Daily Affirmation 265.

Realizing that you’re aromantic can change you. Your interests can change, your tolerance for romance can change, your feelings about yourself can change. That doesn’t mean that what you felt before was wrong, and it doesn’t mean you’re fake or making trouble for yourself. It only means you are a fluid, changing person, and it is not bad to change because of your orientation.

This is a really important post to me, because so often I feel pressured by society to stay the same. Or if I’m going to change, if I’m going accept that I’m aro, then that shouldn’t really be a big deal and it shouldn’t change me.

But it really has. Realizing that I’m aro led to me realizing that I’m not really that interested in romance even as a concept. I used to think “well maybe I don’t like romance for me, but I like shipping, I like it in other people!” but that was just amatonormativity talking. (Disclaimer: of course, not everyone is this way, and it’s totally fine to be aro and still like romance of any kind! This is just something that happened with me, personally.)

Realizing that I’m aro made me accept myself the way I am. It meant that I didn’t have to force myself to like romance, or to pretend that I did. I used to be really into shipping, but I’m not anymore. I used to really wish for a romantic relationship, but I don’t anymore. I’ve always valued my friends, but being aromantic made me realize just how much they mean and matter to me, even more than I had previously thought.

Being aro can change you. You don’t have to stay the same as you were before you realized you were aro. You don’t have to be minimize your identity for the sake of others. You can care about it. You can change because of it. And that’s okay. You aren’t static, you are fluid. You can change.

(Side note: I feel kinda weird saying “this post is really important to me”, because I wrote it, but it’s true. I wish I’d heard this from someone else earlier, but I’m glad I can make this post now.)

(tw: sex mention)

i agree with this so much. this post is so important and i’m so happy that i saw it. i can relate to it a lot.

before i knew aromanticism existed, i was *alright* with romance. i read romantic fics, read a romance novel, didn’t mind romantic movies. it even made me happy, but over time that started to fade away.

i started noticing that i didn’t actually have interest in romance. whenever i read fics or watched romances, i would always look forward to the sex scenes the most (i’m very sex favorable), and i wasn’t sure why. then i found aromanticism through a past friend that was aroace, and so many things began to make sense.

when i finally fit the pieces together and discovered that i’m aro, things started changing. my tolerance for romance dropped even more, and soon i disliked it altogether. i think my past “interest” in romance was just internalized arophobia, because i had believed that romance was the most important and you know, “more than friends” (typing that made me cringe).

i can’t say that i enjoy being romance repulsed, because it gives me a good amount of stress, but this post made me embrace my repulsion a little bit more. i’ve had a much easier time accepting my aromanticism than my repulsion.

Daily Affirmation 241.

Grey aros, you are aro enough. You belong here.

Demiromantics, you are aro enough. You belong here.

Aroflux people, you are aro enough. You belong here.

Frayromantic people, you are aro enough. You belong here.

Cupioromantic people, you are aro enough. You belong here.

Anyone, regardless of the words they use, anyone whose words I do not know yet, absolutely anyone anywhere on the aro spectrum is enough. You are aro. You belong. In our community, in our spaces, in our conversations. You belong.

Daily Affirmation 188.

For those aros who do not hear it often enough: I am proud of you. I am proud of you for being a strong, vibrant, wonderful aro person. I am proud of you, because you are incredible, and you can do great things.

Daily Affirmation 184.

You aren’t required to fight. You aren’t required to be visibly, aggressively, openly aro. You are allowed to exist quietly, to protect yourself, to do whatever you need to feel comfortable and safe. 

Data don’t lie

If you are an Aromantic (or aro spectrum) Blog Reblog or Like this and I will add you to a masterlist

I really want to make an Aromantic Blog masterlist so that people can find as many blogs as they want, find blogs with different outlooks on things, and also so they can find blogs that suit their personality best. So if the majority of your posts are about aromantic things then reblog or like this post and I’ll make a masterlist~

Arospec Icons (2016)

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Fact: Due to their invisibility, the true colors of an aromantic is a source of constant debate.

Neurodivergent aromantics are so amazing and wonderful.

Thank you for existing.

i really wish platonic relationships were more important. i’m tired of losing friendships because i’m less important than their significant other. i hate that i’m automatically not as close to my friends because i’m not the person they’re dating/sleeping with. and i hate how whenever i complain about it the response is “you’ll find someone too someday!” like no I shouldn’t have to “find someone” to feel loved and important, maybe we should stop promoting investing all your time and effort and physical and emotional intimacy into one romantic/sexual partner idk

what’s even worse is talking about this and being told that’s just how friendship works. it makes me want to scream. no, if i make a commitment to a person, i want it to last. and that especially means friends. the most important people in my life are my friends and many of them don’t see me the same way. 

and i have one friend that i care about more than anyone else in the world. i would never want to date him, but he’ll always be my no.1. i worry that if i do ever have a significant other that they’ll be jealous and upset that i love one of my friends more than them. 

friends are so important and the world needs to stop acting like your partner is a magical being that completes you and becomes the only person you could ever need.

I love it when fiction refers to the formation of romance as “something else” rather than “something more” because yeah alright, romance can come from friendship and vice versa but by no means is the friendship any less powerful or beautiful. It’s just different.

Daily Affirmation 172.

You’re allowed to mourn the loss of friendships and other nonromantic relationships. Your loss isn’t less than the loss of someone’s romantic relationship.

From me to every aromantic out there:

You matter.

You’re real.

You’re valid.

You’re wonderful.

You’re not a burden.

You’re amazing.

Daily Affirmation 162.

Your aro identity is not the same as straightness. Your aro identity is not straight. Even if you are heterosexual and aromantic, your identity is not accepted as straight by straight people. Your aro identity does not make you straight.

Shout out to aro mlm and ace mlm, you deserve some recognition and positivity 💚💜

Respect aromantic and asexual people.

We are here.

We exist.

This world is not suited for us.

We have some serious struggles.

Our hardships are more than just “you get called plants/robots”.

Respect that. Respect our voices. Respect our fight.

Just please respect us. Let us talk. Let us exist in peace.

Don’t hate us like the rest of society.

Someone: *flirts with me* Me: I’m an unromanceable companion sorry