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Made of star stuff

@allmyfuckingobsessions / allmyfuckingobsessions.tumblr.com

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Help me ob-gyn kenobi, you’re my only hope.

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She needed more midwife-clorians. 

I really hope everyone reblogging this followed the link and read the article, because it’s larger point is really good “Reproductive health and childbirth is a crutch, and Lucas gets away with it because his audience accepts that these things are mysterious and cannot be intervened with the way that that the loss of limbs can be remedied with robot prosthetics, or the way Luke can be rescued from near-death on Hoth by being submerged in a bacta tank. Having babies is worse than being mauled by a wampa ice creature or being chopped up by lightsabers and falling into a river of lava. Lucas can write a world like that, and worse, the audience will accept it. But uteruses aren’t made of malignant magic. Women’s bodies are real physical things that can be studied and understood and when necessary, cured. ”

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IDK about everyone else, but I’ve actually been certified as a doula and childbirth educator and worked in women’s health media for most of a decade.  All points valid, but “Help me OB-GYN Kenobi” broke me. 

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And this is how you can tell a story was written by men because pre-natal healthcare never even occurred to the writer. Women’s insides are a mysterious and magical place that no man either can fathom, or just just not want to think about, so in stories like this they just handwave it away as” dying in childbirth”.

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Help me, OB-GYN Kenobi.

I love how everyone’s like YES ALL POINTS VALID

But

“Help me OB-GYN Kenobi”

to be fair, it is a brilliantly executed pun

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Just a reminder that Vincent van Gogh did not eat yellow paint to make himself feel happy, he ate paint, and drank different chemicals because he was suicidal and this is why he was not allowed in his studio while having breakdowns. He also did not paint starry night and his other great works because he was depressed, he painted most of them while he was in recovery and demonstrated his hopefulness and love of the world through this. Most of his great works were painted from his room at a hospital. Van Gogh’s depression should not be glorified. His hope and effort toward a better life, as well as his recovery from depression should be glorified.

I think adults need summer vacation. Like let's just close down all our jobs for three months and play outside. Please. I'm so tired.

I worked for the US side of a company where the main financial decision makers were headquartered in Spain for a while.

And in August? Basically everyone in Spain goes on vacation the entire month.

And since the financial decision makers were all gone, and my job was to ask for financial decisions, I had a much reduced workload every August.

I still had to show up to the office, which sucked.

Anyway, this is a long post to say that other countries get this. We should demand it here.

And more.

When a job says "unlimited time off" ask what their average usage is. Ensure you match it. Minimum.

When a job says "you get X days off" use them. Keep a sharp eye on roll over limits year-to-year, leave no hour behind.

These are not health or mana potions to save for a boss fight.

Do not answer your phone on vacation. Do not check your email. Do not feel the need to explain.

I took last week off because I hadn't played Super Mario Bros. 2 in a long time and I said, "This is a good week to play Super Mario Bros. 2."

I regularly take off at least 1 day to have my hair done. Hair! I could have it done on a Saturday, I don't, because Saturday's are my time. Hair time is hair time.

Sometimes I take a day off because the weather is frightfully good or frightfully bad.

Do you remember how cheap movies are during the day, during the week, around lunch time? At least once a month I take a day off to go to the movies and eat snacks and cavort slowly and casually.

To hustle is to make your boss richer.

To lazily sashay down a boulevard with a fizzy water and no plans and less thought? Divine.

Time off is not a reward.

Time off is part of your compensation.

The fancy business term for this is "Employee Value Proposition." It is the sum of the question, "why do you want to work here" -- money + benefits + etc.

If you are in an interview and someone says "why do you want to work here" and they are a suit person, say something to the effect of, "Your employee value proposition is significantly higher than your competitors. I value X, Y, Z of your compensation package, firm's reputation, product's reputation, and the current course of your management team."

If you do not have time off, or enough time off, I wish for you an expedited and profitable exit to a situation where you do.