Peter Capaldi as the TWELFTH DOCTOR
DOCTOR WHO — The Witch’s Familiar
femboydegenerate
BREAKING NEWS: disabled person finds out for the 1000th time that their disability is indeed disabling
positivestress
I wish I was a female tiger because then if I was talking to someone and I was getting off topic I could say “but I tigress,” and then kill and eat them because I am a tiger
Coyote found a squeaky toy I accidentally left outside. Turns out coyote love squeaky toys too.
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i saw a man at work the other day wearing a shirt that said "i was normal 2 pomeranians ago" with pictures of his pomeranians on it. important to note he had his pomeranians in his cart
artists rendition (i forgot to add the poms on his shirt but you get the gist)
Every time someone makes an artist's rendition of a weird little guy they saw in public instead of recording them without consent, an angel gets it's wings.
Couples t shirts that say “I bet on losing dogs” and “losing dog”
idk when we decided that explaining yourself shouldn't be part of an apology but like. if someone was a dick to me and apologizes but I still don't understand why they did it I'm not gonna feel any better
"Sorry for hurting your feelings earlier. I was trying to say x, but I guess it came across wrong. I don't think you're stupid."
or
"Sorry I snapped at you. I didn't get enough sleep last night so my patience is a little low today."
is a better apology than
"I want you to know that I am sorry that my actions offended you. I take full accountability for my actions and I am listening and learning. I hear you."
A helpful 12 components to include for an effective apology by Dr. Kirk Honda:
1. Acknowledge the transgression
2. Acknowledge the harm
3. Take responsibility
4. Sincerely express remorse
5. Explain the cause without making excuses
6. Provide a plan to address the cause
If necessary:
7. Offer a remedy
8. Request confirmation of accuracy
9. Request forgiveness
10. Follow through with remedy and plan
11. Find meaning
Podcast episode about the components on YouTube here
i feel like the above can feel kind of clinical so here’s an example of how to use it without all the self help speak or therapy speak or whatever you wanna call it:
“hey i’m really sorry i missed your birthday party. i know i promised i was gonna be there. i had a family emergency i had to take care of but i should have texted to let you know what happened. i really wish i could have been there. can i take you out for lunch to make up for it?”
or something more serious:
“i shouldn’t have lashed out at you last night when you brought up chores. i was really tired and you caught me off guard, and i should have just asked if we could talk today instead. now that i’ve had some sleep and am in a better headspace, can we talk about it again?”
Anonymous asked:
Can you tell me why Frodo is so important in lotr? Why can't someone else, anyone else, carry the ring to mordor?
but someone else could.
that’s the whole point of frodo—there is nothing special about him, he’s a hobbit, he’s short and likes stories, smokes pipeweed and makes mischief, he’s a young man like other young men, except for the singularly important fact that he is the one who volunteers. there is this terrible thing that must be done, the magnitude of which no one fully understands and can never understand before it is done, but frodo says me and frodo says I will.
(when boromir is thinking of how he can use the ring to defend gondor, when aragorn is thinking of how it brought down proud isildur, when elrond is holding council and gandalf is thinking of how twisted he would become, if he ever dared—)
but then there’s frodo, who desires nothing except what he has already left behind him, and says, I will take the Ring.
it is an offer made out of absolute innocence, utter sincerity. It is made without knowing what it will make of him—and frodo loses everything to the ring, he loses peace and himself and the shire, he loses the ability to be in the world. It’s cruel, the ring is cruel, it searches out every weakness you have and feeds on it, drinks you dry and fills you with its poison instead, the ring is so cruel.
and frodo picks it up willingly. for no other reason except that it has to be done.
(the ring warps boromir into a hopeless grasping dead thing, the power of the palantir turns denethor into an old man, jealous and suspicious, it bends even saruman, once the proudest of the istari, into a mechanised warlord, sitting in his fortress and bent over his perverse creations—all the best of intentions, laid waste)
but there’s a reason gollum exists in the narrative, which is to show—well, to show what frodo might have been. because even as frodo grows mistrustful and wearied, as the burden of this ring grows heavier and heavier, he is never gollum. he is gentle to gollum. he is afraid—god frodo is so afraid for 2/3 of these books he is so tired and afraid, but he keeps moving, he walks though it would pull him into the ground, because he asked for this, he said he would.
someone else could have carried the ring to mordor, I suppose. the idea of a martyr is not dependent on the particular flesh and blood person dying for some greater purpose. but such a thing has to be chosen, lifted onto your shoulders for the right reason, the truest reasons, and followed into the dark, though it would see you burnt through and bled out.
I will take the Ring, though I do not know the way.
y'know say what you want about tumblr (and I have), but this is still probably the simplest and most powerful distillation of the heart of the Lord of the Rings I’ve ever read. I think back to it all the time
obsessed with this. theres something so wrong with him.
They deserve an Emmy.
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I … I need a moment.
I love this actually
Look I know radically accepting rest and a lack of productivity is the only way to fix our broken ass society, but as a physically disabled person with a chronic illness, i hate you rest. I hate you recovery. I hate you ten hours of sleep a night. I hate you sitting in bed. I hate you never having time to do anything because I'm always resting. I hate you always being tired. I hate you not being able to sleep if I overdo it. I hate you having to rest after literally just walking to the bathroom. I hate you chronic illness and I hate you medical neglect and I hate you inaccessible society and I hate you ableism and I hate hate hate it all
