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STANLEY TUCCI: SEARCHING FOR ITALY (2021)

Too Butch to Be Bi (or You Can't Judge a Boy by Her Lover)

by Robin Sweeney

"It wasn't difficult for me to come out as a lesbian. In fact, most people I knew in high school assumed I was gay long before I started grappling with my own identity. I have, as one lover told me, “the face.” When I asked her what she meant, she said that I just looked like a dyke. And it's true. Even in pictures of me at four or five, I look like a little dyke. No one has ever been surprised to find out I was queer.

I ran into pretty standard teenage homophobia - my own internalized version and from others - but I was fortunate to grow up in a Southern California town with a surprising number of openly gay and bisexual adults and teenagers. While Aaron Fricke was making headlines taking another boy to his prom, the administrator in charge of student social events at my high school made it quietly known that same-sex couples were allowed to attend the prom together. 

Even though I fit the stereotypes and images of what a lesbian was supposed to be, it wasn't always a comfortable identity for me. I was sexual with men - and liked it -  and that fact was a problem for a lot of women and men I met in the lesbian and gay community. It was a problem for me, too. I didn't know how to come to terms with being bisexual and still maintain my butch identity and connection to the gay community.

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Sexual minority communities do a lousy job of confronting our assumptions about ourselves and each other. We hold onto the same notions about difference that the dominant, heterosexist culture teaches us and apply these to our own queer communities. Most of the time this doesn't work, and nowhere is this more true than in our assumptions about appearance, gender, and sexual identity. 

I am a butch bisexual woman whose romantic and sexual partners are primarily other butch women, with some notable exceptions. Frequently, I like to appear as masculine as I can, often passing for male on the street. I like to keep my hair short. I'd rather wear jeans and boots than anything else. Sometimes I pack when I go out, putting my dildo in my pants and wearing my dick out of the house. (No, people don't really notice that often. And the ones who do notice are the ones I'm probably trying to attract.)

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But being a butch woman who is also bisexual can be difficult. It feels sometimes that the the idea is so challenging - since the assumptions in our communities are that all butch women are lesbian women and all femme women are bisexual women - that often a butch woman trying to come to terms with being bisexual is stuck.

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But once we find a community that is accepting of our same-sex interests, we run into an entirely different series of messages. A number of these are about appearances and what they are supposed to say about who we are. The ideas about femmes (femme women aren't really interested in other women, and femme men aren't really interested in women at all) and butches (butches are always the aggressors in sex, whether they are men or women) permeate our queer culture. These ideas make it difficult for us to explore who we are and who we want to be. Many people feel too threatened to challenge the status quo of an already fringe community, for fear of being outcast from the one place where they have struggled to belong."

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Bisexual Politics edited by Naomi Tucker, 1995.

12th June 2016 - 5 years ago today 💔🏳️‍🌈

 Denis Villeneuve + Yellow

compare.

Vintage Phantom of the Opera movie poster featuring the cutest version of the Phantom ever.

I’m a bitch I’m a lover

we were all thinking it, so here it is XD

is it just me or

no offense but I suck at responding to most messages so please don’t think it’s you. It’s def me.

Burshies

(via)

Isn’t the self-destruction coded into us? Programmed into each cell?

Annihilation (2018), dir. Alex Garland

I find it suspicious that you never see posts along the lines of "cishet people should stop using the word 'queer', that's a word that only queer people get to use." Not because I think that it's necessarily true, but because that's the normal way social conversations around reclaimed slurs & pejoratives evolve. You rarely hear people on tumblr saying "black people/hispanic people/asian people aren't allowed to say [slur that has been used specifically against them]." Because most of us recognize that that's nonsense, and that you don't get to tell minorities which words they can and can't reclaim.

But tumblr didn't do that with the word 'queer'. It didn't go the usual route of discussion around who can and can't say what. Tumblr just jumped straight into trying to erase the word completely. And that is because the discourse around 'queer' isn't a conversation that evolved naturally within our community. It was purposefully (and successfully) created out of thin air from a sudden, relentless onset of terf propaganda. Terfs who hated having a trans-inclusive umbrella term for our community, who wanted nothing more than to disrupt unity. Well congratu-fucking-lations, it's been disrupted.

2 years is all it took. 2 years of relentless comments and inbox messages from people pretending to be concerned strangers, friendly anons who wanted you to know 'you should maybe not use that word 🙂.' 'a lot of people have trauma around it so maybe use a different word 🙂 a less inclusive word 🙂.' 'queer isn't an identity it's a slur 🙂.' and suddenly our most powerful trans-inclusive umbrella term is blacklisted.

2 years of this and suddenly you had half a generation of lgbtqa+ teens who had been told this over and over again, by friendly trustworthy strangers, to the point it passed the evidence threshold and just became a Belief. because young teens heard it so often from so many 'random’ people, and weren't aware of where it was actually coming from. hint: the discourse around queer has ALWAYS been about disrupting unity

I only got here recently and I remember Queer Nation, so

And for those people in and around New York City, this year:

The Reclaim Pride Coalition (founded for the 50th Anniversary of the Stonewall Riots, in 2019) is organizing the third annual Queer Liberation March on Sunday, 27 June, 2021

“No Corps - No Cops - No BS”

According to their website, they will have a limited number of wheelchairs and volunteer wheelchair pushers if you’ll need a wheelchair and don’t have one of your own. There will also be a Deaf contingent, with ASL interpreters.

I'm gonna lose my mind if bipoc becomes the standard terms and I can't use bi poc to mean bisexual people of color anymore

i mean already have enough issues with it as a label but mostly I hate that I keep reading bipoc as BI poc

okay no actually I'm annoyed

first of all we're already seeing the issue that we JUST started to address with POC which was using POC as an adjective aka like POC women instead of WOC, only now it's BIPOC women. which to be fair, BIPOC is also super awkward, like.. black, indigenous, and women of color? people never say the full acronym.

we're also seeing the issue we saw a lot with POC which is people using BIPOC instead of just saying like, black, or indigenous people, or other groups, when the issue is specific to them and it makes no sense to use BIPOC especially because now it does bring up 2 specific groups in the name.

and another thing is, the use of "indigenous" here is very specific to north and south america (lbr tho people mostly mean the US). indigenous people are all across the world, and in some places they are white, and they have nothing to do with the issues that we are usually talking about.

i don't like it. just say POC/people of color or SPECIFICALLY talk about the group you mean, like just say black people!!

also the idea that it like brings black and indigenous struggles to the forefront doesn't make any sense. it's an acronym. just talk about black and indigenous people.

(also er; The Draft it wasn't some generational choice, it was enforced by government)

Don’t sleep on this gem