the money part is easy. 2023 is the year of finesse. elevated everything.

building upon my foundation of ambition with strong aesthetics. refining my look. refining my branding. refining my presence.

calculated marketing toward a specific clientele geared towards long term investment.

back to the drawing board 🥰

Do me a favor okay? Stop trying to go back to who you were before. Before you were raped, before you got sick before an eating disorder took over your life. stop trying to be who you were five, ten, twenty years ago. Before the mental illness took over, before he died, back before your parents split or you lost your best friend.

You are NOT the same person as before. You never will be again. Give up the idolization of “before” and be who you are now. Be the you AFTER.

by coolurbanhippie

Gold Digger’s Seduction

The Right Target

The Difference between a single and a married target

Make him feel smart

Own your imperfections

Understand a targets’ fears and weakness

You don’t need to ‘grow up’

Make your Vision Board visible

Treat’m mean to keen’m keen!

Change it up and make him feel good

When you get called out

Marriage

Source: THE GOLD DIGGER’S GUIDE TO SEDUCTION: UNFAIR, UNDERHANDED AND DOWNRIGHT SHAMELESS TIPS TO GETTING THE MAN WITH MONEY by Eve Rabi

I am the most powerful person in the room.

Toni Morrison: Navigating a white male world was not threatening. It wasn't even interesting. I was more interesting than they were.

How to get any guy to come to you freestyling..

Or in any situation really.

If you notice a guy who has potential or you’re attracted to, the best thing you can do is eye contact. Not random but purposeful and distracting eye contact that sends a message.

Example: You are in a bar and see a man across the way, expensive suit, hot, ect ect. If he’s not glancing at you yet every now and then (he should be you’re hot as fuck) look in his general direction (not straight at him) until you see him look your way. Then clearly lock eyes, smile and look down still smiling. Don’t look to the side it shows disinterest like your passing over them for the next guy or not seeing them at all.

Now his interest should be piqued. Keep your peripherals open so you can tell when he’s looking at you again and do the same thing, with small changes in reaction. Sometimes a small wink or tilt of head or a slight smile with longer eye contact. Nothing over the top. It’s all about the obvious but small body language. 2 or 3 times of this I guarantee he will come over to buy you a drink.

Guys usually don’t approach you in a bar purely because they are worried about getting rejected. Showing them that your welcome to them approaching at that time will increase the chances of them meeting you. And it’s not obvious so if he’s a douche and you want to continue searching, you’re not announcing to the whole room your intentions by walking up to random dudes.

this is my forte

Sugaring in 2018

 Listen, babes, sugaring has moved on! As technology, media and laws change, so does the industry to the point where half of the advice we were reading in 2017 is now obsolete! There is a reason why the bowl has been dry and salty recently… all of the Sugar Daddies have left it. 

First of all…

Get the hell off of Seeking Arrangement, What’s Your Price and Miss Travel. Not only will nothing good come from them, they are dangerous. In the US, Seeking Arrangement has been subject to several VICE stings and SBs are being arrested for solicitation and prostitution. 

Now, let’s talk about how the demand for Sugar Babies has changed. SDs have always used us as arm candy, as accessories to show off with. All they used to need was someone young and beautiful to tick this box - and now? The market has been flooded. There’s a different breed of Sugar Baby that is getting work, and she doesn’t use Tumblr or any of those trash websites. Bye bye, Brandon Wade. 

I’m about to let you in on one of the best kept whore secrets of the year: 

Instagram. 

Instagram girls are the new super models that these SDs originally looked for. It sounds unreliable, but bare with me. There are companies and assistant services who actively scour Instagram for girls to be companions to filthy rich men. Luxury concierges will recruit beautiful girls from modelling agencies and from Instagram to attend yacht parties or clubs with their clients. Surely you have seen those accounts of model like girls who always seem to be on luxury holidays with no clear source of income? Well, secret’s out. 

So how do you become one of these girls?

It all depends on how much work you’re willing to put in. At a bare minimum, you need to start working on your Instagram account. Your pictures need to be flawlessly edited, professional or professional looking, and depict a mix of yourself and some “luxury lifestyle” pics (these are easy to fake, with some artfully arranged home cooked food and good lighting). You need to show your face and full body, even if you use a fake name. Stick the word “model” in your bio and you’re good to go. Followers aren’t a huge issue - you can still get clients without many - but to boost your chances you might want to buy a few thousand and some likes, too. Drop your Insta in the replies and you can help each other out by following each other.

The real secret is this: the elite have a very strict circuit of destinations and events that they seek companionship for. You need to target those destinations. 

Obviously, a great way to do this is to hop on a flight - but we can’t all do that. So how do we get around it? Tag yourself in those destinations and wait to be spotted. Keep your private messages open!

The high point in this industry is summer, so here’s a little cheat guide to some good destinations and times: 

So what do these concierges offer when they spot you? Luxury travel, all expense paid trips and thousands a night. Now a warning to some of the more naive babies… this is still sex work. You need to take your security and sexual health seriously, and while they are not all intimate bookings it is less likely that clients (or realistically their assistants) will specify if they are or not. This is not for the faint-hearted or the shy babes amongst us… you might be playing golf with a sheikh one night and find yourself at an orgy on a super-yacht the next. There will be drugs that you may feel pressured into taking. But be prepared and be careful, and this could be the most lucrative hustle of your life! How else can I find a sugar daddy? Not all of us have the look (read: we’re not all skinny model types) or the nerve to be an Instagram party girl. It sucks, but it’s not the end of the world. There are still two big avenues open to us: Escorting/stripping first- I know dozens of girls who have turned regulars into SDs. These men are already comfortable with paying for transactional sex, so are way more likely to make the jump to SD, and there’s none of that “freebie” bullshit to begin with. Plus, you have a steady income to live on until that happens! I know I don’t shut up about it, but switching to escorting was the smartest thing I ever did. Tip - be careful with stripping as so many clubs have rules about meeting customers outside the club. Freestyling - Always faithful, always has its downsides. If you’re comfortable becoming a spoiled girlfriend more than a sugar baby, this is your way to go. I won’t write a guide on this - hundreds exist - but I will say that Tinder is also freestyling because it sets you up for a traditional dating sitch. As always, my inbox is open for advice! xo Arianne 

This advice is glorious!

Signal Boost, what she is talking about with Instagram is IMAGE WORK and it is a hidden industry. As it should be. When you do image work you need to be careful, and it Is. Not. For. Beginners.

You get all the details. And make sure you get paid up front. None of this, some some, some after nonsense.

People who run these agencies store your photos in a catalogue, perhaps without permission. This post almost feels like a written advertisement. Do your homework on image work. I’m sure there are nice gigs, but you need to know there’s a dark side.

Don’t get exposed. Stay safe.

Don’t let these men call you their girlfriend

Something that’s been sitting on my heart for a minute now (thank you current sponsor for that discussion and who just doesn’t fucking get it). Men in this lifestyle are so quick to call us girlfriend, say we’re in a relationship, introduce us (or want to be introduced themselves) to family. It actually really ticks me off cause there needs to be a lot done before then for me to be able to agree to all that. These men will take you on dates, love to be with you, and expect sex, but won’t invest a lot in you. I expect equality of the sexes.

Let me be clear: if we are together and are at two different tax brackets, you’re not my man.

Period.

If you are eating $500 meals three times a day and I still have to budget my groceries, you’re not my man.

If you just bought your sixth home and I’m late on rent AGAIN, you’re not my man.

If your garage is filled with foreign cars and I’m still paying a car note, you’re not my man.

If you want to go on luxury vacations and get upset with me because I have to work two jobs to make ends meet and can’t get or afford the time off, you’re not my man.

The only way you become my man is either by lowering yourself to my quality of life or elevating me to yours. Thassit. No way in hell am I introducing you to my family, being in love, doing all that girlfriend shit for a man who sees me struggle, is comfortably in a position to make sure I never struggle again, and just...doesn’t. You are my sponsor, my client, my almost-friend (cause even a friend will do something for you) until you elevate me to your tax bracket, cause let’s be real, these men are not lowering themselves for women.

It honestly baffles the entire shit out of me when men and even sometimes women don’t understand this. How would the relationship work? If we get married and have kids and whatnot, will you be living the high life while I struggle? No! Will you be vacationing in 5 star hotels while I’m just renting out the cheapest Airbnb? No! It’s equality in a relationship. Not saying we have to have the exact same income or the exact same wealth, but definitely we should have at least similar quality of life. If not, you’re not my man ✌️

Black women are the only group who have to worry whether a man from their race will date them 

ngl this is why I’m sometimes so skittish around black males in the club even though I’ve gotten A LOT better at giving them a chance (I’ve met some nice, not angry or aggressive ones here and there). Most black males DO date within their race actually, BUT they are theee LOUDEST about shitting on the women of their own race, it is what it is. I feel like of that group of black males that does date within their race, if given a choice, some of them wouldn’t…but that’s probably a general male thing? On the other hand, black women are damn near hardwired to stay within their race bc no one else can really understand the everyday trauma/social anxiety of being black aside from another black person and that trauma is always worse for females…there’s an automatic comfort and security in staying in your race for black women (like, actual BUUUHHLACK women, not the ones the internet has to tell people are black because they look like Zendaya or Halsey ok).

Ideally, if I don’t turn to total lesbianism or something bc I find males in general so unattractive, I’d be with a black man, however I’m way too lazy to be bothered with whether or not I’m ‘suitable enough’ for the average (I mean AVERAGE) black male. I’d always rather take nothing/peace of mind over being conflicted with the very strange black masculinity that always seems to come across in the most uncomfortable way…a way that makes some black women ‘give up’ I guess? I mean the mind is the most powerful organ in the body bc if you BELIEVE something to be true, it’s true–even if it’s not. I’ve had moments when I really believed certain males wouldn’t like me bc I’m a black girl/dark skinned and it just wasn’t the case and I lost money over it. Taking chances on people is always a risk, but it seems to be so much riskier if you’re a black woman bc less people care about black women in general or have to be TOLD to care (as opposed to other races that have a sort of default ‘protection’ or ‘leeway’ against aggression). It’s all so damn exhausting to even THINK about.

Dear Princess,

Refrain from using high standard woman mannerisms on low standard men. These men think they can get something for nothing, and they will attempt to take advantage of you if they see you as naive due to your age, job nature or personality.

What you practice on one type of person won’t always apply on the next.

I cannot count how many times I’ve had men try to manipulate me out of what I deserve and guilt trip me for “growing up to be a gold digger.” This goes for other ladies working dusty jobs!

🚨🚨 Please, please don’t allow anyone to negotiate your worth because you’re afraid of hurting everyone else’s feelings except yours! Also, catch yourself if you feel you’re being lead into a dangerous situation! Those mistakes can be fatal!🚨🚨

Let “life lessons” you hear from dusty men go in one ear and out the other. I’ve heard countless stories about “the gold digger” and “the poor man” having his heart broken because she’s soo relentless in taking half of his cardboard box and $5. When they do this, they’re attempting to condition you to go for men like them because they’re smarter than the rich man who’d allow himself to be swindled by a money hungry woman. Those stories are so generic!

Do not sympathize with low standards. If you hear a sentence that begins with “well,” or a sad story, you know your energy will be on a rollercoaster. For ladies that have customer service or retail jobs that cater to people with low standards, any story you hear is a learning lesson on what you don’t want and will never have.

Simply, low standard men aren’t the bullseye I want to hit.

Also, don’t argue over standards online or in person!!

Do not be swayed by money being dangled on a fishing rod. On one hand, someone may be offering you money benevolently while on the other it’s construed as you’ll do anything for money. You ARE NOT desperate for a $20 bill, even $100. Low quality men aren’t your friends, mentor or target.

Do put your self esteem into question. Ask yourself if your self esteem makes you feel if the only things you deserve is $20 and to be a poor man’s fantasy.

Do not seek out compliments. Compliments are not currency. If I hear how nice I look from a low standard person, I am doing something very wrong. I can inflate my ego myself!

Do receive compliments sparingly. Considering your age, compliments can be very flattering and as a result used as a means of control.

Coming out Saturday is “Dressing Like the Paparazzi is Following You,” for ladies who feel their looks of the day aren’t up to par for what they deserve!

Luxury is a feeling!!

your environment is a merciless mirror of your thoughts.

change your thoughts & your environment will change. there is no such thing as a slow period…unless you believe there is. your ethnicity does not limit you, unless you think it does. I am often told to consider the “reality” of being a black escort…that my white counterparts will always make more than me because they are white…I am told this is the “reality”. 

To that belief I say: it is “reality” and “truth” ONLY to the person focuses so much on it that it has manifested again and again for them. I don’t focus on those things ever. It doesn’t serve me. It’s a counterproductive belief to me. 

I choose to believe that I will get whatever I want, the “how” doesn’t concern me. I don’t permit myself to be submerged in a suffocating sea of misdirection; I am choosy about who I listen to. I mute so many girls on Twitter. I unfollow so many blogs of people complaining & making excuses. 

My mentors in this industry are women who have earned $100k a month. That is who I gather “truth” and “reality” from. In being in such close communication with these women I have learned that they are not special in ANY way except in the way they think. 

$10K in a night, easy. Securing a sponsor & credit card, done. Earning $60k from weekend dates & mutiple overnights, piece of cake. Leaving this industry a millionaire, more than possible. 

I have mentors because I will learn from their mistakes and fasttrack my success. It will take me half the time to achieve what they have achieved, and that will make them proud. In fact, I intend to surpass their success. 

I expect more good out of life than bad. I expect to succeed more than I expect to fail. 

Men are wonderful. I am wonderful. Sex is wonderful.

on becoming specific

I have begun to realise without specifics you get the default settings in life. you get the default men. the default lifestyle. the default home. whatever your current alignment is there is a default point of attraction. now within this default you might experience a little contrast as you get clearer on what you want. 

for instance today: I woke up at 8.32a, set my segment intention to have coffee before my private pilates class. I set my intention to reach the coffee house safely, have my small almond milk cappuccino, add MCT oil/monkfruit sweetners, cacao powder to taste & read my Sayles book until my class at 10a. 

Along the journey (actually while reading) I decided to implement something Sayles said. Make it point never to leave the house without a little makeup. I thought for a moment and decided I would like to be the kind of woman for whom this is a true statement. 

So at 9.46a, I went to a convenience store bought some mascara & applied it to my lashes and brows lightly. A man saw me doing so and said, “you don’t need that stuff” and smiled. I smiled knowing his intention was good, but knowing more that I am the kind of woman who puts in the extra effort. I instantly felt better, not necessarily more attractive but more in alignment with who I am. 

I arrived to class a few minutes early and finished primping, tied my hair up, removed my jewellery and proceeded to have an excellent class.

I was soaring. After class, I went to my favourite health food store and bought healthy snacks that would keep me in ketosis while satisfying my cravings. Returned home to tidy up and realised this morning has gone just as I desired it to go. I feel amazing. That is the point of all of this, to be so specific that your desires are filled and you come into true alignment with who you are. 

Its not to say things don’t happen, they do. For instance a client flaked on a 3h date last night, I sent him a notice of my policy and he has 24h to adhere to my policy or I blacklist him. Simple. Just move forward. Reach for those good feeling thoughts. In the same 24h, a client booked an overnight for next week bringing me 48% of the way to my weekly goal BEFORE the week has started. THIS is the power being specific.

I am happy and grateful now that reality shapes and moulds itself upon the model of my imagination. 

same day booking fees >

if he’s horny enough he will pay. 🥰

Journal

There are black sex workers out here with a whole burnt arm, advertising themselves online and I'm too afraid to take photos with my current weight...

Maaaaan, I've got to step it up...

I mean, I want to believe there is a market for everyone, and there probably is, but I want to be in a market that brings in whales...