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anaroacephysicist

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elliot | they/them | aro/ace | physics student

I wrote a blog for young minds

I would like to suggest that you go read it!!

It's all about my experience of pure-O OCD and recovery and what that even means, and dealing with intrusive thoughts on a day to day basis.

It was challenging to write but so worthwhile. I hope that it helps even one person.

I also want to thank the two wonderful people who proofread it for me, lots of love to you both.

In essence, please read my blog! I hope it helps someone feel seen and understood

When studies show that underage drinking is harmful, it's banned easily. But when studies show that spanking is harmful, it remains legal and parents still insist on doing it.

Age restrictions on purchasing cigarettes pass easily. But laws prohibiting smoking where children are forced to breathe in secondhand smoke are much harder to pass.

Children under a certain age are prohibited from using most social media websites. But adults are allowed to post videos of their children's meltdowns.

Teenagers need their parents' permission to get body modifications. But parents can get their babies' ears pierced.

Anyone who genuinely wants to protect children would not panic about the children's own choices while ignoring what adults force on them. Anyone who genuinely wants to protect children would not insist that studies on the dangers of children's own choices be fully trusted and obeyed while ignoring and arguing with studies on the dangers of how adults treat children.

But many adults just want to control children, not protect them.

Your character(s) live in a world much like Avatar: the Last Airbender, where every person can control and manipulate one specific element out of the one hundred and eighteen found on the periodic table of elements.

(Can’t find the reblog to this so I’ll repeat it word for word)

Me, with a really high-pitched voice: Fear my helium, Bitc**s.

oh excellent!

Of all the nations, the armies of the ununoctium-benders are probably the least intimidating. The xenon-benders come close, but their flickery signs are at least effective for propaganda.

Listen. Listen.

Slice-of-life with poly relationships is wonderful. Fluffy feel good stuff with queerplatonic relationships is wonderful. Straightforward wish-fulfillment romance with any kind of weird non-traditional relationship is wonderful.

But god, please, I want more genre fiction with poly romance. I want more genre fiction with queerplatonic and weird non-traditional romances. I need more stories with dragons and magic and shit and I need the people in those stories to be explicitly and happy polyamorous. I beg you. I am on my bended knees.

btw there's nothing wrong with realising your aromantisism, asexuality and/or aplatonic-ness actually is most likely a trauma response or due to a mental disorder. that doesn't make any of those labels less valid.

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The best thing about being asexual is probably the complete and total immunity when it comes to ads featuring sex appeal. You can have all the hunky male models or beautiful female models advertising what-have-you (including and not limited to ads for movies where the main actor/actress is using their sex appeal) but for someone like me it just makes me not want to buy their product/whatever. Instead I see an ad for a fragrance called "blood and bone with old gods of Appalachia" (didn't know old gods of Appalachia was a podcast at the time) and I thought it was such a sick ass name that I had to buy a sample. I'm not weak to people's bodies but I AM weak to cool ass names and stupid looking plushies

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You might not want to hear this but people with anger issues and/or violent impulses need social accommodations. And no by accommodation I don't mean walking on eggshells around them, actual accommodations for people with these issues comes down to giving them a space away from what's triggering them to process their emotions and calm themselves down same as what kind of accommodations people who get sensory overload or just any kind of overwhelmed. There is no moral value to having anger issues or violent impulses, people with them are deserving of accommodation the same as everyone else.

I had severe anger issues growing up, and the only way I was ever taught to deal with them was deep breathing. For some reason, deep breathing just triggers me to get angrier. But it's the only coping skill I ever got taught for it. Here's a few better ones.

  • Go and exercise. Get all of that energy out and away from the people you love.
  • Get a hang of when you're winding up to a rage and learn to tell people that you need to step away. I will warn you that the first time that someone refuses to let you go once you learn this skill will spook the hell out of you if you don't have a backup skill, so figure out ahead of time what you're gonna do if they won't let you leave.
  • Learn to set boundaries. One of the best things I ever did for my anger issues was tell people that I can't deal with people stealing food off my plate. Second best was when I'm mad, telling people not to touch me. I spook easily when I'm already angry.
  • Get a pack of pencils and if nothing is working, break one. Sometimes you really do need to break something in order to feel better, and pencils are cheap.
  • Don't cook with a knife when you're mad. If you get too much adrenaline, the knife can slip and hurt you.
  • If you have anger issues that pop up without any seeming reason and frighten you, I would strongly recommend going over the situation and over your mental health. If there's anything consistent with a mental health condition or with something particular happening to trigger it, seek to eliminate the trigger or treat the issue. Depression, anxiety, trauma, you name it, it can probably present as anger issues under the right circumstances.

Some quick notes for people without anger issues that want to help someone who has anger issues:

  • Fear transmutes into anger really, really well if someone's fear response is "fight". One of my guesses for why so many men have anger issues is that we're told we're not men if we have any other response to fear. However, this issue is far from exclusive to men.
  • Don't box people in when you're arguing with them or soothing them. If someone is backed up against a wall and upset, then getting closer to them without permission is a bad call for your safety and for their soothing, because that removes the ability to get away from you. Ask before getting close. This goes double if someone is injured or otherwise vulnerable.
  • Teaching angry people that are distressed about being angry the pencil trick on the spot is really easy and works more often than you can think.
  • Respect people's requests and boundaries. A lot of people think that some of the boundaries I set up are silly or that once we're pals, they can ignore them. No, because a lot of my boundaries are related to trauma, and crossing them will trigger me and bring up my anger.
  • All of this goes for children with anger issues as well. I was a child with anger issues, and a lot of disrespect for my boundaries and needs was because my anger was dismissed because I was a child. Respect children's anger.

Walking on eggshells is not and will never be a good way to treat anger issues. Recognizing that people with anger issues deserve to have their boundaries respected and to be treated like human beings is.

An end note: Anger issues are not the same thing as being abusive, because emotions are not abusive. Someone with anger issues can become abusive if they take them out on people, but so can someone with suicidal thoughts who takes them out on people. The issue is targeting another person in order to feel better, not having a mental health issue.

An end note for people with anger issues: It really can get better. You can find coping skills and perhaps meds that help cool you down and settle you. You can find people that will accept that doing that one weird thing spooks the fuck out of you, and will let you leave if you're scaring yourself. You can gain control of yourself without shutting down emotionally. It's achievable.

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hell yea! they make the complex plane

julia lives there

Fuckin who

julia :)

she's basically any smallish collection of values, for example, members of the mandelbrot set, where any small perturbation would DRASTICALLY fuck up the end result

she's a visualization of very very small instances of chaotic (not random, but not easily calculable, like a double pendulum) behavior, but her look on the complex plane can be really pretty :)

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girl t gats a graph

Often I am upset

that I cannot fall in love

but I guess

this avoids the stress of falling out of it

The singer is aromantic! I didn't know this even tho I vibed with this song so much! I thought it was just a coincidence!