don’t be someone’s free time.

SMH

I know I look like somebody’s momma but I’m not, get your own shit together just like I had to BEFORE getting in a relationship

LMMMMMMMAO this nigga said “help open a bank account.” TF your grown ass doing that you don’t have one already/can’t figure that out.

Help him create an email account 😇

Teach him how to write in cursive 🥰

Teach embryo to tie shoe.

Help him wipe his ass....

Give baby-man sippy cup. Say pwease first.

Which bedtime story man-child want? The Bernstein’s? Bruh yo teeth first.

i have a right to be unavailable, unable to reach, uninterrupted….etc. regardless of who you are or what you want from me

— Cicero, (106 BCE - 43 BCE), Roman Philosopher, Statesman and Orator (via panatmansam)

“How one treats one’s body and psyche speaks volumes about one’s self-esteem: abusing body or soul with harmful chemicals, behaviors, work overload, lack of personal time and space all denote poor self-regard. All of these behaviors and attitudes reveal a fundamental stance towards the self that is conditional and devoid of true self respect. Self-esteem based on achievement has been called contingent self-esteem or acquired self-esteem. Unlike contingent self-esteem, true self-esteem has nothing to do with a self-evaluation on the basis of achievement or the lack of it. A person truly comfortable in his own skin doesn’t say, ‘I am a worthy human being because I can do such and such,’ but says, ‘I am a worthy human being whether or not I can do such and such.’ Contingent self-esteem evaluates; true self-esteem accepts.”

-Gabor Maté, Scattered

Say it with me:

I’m not gonna let anybody stand in the way of my growth this year, especially not myself.

random tips to become more productive, pt. 1

1. put on some school clothes. even your uniform. if you like to be extra, pretend you’re getting ready for school. why: this will get you in a “school mood”. your brain associates these clothes/routines with school, so your brain will think you’re at school.

2. wanna watch some youtube before doing some school work? turn on subtitles (if you can) and set the playback speed to 2. why: setting the playback speed to 2 will halve your time spent watch videos, and since you are reading the subtitles, you still can understand what the frig they’re saying.

2.1 in settings go to the “time watched” panel. turn on “remind me to take a break” and set a custom time (1h 15 min is perfect if you’re on winter break). turn off “autoplay next video”. turn on scheduled digest. disable sounds and vibrations. these settings minimised my time spent on youtube my 2 HOURS guys for real.

2.2 instead of watching videos throughout the day, have a dedicated time to watching them. at the end of that time add videos you wanna see to “watch later”. why: “oh look a video. lets watch it” “omg look at this video in suggestions. lets watch it” “this channel is so good. lets watch more of their videos”. instead of watching them and going through a rabbit hole, you’ll control yourself and still get to watch them later.

3. download forest. it’s an app that wants you to measure your time being productive/unwinding/spending time with friends and family. to do that in a fun and interactive way, they reward you with a virtual tree. the more time you spend doing work with their timer, the stronger, the bigger, the prettier your tree will get. if you leave the app while you have the timer set and go to an app that’s not on the whitelist, your tree commits toaster bath.

3.1 a good alternative to forest is flipd. it has the same goal, but in this app, you can create and join study groups with a leaderboard built in.

4. get a bag. put in some (healthy) snacks. put it in your schoolbag. put your schoolbag in another room. now get sticky notes. write on it “1 snack = *set your time*” “2 snacks = *double that time*”. why: it’s a reward system. it will also help you game-ify studying. if you want x snacks, set a timer for that amount of time. now you’re working for a reward.

5. take a piece of paper. write “brain dump” on it. write things you want to do after studying, ideas, random thoughts, just about anything. why: these thoughts distract you. you’re thinking, “I’d rather leave my desk immediately and do x”. get it out of your head and put it on paper. do those things after you’re finished.

seduce me with ur history knowledge 

— B.J. Novak, One More Thing (via books-n-quotes)

“tell us something about yourself”

Me, refusing to leave tumblr: sir, this is my emotional support hellsite

the actual leader and founder of the third wave of feminism’s movement