Let your throw pillows do double-duty! This sequined pair livens up stark white chairs AND gets houseguests that much closer to #Truth. 🙏😎⚡️

Questions about cultural appropriation!

These are just some of the things worth thinking about.

Cultural appropriation absolutely exists, and it hurts people. Many are offended when they see things that are sacred to them being treated casually or even mocked by people who have no idea or done care. Other people have given their entire lives to art forms that were born of struggle, ignored or discouraged by mainstream culture and money, only to see, after decades of work, those who have had every advantage from that mainstream decide they like it now and will commence to make money off it. The past is not dead; it’s not even past, and what happened yesterday still matters today even (especially!) when it doesn’t matter equally to everyone.

It’s important to recognize when this is happening. It’s important to understand when your actions, unintentional or not, sting and wound.

It is also important to use discernment in each situation, to hear what is being said, then examine what has happened and what your role, if any, should be here.

There are aesthetic and culinary and musical and architectural and artistic ideas that are not on that level, and we can and should delight in the creativity and diversity of the world around us. We can celebrate and enjoy how different cultures come up with their own takes, how these influences spread around the world, morphing and changing and smacking up against other delicious or beautiful cultural concepts.

Hello, please go here for some whole dude best-practices.

Should I throw my phone into the ocean as a coping mechanism y/n?

Heyyyyy, guess what is on sale TODAY! This lil second-edition-that-could! Buy one and read it! Buy two and give one to a friend! Buy 18, make a verrrry wobbly house of cards! Buy 2,000 and make yourself a funny, helpful nest!

Did you know that on March 6 ...

... you can purchase the second edition of Adulting? That is true! There’s a tush-load of new materials and steps, new doodles and new coping mechanisms for the Trump era? True story! You can get it by clicking here. It’s a good book. You will learn things from it. Some people really and truly love this book, and if you’re one of those people THANK YOU. I honestly think it’s worth $16 ($22, even!) but if you disagree then take it back to the dang store!

Important Announcemenr

The official mood for 2018 is low-key resplendent. Please plan accordingly. 💖👑🤙⚡️

So sick of this country never making the common sense compromises on guns, like asking the social studies, art and French departments to conceal a weapon on them at all times and also be combat-ready former Army Ranger sharpshooters who write great college recommendation letters.

‪Why do we always have to phrase it as “mentally ill people shouldn’t have guns” rather than “dangerous people shouldn’t have guns”?

I’m in one of those categories so I see a therapist, take some meds and work patiently on and with my brain.

Other folks *don’t* need Zoloft but they *do* like to make violent, credible threats, amass military-grade weapons, kill animals and/or beat women. If more than one person that lives with you has called the police because they are afraid you are going to hurt them, you shouldn’t be able to get a gun.

It’s not about a diagnosis. Lots and lots of us have those, and this conversation doesn’t help. It’s the willingness to hurt and terrorize others that we need to screen for.

Apparently and unfortunately, a still-relevant flowchart

SKELEMOM just *hates* the idea of you feeling so blue.

A new SKELEMOM, starring, as always, my mother @barbara.d.brown as a skeleton.

For those who would like to read my book but are also poor ...

(Well, maybe poor or maybe just unable to spend $20 like it’s nothing, which I absolutely hear and was my situation from age 17-27) 

Two ideas! One, there is the library. If you don’t have a library card, you should! Sometimes if I’m feeling down about the world, I just remember that there is a place full of all the books and it’s for all of us. Also, I love checking out audiobooks via my phone, which I can do now.

Secondly, Book Bub is running a deal through July 6 where you can get it for 99 cents, in which case you can keep it *forever*! It’s right here. 

I would prefer y’all not pirate it because those sites are v. shady and I’m stressed enough about hacking without feeling like a pdf of my book is the reason scary people have your private info. :|

To the high school graduates ...

Here is something I wrote a few years ago that is still quite applicable, especially re:Hot Pocket™ safety.

Hello, high school graduates! All of you are likely close to collapsing under the weight of well meaning old-people’s advice, which for the past few months has piled up like so much smug, well-meaning snow. Allow me to add my own dusting. 1. Leave high school behind you, now. Whether you were the most devastatingly cool guy in all of McNary High School or the most excruciatingly awkward girl at Sprague, once you leave high school, no one will know. Or, more importantly, care. Most really cool people who do interesting, creative things with their lives didn’t have super happy high school careers. Many really cool people had great high school experiences. But any reasonably cool person over the age of 19 knows that what you earned, or endured, in high school has zero bearing on who you are the day you graduate. I know. It seems SO IMPORTANT now. But … it’s not. Not even a little. 2. Manners count, and they’re free. You can get away with murder if you do it politely, because whoever expects a polite murderer? Manners make other people feel comfortable and happy and respected, and when people feel comfortable, happy and respected they are 8,000 percent more likely to let you get your way. Say please, thank you, excuse me, it was so nice to meet you, hope I see you again soon. Whatever you do, send thank-you notes so people are inclined to keep doing nice things for you. 3. Chew with your mouth closed. In fact, sometime when you’re alone, go sit in front of a mirror and watch yourself eat, then make any necessary adjustments now before it becomes a permanent habit. 4. If people expect you to go to college, but you’re not super-excited about it, skip a year and work before you head off. It’s not the end of the world, and it doesn’t make you a failure. That time is too expensive and too precious to use on something you’re half-assed about. Also, I speak from experience — folding jeans at a store in the mall for minimum wage for a few months made me feel very differently about how tedious and mindless sitting through a lecture class feels. 5. Unkindness, from here on out, becomes less and less attractive. Cruelty is one of the four main currencies of high school, along with attractiveness, athletic ability and actual currency provided by your parents (I see you, West Salem kids!). In high school, a profoundly mediocre person can rule — or at least maintain a position at the periphery of the popular kids’ group — through fear. But once you get into college, you begin to leave that b.s. behind you. You don’t have to be mean to be funny. You don’t have to be mean to disagree with someone. You don’t have to be mean to someone powerless to prove your power. All meanness showcases is that you have ugly internal architecture. And as the facades that were so important in high school fade, that is what others will see when they look at you. 6. Know which classes you have to go to, and which ones can be skipped in lieu of more important things. Yes, if you want to go to Harvard Law or John Hopkins Med, you need to ace all your impossibly difficult classes. But if you want to do something post-college that doesn’t involve grad school — if you want to work in non-profits, if you want to write for a paper, if you want to do public relations, if you want to run a business — then instead, look for ways that you can get those experiences in college. Join extracurriculars that mimic the experiences you someday want to get paid for. If you hate doing it for free, then chances are you’ll resent it even when you get paid for it. Also, this way, when you graduate college, you can prove to employers that you did something, not just wrote compelling papers on the metaphysical nature of being. 7. If you’re a person for whom the hooking up thing doesn’t work, then don’t do it. College is a time of lots and lots of casual sex. This, I think, plays pretty well into what many — not all, but many — 18-year-old guys want, and terribly into what most — not all, but most — 18-year-old girls want. Know what you want, and don’t feel bad if that’s not in line with what someone else wants. Also, know that after freshman year, people begin to date again rather than just drunkenly coupling and uncoupling. 8. Freshman year, you can and should be friends with everyone. Sophomore year will tell who is actually worth keeping. 9. After you microwave a Hot Pocket, be sure to gently tug open the end and let the steam out, and wait a couple minutes, because there is nothing more painful than a Hot Pocket steam-and-molten-cheese burn to the top of the mouth. 10. Don’t tell the internet too much about your love life, or deep innermost feelings, or secrets. It’s none of the Internet’s business, but the Internet has a big mouth and a long, long memory. Make good friends, and tell them in person when you hang out in each other’s dorm rooms and watch movies and eat Funfetti frosting straight out of the jar. Do this a lot. It doesn’t seem important, but it is.