Your bio says all I need to know

Work is chaotic, life sucks, shit's tough. I'm alive though.

> People are the gender they say they are

X to doubt. Cope.

Assuming she's a real transwoman i.e. dysphoric, I'd consider her WLW because she's a woman, but not lesbian because that's for homosexual biological females. That's just my take on it.

I think you're good. There's a difference between not trying to pass, and actually looking like a feminine man, you know? Of course men can be effeminate but there's a difference between that and literally just looking like a woman because you don't have fucking dysphoria and are just a trender. So yeah, you're legitimate IMO.

When I said it's a mental illness I was using that as a blanket term for conditions that are handled by psychiatry, i.e. both neurodivergence and mental illness. Like I'd consider ADHD under the same blanket.

I'm not trans. I have had experiences with things I thought were gender dysphoria but turned out not to be. I hold my opinions on transcourse based off of psychology, psychiatry, and other current science.

Okay, good for you. I don't care what some rando on the internet thinks about other randos being better than me, especially since to you, I am also some rando on the internet.

Explain how I'm transphobic, please. Genuinely, I want to know what you consider transphobia.

I'm not gonna stop talking just because someone tells me to. Everyone has the right to share their own opinion. Immediately discounting it because that person isn't part of the group they're talking about, or is part of a different group, is textbook ad hominem fallacy.

TL;DR -- Cope.

I believe you need to be dysphoric to be trans. It follows logically that if they have true dysphoria, they're going to try to pass to alleviate that dysphoria if they're in a safe environment to do so. They're allowed to be themselves, of course. Thing is, they view themselves as the other sex or in rare cases neither, so "being themselves" is going to include passing or alleviating dysphoria in some way if they really are trans. That's just the way it is. Of course, if they're not in a safe environment to be able to transition socially or medically (e.g. a conservative household) then that's different.

TL;DR, if an actual dysphoric person has the full freedom to be themselves, they're going to try to be themselves, which means the self-image that alleviates their dysphoria the most.

What?

Is "gender" a feeling or a way you want to be seen?

Pick one. Is it internal or external? Because if it's "just a feeling" and not a disorder that needs treatment, then why do you need external social validation to feel confident in it, not to mention access to medical transition? And if it's just how you want to be seen, why can't you just... dress, act and look however you want, without trying to shove that into activism for LGB people or activism for people with genuine mental disorder they need treatment for (dysphoria)?

Gender is meaningless. There are two sexes and three types of dysphoria. If you just "feel less feminine" or "feel like a boy sometimes" and think you're trans because of it, maybe you should consider that "masculine and feminine" personality traits are all naturally combined in all humans and no one is ever one or the other. Also consider there are many, many reasons you might be uncomfortable with your body other than gender dysphoria, and they don't make you trans.

What do you mean by "gender is fluid"? Just explain it, please. What is "gender" to you? Because to me, it's meaningless outside of the context of dysphoria, so I don't get your point.

Now, I'm gonna address your misuse of a psychology term, because that's the only thing about this post that actually somewhat pisses me off (I'm a psychology nerd).

I don't have shit superiority complex. I know my opinions are of equal weight to everyone else's. I don't think I can fix the world's problems. I don't think I know everything. I don't drop friends for disagreeing with me, or hate anyone who doesn't believe the same shit I do. I don't think I matter more than anyone else.

I'm just sharing what I believe, and you can believe whatever you want to, and we can share both our sides and debate it. But you gotta realize that since this stuff is subjective, unlike provable facts, it's not going to be that simple. You can't Google what's right or wrong, or good or bad, or valid or ridiculous, and get a straightforward answer, in the same way you'd Google a math question. You have to form an opinion on it, and people form opinions on things based off their research and their surroundings and their personal beliefs and their personality traits formed by both their genetics and childhood environment. Obviously, everyone is different, but no opinion is "wrong." Behaviors can be bad. Opinions cannot. Beating up a tucute because you think their genderhoard is stupid is violent and not acceptable. Saying you think their genderhoard is stupid is fine. It's that simple.

Why are we not separating the communities into "outside of cis" and "outside of het" at least, rather than "outside of cishet"?

Gender-related debates and social issues being lumped in with sexuality-related debates and social issues actually regresses both communities. For example, if a lawmaker is progressive on LGB issues but not trans ones, lumping will just make them show support for neither one. Sure, still sucks that they aren't down with trans people, but isn't it better if at least one of the two is supported?

Additionally, if you're transmedicalist, you believe that gender dysphoria is a mental disorder and you have to have dysphoria to be trans. Step in my shoes for a sec -- imagine you believe this, and you see someone lumping in what you view as a mental disorder with gayness/bi-ness. Yeah. You can understand why I don't support that, right? Especially since gay and bi people were treated as perverts with paraphilias and forced into conversion "therapy" for ages, it's not good at all. The disorder rhetoric has been specifically used by homophobes to excuse their abusive "treatments." Conflating the LGB and the T is going to make former homophobes, who've just started to accept LGB, go back to their old ways of calling everything that isn't straight "crazy" and "not normal."

"Transness is a mental disorder" isn't downplaying that disorder, by the way. It's not disparaging. Mental issues in general need to be taken more seriously and given real attention in sociopolitical debates.

I want equality of opportunity, not "equity" or equality of outcome. In fact, capitalism is the only true egalitarianism. Affirmative action or "class-based taxation" are not egalitarian.

Some men and women will be rich; some men and women will be poorer. Some men and women will be programmers, others will be truckers, others will be teachers, others will be doctors, others will be nurses, others will be chefs. Free-market capitalism is egalitarian -- no matter who you are, what your skin color is, what's in your pants, or who you want to date (or have sex with), you can find your niche and work hard enough to sustain it.

"But what about systemic biases, like racism or sexism?" Easy. Remove the system, kill the systemic bias. Individual people will still have biases, of course, but it shouldn't affect economic success if large organizations (first and foremost the state) aren't interfering and regulating the economy. Shitty opinions only matter in that way when they're held and perpetuated and forced on others by people in authority.

Basically, get the state out of the economy, and get the state out of victimless crimes (like drug ownership and sale) to free up the economy to its maximum potential. Actually, just get the state out of most things in general, and we'll be fine. Minarchism!