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“But I think it’s intoxicating when somebody is so unapologetically who they are.” — Don Cheadle

A group of rough looking boys walked past me today and all I heard of their conversation was “he’s got that anxiety disorder bro so I went with him so he’d be more comfortable” and it made me realise the world isn’t all that bad

The pet store I worked at had a pen with rabbits near the front door. On every side of the pen were huge signs saying “You can pet me, but don’t pick me up!” One day two absolutely huge guys came in and one immediately reaches into the pen to grab a rabbit. Before i could say anything his friend grabbed his arm and asked him “did you see the sign?” He said “yeah! it says that you can pick them up but don’t pet them!” Then he went quiet for a moment and softly said “I didn’t read it right did I?” And his friend just puts his arm on his shoulder and said “its ok, i know you’ve got that thing where words get mixed up. Let just pet these cute lil shits” And I still haven’t gotten over that interaction.

I was walking my dog through Boston bc he likes the likes car rides. He’s a little thing tbh we call him short and long. So this huge scary man with a full beard approaches me like “hey can my buddy and I pet your dog? He gets nervous around dogs but your’s is so small I think it’s a good place to start.” Ofc I was like “yes he’s very friendly!” So this guy brings his equally big friend over and they sit on the floor while this man looks terrified of my tiny dog so big man number one asks “can I pick him up?” And i say yes so he picks him up and puts him on man number two’s lap and man number two is abt to freak out and his friend straight up just goes “hey man, it’s okay just relax I’d never let anything hurt you. He’s a good boy.” I’ll never forget it ever bc I know that man looked at me (5'3 , glasses, probably wearing a sweater vest) and my dog (kinda goofy looking little thing) and was like ‘ah yes the two least intimidating living things I’ve seen in Boston all day he’ll feel relaxed around them’ and went out of his way to help his friend. It makes me so happy

I love this

I was (of course it was) in NYC at the time, riding on the R train and this burly, tall, leather and black jeans with fuck off huge steel-plated knee-highs and a fourteen foot lime green mohawk gets on the train and sit’s down, his jansport backpack making this Ghu-awful THUNK as he sets it between his feet. And no one says anything. Everyone saw him because how could you not?

And he opens his bag and starts rustling through it and sets aside some YA novel that I don’t remember but that it had this absolutely lovely lavender purple cover. and then he pulls out his fucking knitting and just goes to town. Just, minding his own business, knitting away intently, listening to his earbuds.

And wasn’t a person on that train gonna say a DAMN thing about it. No one pointed or made any comments because this dude was built to crush motherfuckers. And he was knitting in public so you know he knew no fear and was happy and confident and then this little girl walked away from her mum and walked straight up to him and waved and her mother looked surprised (but not scared, this is NYC - we don’t know fear because we’re too busy). But the guy sees this little girl wave at him and just gives her the BIGGEST SMILE and waves back and takes out an earbud and says hi and they start talking about knitting and how he learned on his own and she wanted to learn and her mother didn’t know. But he suggested that there were knitting clubs and a lot of them were free and would happily help a new little knitter like her.

It was the single most adorable and heart warming thing of my life. Like here’s this dude with a Rancid t-shirt that looks like it was probably printed in someone’s flat fifteen years ago with an anti-nazi patch right over his heart and enough metal in his clothes to be worth recycling but a little girl waved and what type of nasty, heartless fuck doesn’t smile at kids? That ain’t punk.

Used to work at a nature center, which was attached to an elementary school. Occasionally the fire alarms would go off, and for the most part, we’d all just go about our business (weekly fire drills for the kids didn’t mean that the snakes tanks didn’t need cleaning).

In the middle of one of these alarms, I had a lovely 7’ long red rat snake wrapped around me while I was cleaning up. (She was my favorite - active, but polite, never bit or struck or pulled back to threaten it, or musked me, no matter what I did with her). Of course, law of averages, there had to be one that was a “real” alarm. Bunch of big firefighters come in, demanded to know why we weren’t outside with everyone else, the work’s.

And then they started screaming.

High pitched, girly shrieks. As first one, then another, noticed I was wearing a snake.

And, of course, the screaming brought more fire fighters over, who also screamed… let’s just say I had three trucks worth of dudes gathered around me, stunned that I would -wear- a snake. Who, of course, saw new people and was doing her best to make friends.

Once the false alarm was sorted, they all came back, to a man, to meet the snakes. I had enough for each of them to “try one on.”

These big, buff dudes, who risk their lives running into raging fires without a thought, had to hype themselves up for me to put a young hog nose in their palms. Anxiety sweat dropped down their faces and soaked through their undershirts as I let the red and grey rat snakes cool around their arms. When the garden snake slipped down one guy’s collar, I thought he was going to drop dead from a heart attack, right there. But they all did it! And survived!

I just wish I’d taken pictures to show the third graders when they came in after classes finished!

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I go to college early or fall semester because of marching band and so do a lot of the fall sports teams right? So I’m in line in the dining hall, waiting for some spaghetti or something and two dudes from the soccer team or football team or something are behind me, just chatting, and I’m alone so I’m lowkey eavesdropping. At some point Sports Boy 1 notices another sports boy and points out the pants he’s wearing to his friend, Sports Boy 2. And he says something along the lines of “Those were the pants I was talking about before. What do you think? Could I pull them off?” And Sports Boy 2 looks around and finds the pants Sports Boy 1 was talking about and goes “yeah I think you could pull them off,” and then he paused and almost like an afterthought said “but you know, what’s important is that you feel confident in them,”

And man I sat there so touched because like, yes bro preach that body postivity to your friend, remind him that it’s not about what other people think but how he feels.

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My life to have witnessed the firefighters meeting the snakes. Bless their hearts 🤣🤣🐍🐍🐍🐍🐍

London Underground, a few years ago. Punk guy - ripped jeans, leathers, multi-coloured mohawk, facial tattoos, safety pins where they really don’t belong, bottle in hand - talking to these two googly-eyed German tourist girls. Tells them how to get to wherever they wanted to go, cool free places in the neighbourhood, what to look out for.  Gets up to leave with the final warning: “Just promise me you’ll be careful who you talk to, okay? Some pretty weird people in this town.”

These are so sweet😄

This has gotten better since I last saw it.

Every time this crosses my path, it has beautiful new stories on it.

This is an illustration I did for the August 2014 issue of Popular Science Magazine. The assignment was to show a scifi take on human aging in the future. I wanted to do something relatively positive, so I drew a lady whose life has been been prolonged through cybernetic enhancements and augmentation, so she gets to spend time with her great-great-great-great grandchildren. 

Thanks to AD Michelle Mruk!

this is beautiful

So I keep wanting to reblog Cyborg Matriarch here, but I keep losing track of her.

She’s not getting away this time.

I really want a sci-fi story to go with this.

This could literally be an Onion article

Spending a nice 5 minutes in the Despair Pod before a union-busting robot physically pulls me out

unionising employees get sent to the mindfulness booth to atone for their sins

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checked it out and uh

‘small room’ is generous, motherboard 

THATS. THE SIZE OF MY SHOWER OH MY GOD

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😂☠️

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fuck your doctor’s feelings. this sounds harsh but it needs to be. i cannot count the number of times i have encountered people who were not being adequately treated by their doctors, often not even diagnosed, often not even being believed, but were too afraid to switch doctors because of their doctor’s feelings. people are suffering and sometimes dying because they are afraid of hurting the feelings of someone who is failing at their job. not all doctors are equally qualified to treat all conditions, not all doctors are going to be good for every patient, and not all doctors are good at their jobs at all.

your doctor’s job is to treat you and if they suck at their job, get a new one. get as many as it takes. their feelings are not more important than your life and well-being.

This also goes for counselors and psychiatrists! Their job is to help you, and if they’re not doing that then you should definitely find someone ekse who can! No shame

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Do your own research as well if you don’t think you’re doctor is doing a good job. That goes for helping your older relatives who aren’t good with computers or may not feel comfortable confronting their doctors too. Doctors routinely give sub-standard care to the elderly and disabled. 

Y'all. You don’t have to tell them you’re finding a new doctor.

From their perspective, you just aren’t making appointments anymore. And they likely won’t notice for a long time. The only time you’re gonna have to have the “oh, I’ve been seeing a different doctor…” conversation is if you live in a small town and actually see your doctor in the grocery store or your kids go to school together.

You don’t have to break up with the doctor that isn’t giving you proper care. You can ghost them.

You can ask for a copy of your medical records “for your records” or even tell them you’re moving. In the US you have a legal right to your medical records. They have to give them to you if you ask.

Feel free to lie if you need to in order to get those records. They’re your medical record and if they’re going to make you uncomfortable when you ask for them, all bets are off. Say whatever you need to.

I want to counter this by saying that just because the doctor is saying something that you don’t like or you disagree with doesn’t mean that he’s wrong.

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nope this post is about bad doctors that hurt and kill people. did you miss that part? where I personally know so many people who are suffering and dying because their doctors refused to believe them at all? I have had hundreds of tests and met with at least a hundred doctors in my life. probably hundreds. most of them are unwilling to deal with chronic or terminal illnesses. most of them would rather call me a liar than search online or try to learn more when they do not know what they are talking about. most want to run one test, if any, and then tell me nothing is wrong, or diagnose me with anxiety instead. they do not apologize. they do not admit to not knowing enough. they blame me. countless have called me a liar to my face when I tell them my symptoms. I have test results. I have conditions many doctors have never heard of and their bullshit forced me to lose out on so many years of my life because I was too busy writhing in pain without adequate treatment. I am terminally ill. I know more than you about this. fuck off

“Recently, a friend of mine told me that she felt guilty that she hadn’t accomplished more during the last year of the pandemic. Now, I’ve heard that a few times. And I have a feeling we’re gonna be hearing that more and more.”

The Amber Ruffin Show (May 21, 2021)

Stunning Surreal Photography Collages by Hüseyin Şahin

Rationality versus irrationality, fantasy versus reality, logic as opposed to magic create constraints in our imagination as we grow up; we undergo a continuous struggle within ourselves, curbing our childlike curiosity and our desire to explore. However, Istanbul-based visual artist Hüseyin Şahin broke free of these limitations to compose surrealistic scenes.

My favorite thing about this is that the “traditional” woman isn’t always on the left. By switching it up the artist is really committing to the idea that the right way for a woman to be is however she wants.

Just wish some of the women were plus size..

I really love how much Lainey’s art and positivity is bringing people joy and I really hope you’re checking out her insta, it’s full of so many more

It got better

Okay I haven’t reblogged this addition

“why dont you just give him a chance”

idk because im not physically or mentally attracted to him and ‘but he likes you’ or ‘but hes really nice’ isnt going to change the fact that im not interested

Damn, I don’t think women know how much that really hurts

I don’t understand this “you don’t know how much that hurts” stuff. Do men not remember rejecting women? Have they forgotten that they hold us to impossibly high standards of behavior and beauty? That our personality alone is not enough for most men. Us being a “nice person” isn’t what men list as their prime quality in a woman.

How come we’re rejected constantly, compared to each other, pitted against each other and pretty much just accept this and move on but the second we do that to a guy we’re friend zoning bitches that are shallow and heartless.

Normally the men complaining about rejection would have no problem finding a lovely girlfriend if they’d just expand their idea of beauty.

If you’re not a stereotypical “hot guy” don’t expect to pull a stereotypical “hot chick”. It’s not every man’s right to have an extremely attractive girlfriend; it’s not your right to have any girlfriend. And if you wouldn’t date a woman based purely on her having a nice personality, why the fuck should any woman date you?

This is how you know that men are incapable of empathizing with women. When they say shit like “You don’t know how much it hurts to get rejected” it is a DIRECT, CLEAR implication that we don’t experience emotion or pain on the same level that they do. That is some basic-ass misogyny and dehumanization and you should back away from any man that talks that way.

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“Damn, I don’t think women know how much that really hurts” 

your hurt feelings do not override my right to say no.

Your hurt feelings do not override my right to say no.

👏 👏 👏

it’s true and you should say it

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We’re all having “hard conversations” about racism, police brutality, and #BlackLivesMatter I hope. 

You’ve probably noticed that detractors often use the same “racist talking points” in response. Here’s a researched and sourced guide to help you answer, for the times you may get stuck.

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zero light plants

THIS IS SUCH A SPECIFIC AND SUPER NECESSARY POST.

Spider plants are among the best natural air filters you can put in a flowerpot. They don’t just produce oxygen, they clean out other gases and toxins and whatever else is floating around the room.

Also they’re easy as fuck to grow more of because they reproduce by putting little mini plants out on stalks. Clip one off, stick it in a pot and you’re good!

Spider plants are safe to have around cats, too!

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I need a plant that I can forget to water for weeks on end as well.

Concept: an apocalyptic or post apocalyptic tv show centred on a group of disabled protagonists

Must include:

-enough details about how they survive that no one can call it “unrealistic”

-mental and physical disabilities 

-a character who isn’t necessarily contributing to the survival of the group, but is not abandoned or looked down upon

-at least one character whose disability is actually less of a problem for them now that the world is ending/ended (example: autistic character who used to be constantly overstimulated but no longer is)

Optional features:

-abled person says “the only disability in life is a bad attitude” and gets told where to stuff it

-creatively weaponized mobility aids/assistive devices

-character who abled people think isn’t worth helping because of their disability, but actually has at least one skill essential to the survival of the group

-every time an abled person says something ignorant, all present disabled people look into the camera like they’re on the office 

- character who only survived the initial apocalyptic event because they had an assistive device  which just so happened in that one circumstance to give them an advantage over everyone else

-the abled camp wearing rags and eating meat on sticks cooked over a crude fire. pans over to our heroes and they have perfect clothes, a variety of food and also music.

“what? how did you do that?” “well, jane’s special interest is the medieval production of cloth and, like 8 of us can sew. Turns out those of us who can’t go out much develop a LOT of hobbies.”

A character who scares everyone when a zombie bites them but literally every one of their limbs are amputated.

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“They…. they bit Gina.”

*Gina pulls of prosthetic arm* “It’s ok guys! They just got my decoy.”

(vibrates at the speed of sound) 

I love this a normal amount

Defying Doomsday is an anthology of apocalypse fiction featuring disabled and chronically ill protagonists, proving it’s not always the “fittest” who survive – it’s the most tenacious, stubborn, enduring and innovative characters who have the best chance of adapting when everything is lost. In stories of fear, hope and survival, this anthology gives new perspectives on the end of the world, from authors Corinne Duyvis, Janet Edwards, Seanan McGuire, Tansy Rayner Roberts, Stephanie Gunn, Elinor Caiman Sands, Rivqa Rafael, Bogi Takács, John Chu, Maree Kimberley, Octavia Cade, Lauren E Mitchell, Thoraiya Dyer, Samantha Rich, and K L Evangelista.

*reblogs this version again in case you haven’t seen it*

Oh fuck, there was an account I follow on Instagram….. Shit

They wrote this short novel which was this concept

It was five autistic teen-agers in the apocalypse (written by an actual autistic person dw)

Fuck I can’t remember what it was called

It’s Underdogs, by Chris Bonnello

Hell yes

hell yes!!!

Our Kickstarter ends in only 55 hours. We have also unlocked two free bonus novellas for all backers, if that sweetens the deal.

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Neat!! :D I love me a zombie apocalypse!

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Black is not a dirty word.

Click here for 200+ free social justice and mental health resources. Follow @bfpnola for more!

And please remember, Black is good is a radical concept, but radical concepts are what create change. Keep fighting.

I had to tell my s.o’s sister that she’s allowed to say “black” because I was explaining black people’s hair and she’s like, “you know what I mean” and while I did I wanted her to be comfortable saying it. Now if she were to say blacks i’ma 👀🪓

^^ that *blacks* shit bout to get a lot of people hemmed tf up

same energy

another Same Energy: so ive asked my family to refer to me as they/them bc im nb, and a few times ive corrected my cousins when theyve misgendered me. and so when my little cousins were playing superheroes, one of them said i could be supergirl, and my four year old cousin immediately pipes in with “but sams not a girl” and then, after a bit of thought, “you can be superthey!”

Theydies and gentlethem

Same Energy ™️: my good close friend didn’t want to call me queen or king, so they ended up calling me monarch, which was funny as fuck cause my brain instantly went to “the butterfly???”

one of my friends calls me madamonsieur and i love it so much.

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See, THIS is how you make gender jokes!

Same energy: my mum often gets stuck on trying to find a gender neutral way to call me her daughter and one time she settled on “my mature child”

My wife calls me Wubby for wife/hubby and I honestly love it

oh, i am delighted that this is going around with my madamonsieur addition.

I love all of this. ❤️

‘My mature child’ sounds eerily like something my mother would say, omg.

My SO refers to me as their boygirlfriend and it’s frankly my favorite thing in the world.

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I’m not nb but I love this :)