Ocean Vuong, from “Someday I’ll Love Ocean Vuong”, Night Sky with Exit Wounds
So much peace in knowing you will not miss out on what’s meant for you.
people giving me nicknames will forever be my fav btw like you think?? about me??? search for smth cute to call me? think about what suits me???
Reflections on building a better me
- Exercise is not optional. Mental satisfaction from completing yet another workout cannot be overstated. Physical satisfaction from feeling good and enjoying your body in clothes, the mirror, and photos cannot be overstated. Stop messing around, stop info hoarding, go exercise. And tomorrow. And the next day. And the next day. And the next day.
- Looking your best depending on circumstances (ie, casual, dressy, bedtime, etc) is not optional. External confidence from taking care of your appearance top to bottom and loving what you see in the mirror is highly valuable.
- You feel better when you eat better. You’re proud of yourself when you eat better.
- Hobbies, hobbies, hobbies. Do you feel embarrassed when someone asks what you do all day and you can’t come up with an honest answer that doesn’t make you sound like a loser with no life? You need hobbies. Some that are outdoors, some that are indoors. Some that are taxing, some that are relaxing. You will enjoy life more, become a more well-rounded individual, and have positive ways to spend your time rather than racking up more hours on your phone. Get some hobbies. Plural.
- Procrastination and laziness should disgust you. You shouldn’t be able to relate. You should strive to be above that. You like yourself better when you complete your tasks and get things done in a timely manner. You’re proud of yourself when you’re on a roll and have a productive streak. You’re impressed by productive people and no one likes a lazy bum.
- Decide what you want from life and pursue it ruthlessly. Don’t take advice from people who don’t have the life you want, unless they were once on your desired path and fell off. Even then, you listen to them when they say what NOT to do (learning from their mistakes) but clearly they don’t know what TO do bc they didn’t make it to the finish line. Take “do this” advice from people who crossed the finish line and have what you want. You’ll find that the amount of input that is actually valuable to you has suddenly dwindled. Good. Less chatter in your ears.
- Get yourself in order before you go around critiquing everyone else. Get YOUR face in order. Get YOUR body right. Get YOUR money up. Get YOUR style in order. Get YOUR relationship together.
- Stop coming to everyone for validation like a toddler. Validate yourself. Do you like it? Okay then. Are you over it? Okay then. Stop being so weak. Stand tall, lead yourself. Stop being such a follower.
- Be a good person. Help your family, lend a hand to strangers, give back, say sorry, do things for loved ones just because, show affection, work things out, watch your mouth, speak respectfully, remember that the world owes you nothing. Stop being an insufferable freak.
- You can’t change anyone but yourself. Get yourself in order and be a good role model. That’s all you can do. Give people advice when they want it and then go about your business. Get yourself in order. Get yourself in order.
- Outrage content is the lowest form of entertainment. Engage in things that make you happy or educate you. Doom scrolling only leads to doom. Don’t like this person? Don’t click on their articles or videos. Unfollow and block. Don’t like these people? Leave their spaces. You don’t have to be outraged every day.
- Always keep your word to yourself. Make a plan, stick to the plan, always deliver. If you can’t be reliable for yourself then who can you be reliable for?
dont romanticize the sadness. just let it exist plainly, like it did when you were a very young child, when you werent old enough to give it baggage. you'll find it's more devastating and cleansing that way
forgiveness does not mean re-entry. i can simply forgive you and still never deal with you again. i will never give or allow anyone the opportunity to play in my face twice.
I seriously cringe when I witness women make excuses for men. “They just don’t pay attention,” “they are not as creative,” “they don’t know how to do this or that.” Like STOP. Men are are literally so intellectual and articulate it’s insane. Some of the best philosophers, architects, leaders, etc have ALL BEEN MEN. They are so smart they make women think they are incapable of doing certain things so that women don’t bother asking them to do it. It’s a form of manipulation when you really break it down. Because when they want to be, they are completely unstoppable. I have so much respect for the men who go out of their way to help alleviate any hardship and stress from the women in their life because us women just give and give and men usually just take and take. So when I meet a man who doesn’t just take but does what he can to make life better it’s so refreshing. Women need to stop enabling lazy behavior from men. Let them do their part and live a better life.
Abundance vs. Lack
What does abundance look like?
- Believing you already have everything you need
- Nothing is too expensive / everything you want is attainable
- Always believing better is coming
- Embracing change and risk
- Believing there is room on the top for everyone
- Comfortable talking about money
- Taking control of your actions, thoughts, and beliefs
- Collaborates well with others
What does a 'lack' mindset look like?
- Seeing yourself as a victim
- Thinking things are too expensive (believing everything is out of your reach if it's in a certain price range)
- Thinking you'll only be happy once you acquire a certain material object or social status
- Seeing everything as a competition
- Fearing change and actively avoiding risk
- Not enjoying the current moment, always seeking something different, anxious for the next chapter of your life
- Believing only one person can win
- Doesn't like to share knowledge
