Actually Captain Jack Harkness is SO important. During a time when we couldn't get a single queer on screen in most shows and even those few we did get ended up dead 90% of the time, he was not only openly bisexual, he was openly bisexual and LITERALLY unable to die.
They buried that gay and he still dug himself up and kept fucking
Venom #24 - "See Latveria & Die" (2023)
written by Al Ewing art by Sergio Davila, Sean Parsons, & Frank D'Armata
The Finals have concluded, bringing the primary bracket of the Tournament of X to a close!
As such, it is with great honor that we present she who sits upon the Seat of Victory, she who steamrolled nearly all of her competition, she who holds Tumblr's favor foremost among all Mutants:
To all of you who have been a part of this tournament, whether you voted, shared, submitted propaganda, or simply watched with interest, thank you so much for helping to make the Tournament of X what it is. The sheer enthusiasm all of you have shown for each new match and successive round is what made this massive effort worthwhile. So, from the bottom of our hearts,
Constantly torn between
"this opinion/question/expressible point of connection I want to pose will mark me as a 'bad person' and therefore open me to harassment"
and
"I need to be 100% open and honest about my every thought and feeling or else I am lying, and that makes me a bad person".
And online discourse culture just amplifies that by like, a million.
Obviously, in putting it so plainly, neither thought is correct.
It's not healthy to avoid all connections because I'm afraid someone will accuse me of being a bad person.
It's also not healthy to put all my thoughts and feelings on display-- I'm allowed privacy.
Disagreements with someone shouldn't shake my very foundation of belief in self.
Especially when I agree with 99/100 points about issue X, but not point #100- I shouldn't feel like I can't talk about point #100 without being accused of disagreeing with points 1 through 99 and therefore "a bad person".
Idk. It's especially hard to talk about this issue without bringing up an example issue. But to bring up an example tends to steer the conversation to talking about that issue, and that's not the point.
I don't want to talk about Hot Button Issue #3. I want to talk about how the culture behind black and white Stances is harmful to me.
But I don't have good language for that.
Callout culture and purity culture touch on it. That fear of being Found Out to be Bad about something. Even though I am not bad?
The idea that once you're Found Out to be Bad you can never recover, never grovel enough, never apologise enough, never grow and learn enough, never be free from accusations and reminders.
People having to torch their online presence and start over and pretend they never were that person that made that mistake.
As a writer do you find your self making the facial expressions or gestures that your saying the characters are sometimes? Just to kind of test them out vaguely and see if they fit? It's something I find myself doing a lot and am wondering if real legit writers do this to, which is kinda awkward right now bc I'm sitting on a greyhound well writing lmao
Yes. Always. It's sort of embarrassing if people notice you doing it when you are writing in coffee shops.
This especially irritates me when people say it about kids.
I've learned in the past 4 years that many adults don't actually teach their kids shit about being a human being. What adults see as "common knowledge" they just expect their kids to know, then punish the kid when they don't.
It leads to a lot of mental and emotional distress for child and parent, and by extension teachers or any other adult responsible for the child.
Kids need a lot of attention to develop and grow and be the best they can be, and I don't understand why that's such a hard concept. You want your kid to verbally tell you what's wrong, you have to give him the language tools to express themselves.
You want your kid to clean up after themselves, teach them how to fold clothes, where to put them, how to sort clean from dirty.
Kids don't know how to do these things inherently.
This especially
irritates me when people
say it about kids.
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
Years ago I was working at a program for teens with a combo of intellectual disabilities and history of trauma and one of the tools we utilized heavily was Circle of Courage. It’s a system for responding to behaviors by looking at them through the lens of four principles: belonging, mastery, independence and generosity.
If a kid was engaging in attention-seeking behaviors, we would ask ourselves if there was a deficit in those four areas.
Do they feel like they belong to their comunity? Are they having genuine fulfilling interactions with others or are they feeling isolated? Having your only social interaction come from caregivers can feel extremely lonely!
Are they given a chance to grow rather than being met with low expectations and a dismissal of their capabilities? Are they getting attention and praise for the skills they are developing? Do they have opportunities that give them a sense of accomplishment? People want others to recognize their talents and skills. We all need that validation.
Are they encouraged to be as independent as possible and praised when they advocate for themselves? Do they feel like they have agency? Are caregivers and family members listening to what they have to say?
And do they feel like they have something to give? Are their acts of kindness acknowledged? Do they have the opportunity to contribute to their comunity— not in an “can they make money and contribute under capitalism?” way but in a “we are all dependent on each other in one way or another and have the capacity to care and help” way. It FEELS GOOD to help others and reinforces our relationships to the people around us and our comunity.
We’d use these ideas to make sure our kids always had a reason to feel self-worth and a way to get positive attention, validation and praise from the adults around them.
Years later I worked with a woman in adult services who had a lot of attention-seeking behaviors. One day she asked to join the choir at her church. And it’s important to mention that this was not a “special” choir. This was a mainstream choir with people outside of the structured, limited social group facilitated by her group home (because while comunity among disabled people is very important, it is extremely common for people with intellectual disabilities to get pigeon-holed into “special needs” events and social activities that separate from the wider comunity). They were genuinely her friends and she got the kind of validation from them that we all seek from our friends. This led to a dramatic and measurable decrease in her issues at home because she was finally getting the kind of attention she deserved.
These are principals that absolutely apply to all of us. If we aren’t feeling connection than we’re going to seek out that connection/attention in any way we can— even if those ways aren’t healthy but a lot of times we only develop those unhealthy ways to cope when we are struggling to find (or were denied) ways that are healthy.
Have you ever been writing some historical fiction and wondered "hey, I wonder if my characters would have been able to pop an ibuprofen in 1977?" Well, you're in luck, because this post is all about when common medications became available:
Someone asked for this list in date order, so here it is!
always follow the four g rule .... is it gaudy is it gauche is it grotesque is it godly
I just played Lisergia by Cezar Capacle!
This surreal TTRPG invites you to reject logic and productivism as you explore a dream-like world.
the lesbian knife fight that alters the trajectory of your life. we've all been there
just learned about the ginkgo trees that survived the nuclear blast in Hiroshima
you cannot kill me in a way that matters
At Hiroshima's Peace Memorial Park, you'll also find a Parasol tree that not only survived the bombing, but has since begun to produce more trees :)
But my favourite exhibit has to be from the nearby Honkawa Elementary school museum, commemorating the Canna plant that became a symbol of hope for many when it was discovered sprouting up in the wreckage only two weeks after the blast...after the Americans claimed nothing would grow in Hiroshima for seventy-five years:
[ID: 9 gifs from season 4, episode 13 “crossfire” from the tv series “star trek: deep space nine”, the gifs show odo and worf inside odo's office.
1st gif: odo and worf are looking at a screen, "providing security was difficult enough aboard the enterprise. it appears to be next to impossible on this station." worf tells odo, and turns away from the screen. odo shakes his head and replies, "it isn't easy."
2nd gif: worf is standing in front of odo's desk, he is holding his padd. "i prefer a more... orderly environment." he tells odo, who replies "we have that in common."
3rd gif: camera cuts to show odo standing in front of the screen, he tells worf, "my people have an innate need for order." worf asks odo, "how do you tolerate living here?"
4th gif: odo has walked to his desk, and sat on it. he tells worf, "i make order where i can. for one thing, i have a daily routine which i follow unwaveringly. the shopkeepers on the promenade joke that they can set their clocks by me."
5th gif: worf is looking down at his padd, he tells odo, "unfortunately, i have found it difficult to establish a routine here."
6th gif: odo is also working on his padd, he tells worf, "there are other ways to create order in your life, your quarters,"
7th gif: camera cuts to worf, who has stopped working on his padd, and is looking at odo as he speaks, "for example. everything in mine has its specific place,"
8th gif: back to odo, he gestures with the other padd he is holding in his left hand as he finishes his sentence, "and it's all arranged just so."
9th gif: worf agrees with odo's sentiment and returns it. "yes, mine, too. even with my eyes closed, i would still know where everything was." /end ID]
Rom’s speech to his fellow workers in “Bar association”.
(Chants grow louder: UNION UNION UNION)
