying their best to End the other one and these new sudden flashbacks to lovingly holding each other’s hands is EXTREMELY UPSETTING

pass the crab to your followers

*tosses the crab like a wedding bouquet*

Hi all -- newbies in particular, and newbies from tiktok extra in particular...

Please be aware that if you are tagging sensitive topics for the sake of other people's blacklists, you NEED TO SPELL THE WORD CORRECTLY.

Lets use the word "yellow" as an example. Let's say the word yellow means something horrible, and many people might want to filter it so that they don't see posts that mention or discuss anything to do with the word yellow.

If you tag the potentially triggering post as "y3llow" or "ye11ow" or "yell0w," then youre actually circumventing most peoples block lists. Youre making your post highly difficult to avoid by anyone who doesn't want to see that word. People have to add every possible spelling combination of the word "Y3770w" to their block lists, and even then, some that they haven't thought of will slip through their blocklist net and will give them an unpleasant surprise.

But if you just tag the post simply as "yellow," correctly spelled and with no creative letter replacements, then all anyone needs to do to avoid ever seeing that content is to add the word yellow to their blocklist.

For the love of God, PLEASE stop censoring sensitive topics in the tags. Youre not helping; youre actively hindering anyone who is trying to avoid potentially triggering topics.

Sisters

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might be my fav pixel frame currently.

Something I drew a few years ago.

we need more men in STEM (Stockings, Tight pants, Eyeliner, Mesh tops)

One Tab is simple and great if you're tab hoarder!!

Re the .webp blocker/interferer: THANKYOUTHANKYOUTHANKYOUOHGOD. :)

what’s the mood… for april?

artist: 이짜님