First Sunday of Advent
the commodification of friendship is the most annoying thing to come out of the internet in ages. like actually i love to break this to you but you're supposed to help your friends move even if it's hard work. or stay up with them when they're sad even if you're gonna lose sleep. you're supposed to listen to their fears and sorrows even if it means your own mind takes on a little bit of that weight. that's how you know that you care. they will drive you to the airport and then you will make them soup when they're sick. you're supposed to make small sacrifices for them and they are supposed to do that for you. and there's actually gonna be rough patches for both of you where the balance will be uneven and you will still be friends and it will not be unhealthy and they will not be abusive. life is not meant to be an endless prioritization of our own comfort if it was we would literally never get anywhere ever. jesus.
Not me, I am pirating It's a Wonderul Life image by image by having absolutely frame perfect pausing skills.
A lot of effort for a work in the public domain, but I respect the hustle.
Captioned without comment:
“If, for example, you see a woman immodestly dressed, don’t have regard only for her outward appearance, but look more deeply into her soul.
She may be a very good soul with an existential restlessness which she expresses through her shocking appearance.
She has a dynamism within her: The power of self-projection; she wishes to attract the eyes of others. But through lack of awareness she has distorted things. Think what would happen if she were to know Christ. She would do everything to attract the grace of God.
She would become a saint.”
+ St. Porphyrios (1906 - 1991)
Looking back on the job I recently left, I'm SO glad I took that opportunity to wear those boxes to the dumpster like a poncho
Vegans of tumblr, listen up. Harvesting agave in the quantities required so you dont have to eat honey is killing mexican long-nosed bats. They feed off the nectar and pollinate the plants. They need the agave. You want to help the environment? Go back to honey. Your liver and thyroid will thank you, as well. Agave is 90% fructose, which can cause a host of issues. Bye.
So let me get this straight ,vegans should stop eating the food of the Mexcian long-nosed bats, because the bats need it, and instead vegans should instead eat honey, the food of bees, that their larvae need, even though the bee populations are facing ecological issues as it stands. 10/10 post, dude.
Did you forget the whole part where only excess is taken and all their needs are met and then some orrrr?
Like, did you read it orrrrr?
Anyway, BUY HONEY SAVE BEES
It is a 10/10 post. Because OP is right.
Bees do not suffer when beekeepers take their honey, because experienced beekeepers do not take all of their honey, in fact, they leave plenty of honey left for the bees to consume over the winter. If we do not collect their honey, 1 of two things will happen.
1. they will leave for a bigger home. Which at first seems fine until you remember that bees are dying very quickly out in the wild.
or
2. They will start using the areas that they reserve for their young as a place to make more honey. This is bad because if no more young are being produced, then the hive will start to die out because no new workers are coming into the world, and the average live only 150 days, so it would also mean the loss of more bees.
So yeah, eating honey isn’t inhumane at all. In fact, you’re helping the bees by eating what they produce and giving money to the bee keepers who are the ones making sure that the hive will keep being healthy.
LOUDER FOR THE VEGANS IN THE BACK: use honey, not agave! Bees need your support and other animals need agave! Using honey means more bees!!
Other animal products that are absolutely fine to use because they produce it in excess:
- Wool. Sheep need to be sheared or their wool will get excessively large, matted and gross. Its legit just a haircut. Calm down and use wool instead of whatever fake acrylic microplastic shit they have in stores now. Wool is super warm, insulating, and guess what! It grows back! Its a renewable resource and all the sheep want in return is some good pasture and protection from predators.
- Eggs. I’m not talking about storebought eggs. Go to your local farmer’s market. Find someone around with chickens/ducks. These birds produce eggs literally every day and will not stop unless they are molting, brooding, or kept in the dark for most of the day. Like I am not joking when I say you can very easily find someone with poultry and they will beg you to take some eggs. Theres so many. Please. Take some duck eggs. I dont want them. I had 8 laying ducks last year. Thats 8 eggs every day. Thats 2 dozen eggs every THREE DAYS. Thats SO MANY EGGS PLEASE TAKE SOME EGGS
Reducing animal cruelty does not mean abolish the use of animal products. Go eat honey. Go use wool. Go find a friend with birds and eat eggs, or get your own. Just because it comes from an animal does not make it cruel.
More people should keep dairy goats.
For clarification, though, honey bees are not the ones threatened with extinction (although they face similar threats to other bees); it’s other bees like bumble bees, mason bees, mining bees, etc. that are in trouble.
The best things you can do for bee conservation
- plant flowers native to your region to provide them with food. If you’re located in the USA you can start here (don’t know as much about other places sorry)
- avoid using lawn and garden insecticides if at all possible. That stuff you can buy at Lowe’s that says it kills 200+ types of insects? Yeah, anything that affects such a broad range of bugs is lethally toxic to bees. These chemicals are also highly dangerous to you, so think long and hard about it.
- let other people know! tell your friends about the cool bees!
This bee is called the Perplexing Bumble Bee. Its scientific name is Bombus perplexus. You’re welcome.
do you think pop-pop ever reunited with his long lost brother Shmorb
lots of bill returns fics seem to act like Ford would do well if Bill returned but like. I really don't think he would be able to handle it in any way. he would shut down immediately.
bro spent about 30 years of his life planning to kill that guy, then he dies. the relief is immense despite the paranoia. the fear would not be enough to prepare you for an actual return of the guy you spent 30 years wishing was dead.
What fanfic writers say vs what they mean. Btw.
I love that translation, so I added one of my own: my comment vs what I really mean
Don't you hate it when you catch your roommates trying to eat your food when you explicitly told them it's yours
I really hate the concept of “little t trauma”. Hate it.
“Big T Trauma”, the logic goes, is for things that are “actually bad enough’, like war veterans or rape survivors. Or people who survive natural disasters or terrorist attacks or car accidents.* “Little t trauma” is said to be for things like “interpersonal conflict”, infidelity, divorce, “financial worries or difficulty”, “legal trouble”, “death of a pet”, “bullying or harassment”, “loss of significant relationships”, or emotional abuse.*
And it’s bullshit.
*Examples taken from various articles on the subject I just looked up in preparation for this rant.
Plenty of people survive car accidents and sexual assault and war without lasting mental health issues.
The perceived severity of the traumatic event doesn’t actually matter. What matters is how your brain reacted to it.
You can have PTSD or other serious traumagenic disorders from bullying at school, or “just” emotional abuse, or neglect, or just from not having your needs met. If you’re marinating in stress long enough, it causes SO MANY problems.
Poverty is extremely traumatic! Your brain doesn’t necessarily understand the difference between “someone is routinely causing me serious physical harm” and “we run out of money for food by the third week of the month”. It just knows to interpret these things as threats to your continued survival. They cause you to produce stress hormones and other physiological responses. I’ve probably known people who have severe, ongoing issues due to just about everything on that list!
Your brain is trying to make sure you don’t die, and all the fucking logic in the world about “Well I wasn’t ACTUALLY in danger” or “Well she wouldn’t really have hit me” or “it was just kids being kids” doesn’t change that.
Every single trauma survivor I’ve ever known has thought that what happened to them Wasn’t Bad Enough to Count, because Other People Have it Worse. Every single one.
I think we’re so close to starting to realize that, as it turns out, a whole metric FUCKTON of people have experienced traumatic events and it’s affected a LOT more people than we initially believed. We’ve started to understand that it’s not just war vets who get PTSD.
But it’s like we’re desperate to come up with a reason that no, actually, it’s not that the systems we have in place routinely damage people severely - or that a lot of very common parenting techniques cause serious harm. We have to subdivide it further into little categories, and you should stop being so dramatic. OBVIOUSLY it that wasn’t bad enough. To be clear, I understand that this terminology was PROBABLY well-intentioned. “Look, a whole host of experiences can be trauma! We should acknowledge that!” - or at least I hope it was. But it’s that implied “[but obviously it’s not as bad as the people who have REAL problems. Don’t you know some people had to deal with TERRORISM!?]” that makes it bullshit.
People who are really struggling with awful, serious things already have enough trouble being taken seriously and taking their own pain seriously.
This concludes your irregularly scheduled rant about how mental health is discussed.
(credit to XKCD, and to @arinrowan for linking me to the other day’s comic after I was ranting about this.)
Bringing this back both because family holidays are really hard for a lot of people, and because it’s also a time of year when people say [incorrect] things like “I mean, it wasn’t that bad, they didn’t hit me or anything. :-/”.
Unironically a thing I wish a lot more people knew about trauma, and about trauma disorders in particular, is that the event itself is NOT, largely, what determines whether or not you develop a trauma disorder. Largely what determines if you develop a trauma disorder is whether or not you receive prompt CARE for the trauma you’ve just experienced.
she's in a better place now (her bedroom)
They should invent a mutual that lives within driving distance
Gonna be honest one of the reasons I post much less here is because I got a job working with 8 year olds and the realization we have the same taste in books has demolished me
WINGS OF FIRE BACKPACKS EXIST???
I'm so sorry these are what they all look like
you know what would be one of the greatest things Tumblr could implement right now?
there are currently community labels based on nsfw content but i believe adding a label for flashing lights would be incredible
i personally don't have epilepsy, but my father does and i would not like to find out i've inherited it scrolling through my dash.
this is a matter of safety and accessibility. our community is already conscious about these matters, but adding a uniform system would help everyone
(please reblog this post, spread the idea)
Having guy friends is like: hehe lets exchange memes and rant about anime together
Having girl friends is like: i need to hold you tenderly in my arms 🥺
🥺🥺🥺
Do your part - use literally anything other than Google Chrome
Reminder that switching to Firefox is incredibly easy and takes just a few minutes, you WILL be able to copy over all your cookies, browsing history, logins etc, as well as change the look/layout so it feels like what you’re used to.
Reminder that Firefox literally has built in privacy features and a very simple way to add MORE (along with Ad blockers) if you feel the base features aren’t enough.
are there good alternatives to using google search?
@nightgnome DuckDuckGo! It actually produces slightly better results because it doesn’t rely on the stupid algorithm.
Personally I have mixed success with duckduckgo, but you can also use Startpage.com, which literally just serves anonymized Google results, so you get the same quality of Google results, but they can't track you or serve a "personalized" echo chamber.
Wait Chrome is THAT RECENT??! :0





















