INFO DUMP

i'm just thinking abt how many providers i've had who heard my story abt psychiatric abuse + immediately individualized it. "oh, you're so smart + kind+ obviously sane! you didn't deserve that! i can't believe they gave you that diagnosis when you're obviously not like that! they shouldn't have treated u like that when all you did was xyz! they shouldn't have assumed you were crazy like that!"

there is always a third person haunting this interaction- the patient who does deserve that, who is "actually" that evilscary diagnosis, who did Have To be treated like that. if i want to soak up the affirmations of these providers, i must be careful to never become this third person. i must affirm myself by setting myself apart from her- i did not deserve to be treated like that because i am not like that.

i reject this. not only was i like that, she + everyone else like that deserve everything i deserve. they are my siblings + my friends + my lovers. i do not need to cut them out of me to believe i deserved better. i refuse to comfort myself through the lens of someone else's dehumanization. the tragedy is not that psychiatric violence was applied to someone who not insane enough to warrant it. the tragedy is the violence.

Person-first language sucks for disability, because it erases how fundamental our disabilities are to our lives, but I think it's vital when referring to other groups who are stigmatized in society, particularly in discussions about the prison industrial complex.

"prisoners/inmates" › "people who are imprisoned"

"felons" › "people charged with felonies"

"death row inmates" › "people who are going to be executed by the state"

Like a big part of the prison industrial complex is dehumanizing its victims, refusing to acknowledge their personhood. They aren't people, they're prisoners. They aren't people, they're criminals. They aren't people, they're felons.

We have to make an ACTIVE EFFORT to shut that shit down, remind ourselves and each other that we aren't talking about statistics or vague "criminals", we are talking about human beings locked up in concrete boxes or shot down by police on the street or strapped into a chair to die.

We are normal and can be trusted with large amounts of money

ITS NOT DEMONS GUYS I PROMISE

All Trans men are men, but not all Trans men aren’t women.

All Trans women are women, but not all Trans women aren’t men.

Gender can be far more complex and less binary for many folks 💗

Anyways, support people with low/no empathy, sympathy, and/or compassion.

Those things are not required to be a good person, and nobody should feel like those things are a requirement in life.

you know i feel like a lot of discourse around trans men's identity and oppression would be solved if the people trying to argue against us realized you cannot separate a trans person's gender identity from their transgender experiences

like, guess what chucklenuts, "man" is a gender that transgender people can be and that doesn't contradict or erase the trans part. they work in tandem !!!! they're frequently bought together do not separate !!!!!

you can't take the GENDER out of the transGENDERism just because you decided the gender in question is "the bad one" !!!!!!!

Tragic queer coded movies, that came out before I was even born, will be the death of me

thank fucking god im t4t . thank fuck . i love trans people so much

if you have a confusing gender you can just come on over and kiss me on the lips right now

these tags are stuck in my head now (x)

If there’s one thing Steddie fans will do it’s have them fall asleep together. Those motherfuckers LOVE to nap.

One way to be an ally to disabled queer people:

If you want to attend a pride event, ask about their accessibility plans and policies.

Ask about their covid policies. Ask if they are accessible to mobility aid users. Ask if they will have strobe lights, if there will be bathrooms, if there is water. Make the event planners consider who they may have left out, even if the person being left out isn't you. Have your friends ask as well. Help create a demand. Help get conversations started. Help people see where things could be more accessible.

Because when we, the disabled, ask these questions? We're much more likely to get ignored, and much less likely to be heard when we raise hell.

So help us raise hell when we need it. Demand to know why your local Pride event isn't requiring masks, or is charging for water, or doesn't have wheelchair ramps, or whatever other accessibility issue you catch.

Stop leaving us behind. We need your fucking help.

Some other things you could ask about:

- Will there be places to sit? (CFS, limited mobility, long Covid sometimes, many heart conditions…)

- Will the event be kept smokefree and vaporfree? (Asthma, allergies, pregnancy, ppl trying to quit…)

- How loud will it be? (Autism, sensory issues, PTSD…)

- How close is the nearest restroom? And how many are there? For big events, the lines can be long if there’s only one or two! (Crohn’s, overactive bladder…)

These are some things that I notice get overlooked a lot when accessibility planning - but definitely not a complete list!

The Duffers: Okay, so you’re Steve’s rival, right? You two have tension over being Dustin’s older-brother figure. You’re jealous. You might even want to be a little mean to Steve, you got that?

Joseph Quinn: 20k words, rivals to lovers, sexual tension, clothes swapping, queer awakenings, slow burn-