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non-it/its users need to get their shit together fr
ok time to elaborate.
earlier today i was talking to someone and i mentioned one of my friends, and said 'yeah it was saying-' and before i could finish my sentence she interrupted me and went "it?" as if i'd misspoken. when i said "yeah, it said-" she looked at me as if i'd like insulted her or something and went "why are you calling your friends its? don't you mean they?"
i pretty much just went "nevermind" because that's not worth it (and no i'm not misgendering a friend for someone else's "comfort" like wtf) but the issue is
this. happens. every. time.
you tell someone else you use it/its? they look at you like you're fucking insane. 99% of the time they will refuse to use your pronouns because it's "offensive" to them (yknow what else is offensive? purposely misgendering me when i literally just told you my pronouns). when you talk about a friend who uses it/its pronouns, 99% of the time the other person will try to like. correct you or stop you even though they don't even know who you're talking about.
"well they/them is gender neutral too so just use th-" no. my pronouns are it/its. they/them is not it/its. they/them is misgendering.
"but it's gender neutra-" okay and? if dude said he uses he/him and you used they/them that's misgendering. why is it okay when it's it pronouns?
"but it's offensive to refer to people as-" bitch i am literally referring to myself as it/its. i am telling you directly in plain words that these are the pronouns that make me comfortable. i don't give a fuck what you think of them they are my pronouns
at this point i settle with they/them because i'm just done having people look at me like i said a slur when i tell them what pronouns i'm comfortable with.
so! there is quite a compilation of people in the comments being pretty much exactly the person this post is criticizing, so i want to add on just a little.
i thought it was clear, but evidently not clear enough: i do not give a shit about how anyone else feels about my pronouns. you do not get to reassign me pronouns for your own comfort or out of a misplaced sense of justice/protection. i get to choose my pronouns and i choose it/its.
"but it/its has been used negatively towards me in the past, so i feel too uncomfortable using them for you!" i understand that, but why do you have the right to make me uncomfortable instead? she/her pronouns have been used negatively towards us in the past, and sometimes we're so dysphoric it hurts to hear other people referred to with those pronouns and refer to people with she/her.
we are not going to go up to someone and say "actually, please don't use she/her around me, because it makes me uncomfortable and has been used negatively towards me in the past. i'm going to use they/them for you instead, even though those aren't your pronouns, and may make you uncomfortable."
my issue with those pronouns is mine to work through. it is not my place to tell people to use different pronouns because of what i think, nor is it my place to arbitrarily reassign them.
"they/them is gender neutral, you can't misgender someone with gender neutral pronouns!" yes you can. misgendering = using pronouns that the person does not use. there are a very large amount of it/its users in the notes who absolutely agree that they/them is incredibly uncomfortable. they are two different words. they do not convey the same gender. they do not convey the same vibe.
"then i'll just use no pronouns and just the person's name!" that is degendering. avoiding a person's pronouns and finding a "work around" so that you're still Technically Not Misgendering Them. some people do prefer no pronouns, and that's great! but if i am giving you a set of pronouns and asking them to use them for me, and you straight up refuse, that is just. rude.
i do not give a shit how you feel about my pronouns 👍 use it/its or get out!
(non-it/its users please use your brain cells before you add words to this post)
these are all the same sort of animal. do you understand.
these are all small skittish creatures that love to bite and are found in drawers of garages and classrooms. they’re all related and in the same small biter family. weird little kids who play with them while they’re distracted and have empathy for them can tame them and become these beasts companions
Thank the Lord someone understands
it’s weird how NTs can call NDs “weird” their entire life but the minute NDs try to take back the word and turn it into a compliment instead we get called “cringy” and a “pick me”
I am trying to decide what I want to draw today so I think I'm gonna make the Mane 6 in the sims and see where it goes from there
I gave Rainbow Dash a race car bed
Pinkie Pie has become a Lawyer
Rainbow Dash's Job (she digs holes in the yard (she is unemployed))
Twilight decides to try painting!
Introducing Sweetie-Boopie-Boo, Fluttershy's pet Hawk.
Every summer I forget how much I fucking love spiders I’ve drunk one every day this week
Drinking spiders??!
You put ice cream in a glass and pour soft drink over it. It creates a thick layer of delicious foam on top of a sweet, creamy drink with ice cream in it.
And yes I did attempt to get a picture by googling “Australia spider” like a fucking moron.
I think that’s called a float in the states. Although we usually plop the icecream into the glass after the soda. Similar effect though.
We wouldn’t be able to call it that because the word is way too easy to confuse with a floater, which is a meat pie floating in a bowl of pea soup. It is every bit as delicious as a spider though. I should get some pies and pea soup.
I would like to announce that this is not a standard Australian food, it’s exclusively a South Australian one and the rest of Australia is just as appalled as the rest of the world.
It’s not our fault that the rest of Australia is incorrect about food.
“average person eats 3 spiders a year" factoid actualy just statistical error. average person eats 0 spiders per year. Spiders Georg, who lives in South Australia and BADLY misinterpreted our survey question,,
speeedylesbian
what a good day to remember that butch lesbians (ESPECIALLY trans, poc, and/or fat butch lesbians) aren’t fucking predatory
tallicatty
“trans butch lesbian”? More like heterosexual man.
speeedylesbian
Reblog the Fred of TERF banishment to keep your blog TERF free for a year.
I will pretty much instantly distrust a fellow leftist if they paint the enemy as being ugly (’all terfs have bad hair’, ‘all far-right bros are fat people with neck beards’, etc). It shows me they haven’t done some of the most basic work of un-linking appearance from character, which leaves them open to a vast array of bigoted tropes, from fatphobia, ableism and classism to homophobia, transphobia antisemitism and racism, because who we see as ‘attractive’ or looking ‘wholesome’ and who we assume to look ‘untrustworthy’ or villainous’ has been coded by all these things.
lots of people in the notes pointing out that this is also true about:
- Dismissing people because of their age
- Pretending that the people who disagree with you are ‘unintelligent’ and the people who agree with you are ‘smart’
- Accusing the people you disagree with of having some mental illness.
- Accents and speech patterns
- Mocking personal hygiene
- Mocking someone not getting laid or mocking genital size or shape
- Mocking lack of productivity and independence (’you probably live in your moms basement’ stuff)
And YES. You are all right. These are all bad reasons to claim superiority over someone and every time someone brings up this stuff their ageism/ableism/classism/sexism/etc is showing.
And ya know, 99 out of 100 times, the person(s) that you’re insulting either can’t hear you or doesn’t really care what you have to say. But the fat people, disabled people, mentally ill people, etc. in your own community do hear and feel a little less safe in that community because of you. Do better.
When mocking a foe and you blurt
Appearance-based barbs like it’s dirt,
(And see the list growing)
Your -isms are showing -
Your friends are the ones it will hurt.
I have to remember every 5 years that when I was a little kid my dad was having obsessive spirals about things he did wrong like 30 years prior and his talked to his therapist about it and you know what they did NOT say. They did not say "hmmm well have you learned your lesson changed your behavior and atoned?"
They said "that sounds like a really unhelpful and distressing thing that your brain is making you think about All The Time. How about when that happens you try to think about something that makes you happy instead"
(My dad carried a picture of me at age 4 with a large inflatable dinosaur in his wallet for this purpose) (hard to ruminate about past failures when looking at a picture of your kid enjoying a large inflatable dinosaur)
Anyway. Fucking... stop thinking you can Solve Ethics by spiraling you fool. It's the Ethics Cuckoo. Fuck that guy
Maybe plow the Lord’s fields in heaven
Dave Brandt was a leading researcher and farmer involved in no-till farming, which means farming without disturbing the soil.
His decades-long career of no-till farming and different methods and materials used to increase his crop yield have been used all over the world to better agriculture in various climates and places where more modern tilling isn't a viable option.
the earth and everyone who lives here will always owe something to farmers who fight for a better way to cultivate this world instead of destroy it. It’s honest work indeed. Thank you Dave Brandt, may the soil care for you as tenderly as you cared for it.
RIP Dave Brandt.
Do your part - use literally anything other than Google Chrome
Reminder that switching to Firefox is incredibly easy and takes just a few minutes, you WILL be able to copy over all your cookies, browsing history, logins etc, as well as change the look/layout so it feels like what you’re used to.
Once again - most, if not all widely available and usable web browsers that aren't firefox, run on the Chromium engine at this point.
peeling those sour rainbow gummy strips into long thin strings and putting them into cheap energy drink to create something im calling battery acid spaghetti will update once ive finished it
dont do this
I really hope its not too bad bc i actually love both components.
it forms a dry skin at the top made of the sour pellets. not a great start.
tastes really good actually. i also feel like i am about to explode.
do not do this.
Unanimous consensus: Do not do this
Other people: Hold on I’m about to do this
Rip to y'all, but I'm built different. Trying this tonight
Best I can do with what I have (I'm at work rn)
Oh that is a... fascinating smell
Don't do this
i think i'll try this tomorrow actually, it can't be that bad, im sure ive made worse cursed foods before
the time has come
i just did this twice this shit tastes great idk what's wrong with yall
i think im gonna drink more of this later i wonder what happens if i add vodka
oh no! i do not want to be responsible for killing maia!
oh no! i do not
want to be responsible
for killing maia!
Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.
Anonymous asked:
A lack of bullying early in life leads to cringe things like grown ass adults bringing dakimakura pillows in public and treating it like a real wife/husband, kids meowing at people, people going to conventions without wearing deodorant, kids wearing tails/cat ears to school, , adult weebs wearing ahegao hoodies in public, weebs using broken Japanese, weebs creeping on Japanese women and weebs forcing their porn on others.
Hey folks, pro-abuse bullying anon is back. Or another one like 'em.
Come get your free thumps in since they love and value abuse so much.
This guy wants to be the fun police? Show 'em how we treat cops.
Anon is the type of person who thinks parents should have the right to beat their kids to "correct" bad behavior.
Hey asshole, I have solutions to ALL of those problems that 1.) Actually fix them, and 2.) Don’t require bullying!
Grown-ass adults bringing dakimakura pillows in public and treating it like a wife/husband;
This doesn’t sound like a problem to me at all, unless the person actually literally believes the pillow is a real person, or they have issues regarding abandonment and lonliness. If there are no underlying issues though, and the setting is appropriate for something silly like that...what’s your actual problem with it? And no, you cringing at it doesn’t count. That’s YOUR problem.
Kids meowing at people.
Again, not an issue. It can be annoying, sure, but behaviors of acting out in children is actually a symptom of bullying, not something bullying can stop.
People going to conventions without wearing deodorant.
I don’t understand, just like tell people to wear deodorant. You could just explain to young people why they stink. If someone doesn’t want to wear deodorant, you bullying them isn’t going to make them start. In fact, making people feel welcomed and accepted makes them more likely to actually respect your opinion and listen to you.
Kids wearing tails/cat ears to school.
You’re a piece of shit. Do you know how many kids I saw wearing crazy shit to school on Halloween? I once saw a guy dress up as a tall guy with his head removed so he could pretend to hold it in his own hand, and your problem is with a couple little accessories!?
adult weebs wearing ahegao hoodies in public.
Are you kidding!? Ahegao hoodies are hilarious! I once heard a story from this guy I know who worked at Walmart, and one of the workers got hired with a full-sleeve ahegao tattoo. A TATTOO. And you know what the manager said? It was literally something like, “Dude, I love your tattoo so much, I want the name of your tattoo artist so I can get a sick tattoo like that, but I’m sorry you have to cover it up because it’s inappropriate for the workplace.” Absolute LEGEND. Sounds to me like you’re just allergic to fun, anon.
Weebs using broken Japanese.
Japanese people do the same thing with English. Are you honestly, EARNESTLY using the, “They can’t speak the language, so they’re stupid!” argument? Would you say the same thing if you saw a Japanese person speaking broken English?
Weebs creeping on Japanese women.
You know creeps are going to creep regardless of how hard they’re bullied? In fact, it’s pretty well known that being rejected from society makes you more likely to fall down the criminal path. We should be focusing on better prevention of crime, education on what abuse looks like, helping victims, and rehabilitation of previous criminals instead of just bullying everyone.
Weebs forcing their porn on others.
Why do you keep singling out weebs!? Why is it that anime fans are just more likely to be bad people!? Why don’t you feel the same way about people who love western cartoons or shows or heck, what about people who literally start fights over American football!? In fact, this entire thing seems like it’s just trying to paint Japanese culture as inherently disgusting and predatory. Do you realize how that makes you sound? Can you explain your thought process without sounding racist?
And yeah, obviously forcing porn on others is bad, but that has nothing to do with weebs or bullying. If someone seriously can’t figure out that forcing porn onto other people is bad, then why would abusing them change that? Again; Prevention, education, compassion, and rehabilitation. Anything that can’t fix can certainly not be fixed with abuse.
So, with all due respect, shut your fucking trap, you self-righteous cunt. 🖕🖕🖕
unless the person actually literally believes the pillow is a real person, or they have issues regarding abandonment and loneliness
No. Not caveats. People who are POSIC (believe objects are sentient) have a right to exist in public. People with harmless delusions have a right to exist in public (and no, they are not harming the person with the delusions either, that's sanist psych norma that say deviating from an accepted standard of consensus reality is somehow "unhealthy" for someone even if it causes them no distress, dysfunction, or harmful behaviors).
People with issues regarding abandonment and loneliness may literally find that object companions, sentient or not, alleviate those issues and may be the only accommodation that allows them to feel safe interacting with other people and making friends, because they see it as already having a friend there to back them up (whether or not they perceive it as a true person or a comfort object).
Just because you are uncomfortable with those things doesn't mean they're bad or even unhealthy. The rest of your points are good, but that caveat is just the intersection of sanism/ableism and cringe culture. The pillow is okay in those cases too.
Hang on. I think I've cracked the code
Is this anything?