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It is not easy to change our thoughts’ pattern: remember we have been thinking for years, maybe since the day we were born, in a certain way that only recently found out to be toxic.
Especially because of this, it takes time to change to a new pattern. You cannot pretend to be done in a day or a week: our old thoughts will always try to take over because they are what we are used to think. It’d be like pretending to get fruits out of a seed.
Be patient. Keep choosing your new thoughts intentionally every day, especially when old ones reappear. It takes kindness with yourself and lot of practice to change any habit, this one in particular. Do not be worried or scared about hiccups or fallbacks. Just go forward on your new path, and don’t give up.
What’s “good” about Dissociative Identity Disorder?
We saw a post recently that said there was NOTHING good about DID, nothing to be grateful for- just nothing.
We previously made a podcast regarding the “Doom & Gloom” mentality as a DID system and in the DID/OSDD community.
We talk about how sad it is when a large amount of the community views this disorder as nothing but awful and bad and in turn, makes the system they have to live with, head mates/alters, feel like they don’t matter- they don’t belong - they are a bother - if the host could just get rid of them, they would.
How would that make you feel? You are an alter too, as a Host or Core, you are still an alter- and headmate. You may identify with the body most, but you don’t own it- the whole system does.
DID is not only a disorder caused by trauma- it’s a coping mechanism that your brain developed to keep a little kid safe from bad, scary, and painful things. Yes, it has some freaking awful side effects and issues that come along with it and no one would wish to keep their trauma.
But your alters/head mates AREN’T trauma- they are your team, your family, a coping mechanism. Keep that in mind next time you are tempted to say you hate DID. You hate parts of it- you hate the trauma, you hate the side effects and the issues. You should not hate your system- you will never ever heal if you keep that mindset.
Thinking a new alter split when really it's just an alter that's been around nearly as long as you that was quiet
"Why are safe foods so often junk food or prepackaged foods?"
Because of consistency. Raw foods or freshly made foods run the risk of being off: undercooked, overcooked, mushy, too crunchy etc.
That box of chicken nuggets hasn't changed in two decades.
Just ask any autistic how they feel if the company suddenly changes the ingredients.
It's safe because it's not going to surprise us as much as raw foods.
Shoutout to the system hosts who:
➼ Are the original host
➼ Are the temporary host
➼ Are the new host
➼ Are a co-host
➼ Are a non-human host
➼ Are an introject host (whether that’s a fictive or a factive)
➼ Are also a protector
➼ Are also a persecutor
➼ Are also a trauma holder
➼ Completely identify with the body and body’s name
➼ Only identify with the body or body’s name partly
➼ Don’t identify with the body or the body’s name at all
➼ Knew about the system the whole time and have come to terms with it already
➼ Had no idea about the system before but have come to terms with it already
➼ Had no idea about the system before and are really struggling to come to terms with it
➼ Have good communication with their system
➼ Have okay-could-be-better communication with their system
➼ Have terrible communication with their system
All of you are valid. Being a host is hard work y’all, and you’re all doing a fantastic job at it! 💪 ❤️
Some symptoms of our dissociative disorder we experience we don't see talked about much:
- Having trouble telling apart fiction and reality because most of the time, reality doesn't feel real
- Not always being able to see other people around me as real
- Not being able to believe something really happened months or even years after the fact
- Never feeling like I can trust myself, especially my own memories
- Being terrified because of sudden negative emotions or panic over a trigger I don't understand and didn't know existed
- The sheer terror of watching my own body move against my will and not being able to stop it, being forced to just sit there and watch my own body do things I didn't choose
- Never feeling like I have full control over my own life and future (but feeling like I need to control it to an almost obsessive degree)
- Feeling like my entire life has been taken away from me because of how much of my memory is gone
- Never being able to see my own body, or even my own mind and thoughts as really mine
- Almost never being able to keep a schedule together because I never know when my symptoms are going to get worse and make it harder to function
- Never feeling like I know who I am no matter how much I analyze every part of myself
- Being constantly terrified that any second I could have hours, days, even months or years ripped away from me from dissociation and memory loss
- Never being able to be sure I didn't do something, even if it sounds like something I would never do
Anonymous asked:
DID culture is getting in trouble with your parents for constantly acting “different” and forgetting things.
Dissociative disorders are the psychological equivalent of a scar.
It is not something that anyone who truly has it ever wanted. It was not voluntary and it can be a bitter reminder of the violence that created it.
It means that a child went through pain that no child should ever go through, pain so severe that it left a permanent mark on them.
But above all else, it is evidence that the child survived. Dissociation is a safety mechanism, and a system is all the scars left behind, holding the body together and proving that they are still alive to bear it.
Our system is proof that somebody loved that child enough to keep them alive, even if that person needed to be inside their own head.
That alone is proof enough that they deserved to survive. They did not deserve to be hurt; no child does. But we deserve to survive.
We are the result of trauma. We are the evidence of survival.
HELLO I JUST FOUND OUT YOU DIDNT NEED DISSOCIATIVE FUGUE (LIKE FULL BLACKOUT WAKING UP IN A DIFFERENT PLACE) TO HAVE DID??????
WHAT
We have published a podcast both on YouTube and over our on Spotify- feel free to go listen to learn our thoughts on this topic and share yours in the comments! Link in the Bio.
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DID and Showering- yah, it’s weird.
I know this is a super strange post, but as an alter that has a huge “water theme” in part of my existence and causes enjoyment for me and I thought this might be an interesting topic and insight to share!
For us as a female center system, we’ve struggled a lot with hygiene due to some trauma from our past, and this in and of itself causes a problem with showering/bathing- however, with therapy and working internally with our full system to overcome the fears and flashbacks to be able to function and take care of our daily needs.
Something I thought of while showering the other day was the fact that system members may all have different preferences for soaps, shampoos, conditioners, water temperatures, and even shaving.
For us, we went through a faze where we had four different shampoos at once- and when we would switch out while showering- which can happen more so than usual for a DID system due to our specific trauma - we would end up washing our hair two or three times with the different options because whoever was fronting didn’t like the smell or feeling of the shampoos we were using. Usually however, we had good communication and steps to where we weren’t just doing this out of “forgetting” (amnesia) that we had already washed our hair.
A solution for this we found is to locate a scent that isn’t too strong and is a comfort scent to the system that everyone agreed to use as a collective. We still have some disagreements now and again, but we resolved to work this out because in turn we were putting our hair through so much that we started loosing it- which isn’t good regardless!
The same went for body wash/soaps. We now use Lume soaps and also deodorant because it works so well, and found the perfect deodorant scent first try- the body wash however we all aren’t a fan of, but we resolved to use it up before getting a new bottle with a different scent due to how well it works and to save on money and space.
Showering if and of itself can be a struggle and sometimes we physically have to force ourselves to take one or I end up fronting and doing it since I am not negatively triggered by it, but working with your system is key!
YouTube Link: https://youtu.be/IKPChOWdHmk
There is current an issue happening in the DID community that Coffee wanted to touch on and with Trina’s assistance we were able to make a calmer video than she normally makes! We hope this helps some of you out there regarding faceclaims!
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A post we made back in February 4th, 2019 that we wanted to remake a post for the everyone, especially if you are new!
. ✘ MYTH: DID IS VERY RARE.
Not even close. Its yearly prevalence rate (~1.5%) is actually more common than young women with bulimia and even on par with well-known conditions like OCD. While it is very hard to gather statistics on a community of trauma survivors built on secrecy; who can be afraid to receive such a stigmatizing diagnosis, have or have had therapists untrained to recognize their condition, are riddled with amnesia (leading many to be unaware anything is even "wrong”), and whose self-preservation often includes intense denial of trauma — it's still inarguable that DID is anything but rare. It is a major mental health issue.
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https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/blog/didmyths
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Kindness is a choice you make and a skill you practice, not something you're born either with or without
How the body looks, how does that impact us as a system?
We know many systems struggle with dysmorphia of many kinds, and about 3/4 of the systems we know actually identify as the opposite of their birth sex and are undergoing transitioning.
As a female body with almost an entirely female system (besides a few robots and two males in our system that never front), we too still struggle with body dysmorphia on different levels, especially depending on who is fronting on any given day.
Most of us like the body’s height, which stands at five feet, however, the way we are built and our weight is something that effects around 95% of our system, as well as our hair color.
How do we manage this as a system? We focus a lot on clothes, and when we have enough freedom and funding, we plan to get some semi-permanent hair dye or wigs/highlights to solve this. But right now we are not able to do that, which we have all come to terms with.
It’s important to agree and speak with your system members, especially on topics that can impact you financially and how to handle it.
What I want to say: “I apologize for forgetting, some of my conditions cause pretty bad memory loss. I try my best to stay organized but sometimes things slip through the cracks. I’m sorry about not remembering that.”
What I actually say: “sorry my brain is like a filing cabinet with a rat living in it”
[Text: This system’s host and co-host are besties.]
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"Doing that won't cure my mental illness, so why bother?" Because building healthier habits will make it easier for your body and mind to manage and cope with your symptoms - even if they can't make them disappear! A cure isn't the only way to feel better and progress is possible even when you can't expect to make a full recovery. Don't get stuck thinking that anything below finding a cure is a waste of time cause it isn't.