Trivia for To Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything! Julie Newmar (1995) dir Beeban Kidron

Happy 90th Birthday Julie Newmar

Let good thoughts be your sword and shield

Yoshitaka Amano “A Midsummer Night's Dream“ Printmaking & Acryllic, 2006

Gabbeh designs, Zollanvari carpets

Return From Witch Mountain, 1978

One of my faves. Incredible how many horror icons in the ‘70s were so accessible to kids. Instant Monster Kid creator.

the paths

kids remind me, often, of the things i've taught myself out of.

i have a big dog. he looks like a deer. he is taller than most young children. while we were on a trail the other day, a boy coming our direction saw us and froze. he took a step back and said: "i'm feeling nervous. your - your dog is kind of big."

goblin and i both stopped walking immediately. "he is kind of a big dog," i admitted. "he's called a greyhound. they are gentle but they are pretty tall, which is kind of scary, you're right. their legs are so long because they are made for running fast. i am sorry we scared you. would you like us to stand still while you move past us, or would you feel more safe in your body if we move and you stay still?'

"oh. i didn't know that about - greyhounds. i think i ... i want to stay still," he said. at this point, his adult had caught up to us. "i'm nervous about the dog," he told her, "so i'm - i'm gonna stay still." she didn't argue. she didn't make fun of him. she just smiled at him and at me and held his hand while goblin and i, with as wide of a berth as we could make, crept our way through.

behind us, i heard him exhale a deep breath and kind of laugh - "he was really big, huh? she said it's because greyhounds have to go fast."

"he was big," she said. "i understand why that could have made you a little scared."

"yeah. next time i - next time do you think i could maybe ask to touch him? when - i mean, next time, maybe, if i'm not nervous."

later, going to a work event, in the big city, i stood outside, trembling. my social anxiety as a caught bird in my chest. i took a deep breath and turned to my coworker. she's not even really my friend yet. i told her: "i feel nervous about this. i am not used to meeting new people, ever since covid."

she laughed, but not in a mean way. she said she was nervous too. she reached her hand out and held mine, and we both took another deep breath and walked in like that, interlinked. a few people asked us - together? - and i told the truth: i feel nervous, and she's helping. over and over i watched people relax too, admitting i feel really kind of shy lately actually, thank you for saying that.

the next time i go to an event, and i feel a little scared, i ask right away: wanna hold hands? this feels a little dangerous. i hesitate less. i don't hide it as much. i watch for other people who are also nervous and say - it's kinda hard, huh?

i know, logically, i'm not good at asking for help. but i am also not good at noticing when i need help. i've trained myself out of asking completely, but i've also trained myself to never accept my own fears or excuses. i have trained myself to tamp down every anxiety and just-push-through. i don't know what i'm protecting myself from - just that i never think to admit it to anyone.

but every person on earth occasionally needs comfort. every person on earth occasionally needs connection. many of us were taught independence is the same thing as never needing anything.

each of us should have had an adult who heard - i feel nervous and held our hand and asked us how we could be helped to feel safe. no judgement, and no chiding. many of us did not. many of us were punished for the ways that we seemed "weak".

but here is something: i am an adult now. and i get nervous a lot, actually. and if you are an adult and you are feeling a little nervous - come talk to me. we can hold hands and figure out what will help us feel safe in our bodies. and maybe, next time, if we're brave, we can pet the dog that's passing.

this is just beautiful from beginning to end

wake up babe, new reason to ditch FANDOM/Wikia just dropped

Previosuly

Alternative free wiki hostings (aka wiki farms)

Other free options I'm aware of are either too limited in allowed content or are very outdated/unstable in technical department to recommend here (or in case of Neoseeker - I'm completely unfamiliar with it, and can't say anything about it), but you still can check them out, alongside paid hostings, on this MediaWiki page.

If you (or your community) are brave and dedicated enough you can go with self-hosted MediaWiki instance (aka independent hosting), like JoJo Wiki (who started on Wikia and succeed at overtaking the SEO) or NIWA wikis. This option, of course, requires funding and technical knowledge, but it's still very much possible.

How to find existing alternative/independent wikis

Fuck FANDOM, support real people, support indie wikis

"He would not fucking say that" does not apply to Yoda. You could write the most batshit sentence and I could see him saying it if only to fuck with someone

Now. "He would not fucking say that seriously" does apply here

@ashley-slashley

I hate that you're probably right I fucking hate it here

@canichangemyblogname

sdjsj stop I'm fucking cackling

"Contact my secret network of Jedi across Coruscant, I will. Tracing your IP as we speak, I am."

Post that have 10K notes in my heart.

Give it a minute.

No

Sassy radishes 🥬

𝗏𝗂𝖺 mignonettetakespictures

Stockings a là radish. What a muse!

Ok while we are talking about treating trans people as humans and not as sexual objects can we talk about assumptions of what genitals we have?

Yeah trans people get the “what’s in your underpants hehe” questions from cishet people all the time but like.. some of y’all also make assumptions while trying to be supportive? Like, I really need y’all to understand that there are trans women with vaginas and trans men with penises. You simply cannot treat all trans women as though they have a girldick and you cannot treat all trans men like they have a boypussy. Gender Affirming Surgery has been around longer than most of you were even a twinkle in your daddy’s eye (literally the 1950s, making bottom surgery 70 years old) and some of you still act like there isn’t a significant portion of trans people who have had it or have a goal to get it.

It’s totally fine to not want to get it/be no-op, but I have also met trans women who have confided with me that they have severe bottom dysphoria but do not want to undergo GAS because they are worried partners will be disappointed by it. And that’s fucking sad. I just feel like the commodification of trans bodies as a fetish has led to this idea that what genitals you have determines if you are trans or not, which is just ridiculous. It’s the same transphobic rhetoric that people use to justify not dating trans people because of “genital preference” when they literally have no clue what genitals a trans woman or man has.

All vaginas are good vaginas, and all penises are good penises. There aren’t more real or more fake genitals, just the ones you have.

twitter dying has only being bringing me pain and missery, as over the last 3 years it had become my primary way of finding work

due to…. the everything, i had find myself struggling more than normal this last few months

so im oppening commissions and also im taking donations from anyone that would like to help me stay afloat

im leaving the link to my paypal profile in here too! due to the debts i have i sorta need to make 700$usd a month just to not be send to the shadow realm

it would help me a lot if people could reblog this post! and thank you so much if you read it!

The Queer Architect - Bound to Modernity

(Owe Zerge, Ludwig Mies van der Rohe)

Street Life

the ocean at sunset is the most beautiful thing

I think the reason conservatives hate environmentalism so much is that all the terminology is too friendly and lame sounding to take seriously. I purpose we change the following terms to get these people on our side.

Solar powered -> Plasma charged

Wind power -> Vortex energy

Electric vehicle -> Lightning machine

Renewable resource -> Infinity asset

Greenhouse gasses -> Death Clouds

Global warming -> Property devaluation

Environmentalists -> Wilderness cops

For example, saying you're a wilderness cop that drives a lightning machine powered by infinity assets to reduce death clouds and increase your property value sounds 100x more macho than the alternative.

Genuinely though, conservatives will overwhelmingly support something with a different name. I’ve seen it hundreds of times. They’re like babies this way.

"Infinity asset" kinda kicks ass

clouds !

i feel like if you stabbed an angel the blood trail would look like this