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The Mirror System

@anewalterappears

Main posters: Isaac/Jason/Isabel

Dear adulty parts:

Hi, it's us, the younger ones. Yeah, kinda weird way to reach out to you, I know, but please listen.

There's a lot of stuff out there talking about "how to heal your inner child" and "how to take care of the angry, mistrustful teen inside of you." So much stuff focuses on how, you know, us younger ones are the ones with trauma. We hold the memories. We have the flashbacks. And so on

I know you don't like to admit it, but you're part of this fragmented and struggling person too. You're affected by stuff just as much as we are. You just show it different--instead of having flashbacks, you get exhausted instead. Or you start having a lot of body pain that you can't really explain. The body keeps the score and stuff

It's okay for you to need support and help too. It isn't just us younger ones who are "allowed" to have needs, you also have needs and limits and I know it's hard to see yourself as someone worth taking care of. Even though you take care of us younger ones all the time.

(You dissociate from us so it feels like "taking care of someone else" which you're good at, right? You think you're being so tricky, finding a mental loophole to take care of us <3 )

I may not know what you need, or understand how to take care of you the way you take care of us. (I may not even be capable of that, and you may not be capable of accepting it anyway.) But I know you're very very good at being capable, and responsible, and caring. So please use that for yourself too. Please look after yourselves the way you look after us. Your wellbeing is important too. You deserve nice things. You deserve to rest.

Love you lots, Your kiddos