my name is roman, it/he/that. im bigender and demifluid, [mascfem boy].
Demialterous culture is wanting to get feelings again after not having them for a long time but then getting them and thinking "HELL NO"
New word: Xush
Xush (pronounced “zush”): umbrella term for “crushes”; word for a non-specific crush. alternative to calling them all “crushes”, since that can get confusing since crush is already used for a specific type of crush (romantic). Spelt with an x to indicate the non-specificity of it.
Example uses:
Ex. 1: “I have a xush on [character]!” “Oh, what kind?” “I don’t know exactly, but it sure is a xush!”
Ex. 2: “Crushes, squishes, and meshes are three types of xushes that are usually based on emotional feelings”
to all oriented aroaces, aspec people who label their tertiary attraction, and other peeps of these sorts: when asked about your orientation by non-aspec people, what do you say?
I wish Tumblr had a poll function, but this'll do 🍃
please choose one (or more I guess) of the following...
a.) just aroace / any other aspec identity
b.) just as my tertiary label (gay, pan, bi, etc.)
c.) queer
d.) as oriented aroace
e.) other
domestic attraction culture is playing games like adorable home or pocket love more for the decorating, food or similar mechanics than for the relationship aspect
Hey guys what if we stopped conflating sexual attraction and “physical attraction” because those aren’t the same thing. Physical attraction covers sexual, sensual, and aesthetic forms of attraction (and potentially others I’m not aware of). When you say that sexual attraction is when you are physically attracted to another person, you are actually completely ignoring tertiary forms of attraction experienced separately from sexual attraction. It’s the kind of thing which leads people to think they can’t be ace because they’re physically attracted to other people. It’s great to try and simplify terms, but these are not synonyms, and we really need to stop acting like they are.
Aroace who's extremely confused by their tertiary attraction call that a disoriented aroace
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Idemseromantic.
plain text: Idemseromantic.
— An aspec term similar to idemromantic, but instead one not experiencing any notable internal differences between romantic and platonic attraction, one does not experience any notable internal differences between sensual and romantic attraction.
— Idem + se (from 'sensual') + romantic
— Coined by us. Requested by @first-aisle
Antisemitism has some similarities with transmisogyny in that both center around the idea of deceptive and manipulative outsiders and infiltrators that must be identified with careful inspections of one’s phenotype, and investigations into their background. The idea that the Jew or the trans woman are hiding in plain sight and must be revealed so they don’t “trick” people is omnipresent in fascist and transmisogynist propaganda.
I heard someone call barbie disappointingly heterosexual and I've never disagreed with anything more strongly in my life
Dear newbie queer kids, We appreciate the sentiment but stop "correcting" the older LGBTQ+ community. And by "correcting" I mean trying to force them to adopt your language. "Actually, it's pansexual if you're attracted to any gender. Bisexual means only men and women." (I really was told that one today.) "Actually if they're attracted to anyone despite gender and even to non-human entities in works of fiction that's omnisexual." Guys, you may not know it but what you are doing is what we'd once call bi-erasure. A little LGBTQ+ history: The word bisexual is still relatively new for a lot of people. In 1973 when David Bowie came out as bisexual, a reporter misunderstood that to mean he had both male and female reproductive organs. Even today I've stumbled upon people who think bisexual means "nonbinary." meaning "I don't identify as a man or a woman." The only connection the words have is the "bi" part so this one is painfully stupid. In the 1990s there were older queer folk who didn't even know bisexual is what they were. When Roddy McDowall was confronted by Vincent Price's daughter and asked "Why didn't you tell me my father was bisexual?" He said "We didn't know the word." In the 90s most bisexual people used the term to mean attraction despite gender. I'm fine with the use of the word "Pansexual" but it IS actually gatekeeping to tell older bisexuals that the word bisexual means "disincluding trans and nonbinary" and "attraction to the gender instead of despite the gender." I can't think of very many people who identify as bisexual who are okay with those added restrictions that they didn't agree to. For most of the older queer community bisexual means their own gender and everything else. That's the two for bi. I am certain there are some people today who don't mind the new restrictions added to the word bisexual and use it to self-identify but those that were identifying a bisexual in the 90s and early 2000s didn't have such restrictions because the options of pansexual and omnisexual were not in use yet. Pansexual was a term invented by Freud to mean "attraction to anything" (this included furniture). It's modern meaning of "consenting adults without consideration of gender" is relatively new and frustratingly this was originally how most of us were using the word bisexual. When you "Correct" someone who self-identifies as bisexual that they are actually pansexual because you want them to use the more modern language, THAT is gatekeeping. Ironically this just happened to me and when I corrected the person that was "correcting me" by explaining that older people who identify as bisexual tend to use it with the same meaning as the modern pansexual, I was suddenly accused of "Gatekeeping." So now, ironically, they're misusing the term gatekeeping while gatekeeping. Please stop doing this. The new terms are okay but don't tell us how we can use the older terms, especially when bisexual isn't that old of a term in the grand scheme of things. I sometimes use the term pansexual just to make things easier for the younger folk since they adapted to the restrictive version of the term bisexual we never asked for. Also I like its connection to mythology. But please don't "Correct" people for using the term they had for themselves since the 90s because they never added those new restrictions to it. This is rude. And that is the gatekeeping. Them telling you what the word meant decades ago is not "gatekeeping." You telling them how they have to us it now- that is gatekeeping. Sincerely, Most queer folk over the age of thirty.
IT IS OKAY TO HAVE COMPLICATED FEELINGS ABOUT ROMANCE!!!!!! IT IS OKAY TO NOT BE ROMANCE REPULSED OR ROMANCE FAVOURABLE!!!! IT IS OKAY IF YOUR FEELINGS ON ROMANCE DEPEND ON CONTEXT!!!! IT IS OKAY IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOUR FEELINGS ON ROMANCE ARE!!!!
dear transhets, mspecs who are mlw or wlm, aspecs who are mlw or wlm, straight lesbians/gays/mspecs, polyamorous straights or any other queer person who is attracted to the opposite gender i wish you a wonderful day & you are awesome & you belong in the queer community just as much as the rest of us & i hope the next time youre in a fast food drive thru line the orders get mixed up and you get more than what you payed for and its your favorite foods on the menu.
I have to get this off my chest: Femininity is not liberating for everyone. Especially not for people who were forced into femininity. Masculinity is not inherently bad. For a lot of people masculinity is far more comforting and liberating than femininity will ever be. Do the work to separate your trauma with cis men and toxic masculinity, and stop hurting transmasc people with your bs bio/gender essentialist rhetoric. Trans men and trans masc people are not your enemies, masculinity is not your enemy, and femininity is not always your friend. As long as it’s not hurting people let trans men be happy to be masculine. To deny trans men their masculinity is transphobic. You aren’t less transphobic towards trans men just because you say how pretty transfems are every fifteen seconds for brownie points, bc this demonization of masculinity hurts them too. Trans joy includes affirming masculinity.
Baymax in the new Baymax! show buying pads for a girl who got her first period and getting help from people, including a trans man.
Some people are really mad about this, when he is literally a health care robot interested in people's physical and emotional needs.