Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

“You’d be surprised”, said Xaldien, who just lost four followers and received a lovely “men can’t be raped” anon shortly after reblogging this the first time.

Yowch, disgusting.

If I don’t reblog this, assume I’m dead.

If you don’t, please just unfollow me, because I don’t want those ideals on my blog.

OF FUCKING COURSE!!!! (Male rape vic here)

Feeling very switchy tonight

Fun fact: we've actually almost done this!

mental illness is not a competition. it doesn’t matter if others have “worse” or more prominent symptoms than you. it’s different for everyone. you are valid, and you’re working to improve; that’s beautiful.

god I hate drawing the body I’m never doing that ever again

This is about a younger alter in a DID system. This is NOT about age regression and absolutely NOT about age-play. 

Do not tag as oc or me.

hi can you guys please please please reblog this (if ur able) if u believe trauma survivors with rage/anger issues and/or abrasive/aggressive personalities are worthy of love and care and justice and respect?? i’ve had ppl question & dismiss my abuse because of my rage issues and bc i don’t act how they think survivors are Supposed to act and it would just be?? good validation 4 me n maybe others??

New alter? Or something else?

Hi. We need some help. Even if you don’t know the answer can you reblog as someone else might.

Recently during the night the body as been going on walks. We don’t know who is fronting and going for those walks tho. They don’t do anything but walk, and it takes me (Sixx) as a protector a lot of energy to push though to the front and take us home. It’s scaring us because we don’t know who is taking over, and we just have to sit there and watch because it’s so hard to front while this person is out. They don’t do anything else, only walking. We have to use all our energy to get them to at least put clothes on before they walk out the front door. We can’t front with them for longer than a few seconds then we get pushed back. It’s getting dangerous. They passed out while walking. Hitting our head hard against the concrete. It took everything Alex and I had to get us home safely, and even then we only made it to our door step. Someone please help.

Is it the case they are waking and fronting while others are asleep? A system like what sleep walkers use may be helpful- chains over doors that buzz an alert sound if someone tries to open it. Might help wake someone to take control back quicker. If you don’t like closed doors, chimes hung in door ways works too. Did something major happen just before this?

Nothing major happened, yes this happens while everyone else is sleeping but as soon as the body wake up so do the protectors.

A few words, for a child.

Hi Little one. How are you feeling?

It’s okay. You’re okay now.

It was scary, wasn’t it? It wasn’t fair for you to be in that situation.

And I am so sorry. So so sorry for everything that happened.

I know it wasn’t me. I know “I” shouldn’t be the one that should apologize, but you know what?

You deserve an apology.

And more than that, you deserve a thank you.

Thank you. For being so brave.

Thank you for being so strong.

I mean it.

You were. You’re still here, and you are still going.

And if no one else has told you, then I will.

I’m proud of you. For whatever it is worth, sweety.

I’m so proud of you.

I know you might still be scared. And little one, it’s perfectly okay to cry about it.

But that does not change how strong you were. It doesn’t change the fact that you survived. It doesn’t change how amazing you are.

You’re amazing and awesome and words cannot describe how much I respect you.

Please, don’t you ever let anyone tell you that you weren’t strong enough. You weren’t good enough. Don’t let them ever try and and tell you how you should feel.

Because they can’t say anything about you.

You know?

You’re amazing little one.

This triggered Kit to the front and he started crying. Everyone needs to read this

things that arent fucking real:

feel free to add on

Probably important to note though that it can seem like an alter has died and so if an alter of yours appears to have died it doesn’t mean you’re fake. it can just mean they are now dormant. in system death is metaphorical. they’ll come back in time and aren’t really gone forever.

Can I get an explanation of “gateway systems”, “system resets”, “walk-in alters”, and “mixed systems”?

“gateway systems” is what people call systems they think can get alters from other people’s systems and walk-in alters are those kinds of alters

“mixed system” is when people think some alters can be caused by trauma but others can not.

I’m assuming system resets are when you can “clear the system” and “start over”??

Yeah but still that’s just something people mistake for alters going dormant.

I used to believe in dead alters.

Then they came back and I was like “Wait.” and educated myself. 

I wish others would do the same because this is all sorts of fucked.

yeah no they just want to be special

I had my system 'reset', well it didn't really. It just went dormant for a bit and they came back all a little different?? Does this mean my system isn't real?? (Genuinely panicked because I always doubt myself)

Reblog this if you are a system

With recent stigmatization of Dissociative Identity Disorder in the media, I want to prove a point that systems exist, that Dissociative Identity Disorder exists, and that we are more common than the world thinks.

People think DID is an oddity, that every person Diagnosed with it has violent tendencies and thus that we as a community are scary.

I want the world to know we are your friends, neighbors, coworkers, managers, supervisors, boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses; and we are NOT the stigma. So if you reblog to show you’re a system, put in the tag the number of people in your system.

LET’S SHOW THE WORLD WE EXIST

family members really need to stop acting like their child’s mental illness is playing a larger toll on them than it is on their child

This isn’t true. My mental illness is taking a larger toll on my mother than it is on me. I can understand that things that my alters have said to her are horrible but it doesn’t take the same toll on me as it does her.

In fairness I think this post is based more on parents who get exasperated and angry at their children for showing symptoms and not being normal as if they are too much of a burden when in fact you can’t choose you’re symptoms or when they surface and they can be terrifying for you to experience.

E.g. My mother used to scream and shout when I showed symptoms of disordered eating because she just wanted me to be Normal and not need her to make any changes to the way she works.

Also while you’re the best judge of your own experience I’d argue that while your alters may upset your mother, there’s a lot of other symptoms of DID that in all are way harder to live with than a child who has alters e.g. Having trauma, flashbacks, hypervigilance, DPDR, dealing with time loss etc

P.S if your alters are hostile to your mother it’s more than likely they don’t trust her- is there anything that might be causing that or anything you can do to create trust? It’ll help you both!

They were hostile towards her in that week because we were swamped with trauma memories. They are fine towards her now. It's just because they are my protectors and my body and brain was telling them that she's unsafe. Thanks for the advice!

My new points system

Activity:

Showering= 20 Sink body wash= 5 Brushing your teeth = 5 Going into placement = 40 Sleeping 3 hours + = 10 Sleeping 5 hours + =25 Eating minimum 1 US cup of food= 10 Eating a proper meal = 20 Doing 1 hour of essay work =25 Doing 1 hour of bioscience work =20 Washing the car= 5 Ironing =15 Tidying the wardrobe =15 Cleaning the bedroom area =5 Cleaning the kitchen area =10 Cleaning the bathroom area= 10 Cleaning the desk area =10 Putting on clothes instead of pajama= 5 Putting on something clean= 10 Going outdoors =15 Not self harming for one week = 30 Not self harming for 2 weeks= 40 Not self harming for 3 weeks =50 Not self harming for 1 month =60 + one day of double points for whatever you earn Taking medication =5 Checking emails =10 Being social with someone = 15 Changing the wound dressing =10

Minus points awarded for:

Leaving before end of shift because of anxiety = -50 Binging= -15 Purging = -40 Intentionally not eating for 6+hours = -20 Hiding food= -25 Throwing away food= - 25 Messing with hip wound = -10 Putting dirty clothes on= -10 Missing a day of placement = -70

Reward:

A day nap= 100 A story (for smaller alters) = 40 1 hour TV or art time = 70 30 minutes journal time = 30 30 minutes of computer time = 50 A hot drink = 30 A film =90 Religious time/ meditation time minutes= 25

Rules:

- points can be carried over if the next day is a placement day - No “point stealing” - Points can be shared if everyone involved contributed

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Feel free to use a version of this yourself

In fact if anyone ever wants to tell us in the ask box how many points they got today we’ll be proud :P

Btw you can swap in placement for school, university or work :)

I love this. I’ll be using this for myself and the others. I will let you know how I get on tomorrow :)

Do it!!!

@systemofafault

80 points! Watching TV put me at a reasonable number! I was at 10 before hand.

Wait are you counting TV as plus points?

I'm gonna use this when I get my whiteboard

This user has a system little.

family members really need to stop acting like their child’s mental illness is playing a larger toll on them than it is on their child

This isn't true. My mental illness is taking a larger toll on my mother than it is on me. I can understand that things that my alters have said to her are horrible but it doesn't take the same toll on me as it does her.

google search: how to politely ask someone to rephrase something bc your processing-disordered ass cant figure out what the fuck theyre talking about even if it’s extremely plain and simple

Mental Health Check

You betta check yo self!

1. Did you eat in the last 8 hours? 

- remember it’s better to eat junk food than nothing at all. If the only thing you want to eat is unhealthy, that’s ok, let yourself eat it. 

- Your body needs energy! Even if you aren’t hungry you should eat a little bit, otherwise your metabolism will slow down and you will feel tired and slow. 

- If you are too busy to stop and have a meal try and grab something quick like an apple, or a handful of nuts.

2. Did you smile or laugh today?

- laughter releases endorphins, stress releasing hormones, and antibodies that help fight infection and disease!

- smile at yourself in the mirror for thirty seconds

- look up a funny video and make yourself laugh at it even if it’s a bit unnatural at first. Sometimes once you get laughing your laugh becomes funny too and then you can’t stop!

3. Did you drink enough water today? 

- Water is so important. It flushes all the bad stuff out of your body. Without it your blood thickens and your brain might get a little foggy. 

- If you forget to drink water try to drink a glass before a meal, or before bed, or right after waking up! This might help you remember!

- The recommended amount is 8 eight ounce glasses per day. It’s okay if you don’t drink the recommended amount. Everybody’s body is different and it depends on the amount of physical activity you do in a day. Just drink what you can, your body, and skin, and brain will thank you for every drop!

4. What do you need to be happier?

-Do you need to take some medication that you forgot about? Do you need to see a doctor? Remember, mental health is just like physical health. Make sure you are taking care of yourself!

-  Go for a walk, do a few pushups, or jumping jacks, or hula hooping. Whatever you feel like! Even if it is just for a second it will help you by releasing endorphins!

- Wash your bed sheets with some yummy smelling soap or essential oil. 

- open the window for some fresh air and open the blinds for

- Maybe you could call up a friend or a relative and talk to them for a few minutes. 

- Make sure you get a full nights sleep. Sleep is your bodies way of healing and resetting itself. (If you have trouble sleeping try turning your phone off at 9pm. Make sure you never eat in your bed or do other activities. It will help you to sleep if your body knows your bed is just for sleeping.)

- Find something that you love! Do you love a certain type of food? Spend some time making it! Do you like to read? See if you can borrow a new book. Be it knitting, yoga, drawing, soccer, dancing, listening to music, writing, beading, playing rugby, making sock puppets. Whatever it is, do it! 

- Set goals for yourself. Discover what you are good at and what you want to be good at. Improve. Be proud of yourself when you smash your goals and try again when you fail. 

saying that someone’s alters are ***technically*** them is like saying that California is ***technically*** New Jersey.

both are part of the USA, but they’re two very separate parts. just like alters, they’re two different parts of the same whole.

like this. Lexi