Giving Grace To Self All 2023
“Ninety-nine percent of who you are is invisible and untouchable.”
— R. Buckminster Fuller (via fyp-science)
Source: fyp-science.com
Austin Carlile (Of Mice & Men): Be your own person because no one can ever take that away from you, no one
Vic Fuentes (Pierce the Veil): Things won't be bad forever, i promise you. It's going to be okay.
Alex Gaskarth (All Time Low): It's more important to be yourself and turn into the person you aspire to be than it is to let people change you
Kellin Quinn (Sleeping with Sirens): Wrists are for bracelets, not for cutting.
Mitch Lucker (Suicide Silence):You only live once, life is really short.. don't let anything minuscule like that keep you down. Keep your head up.
Matty Mullins (Memphis May Fire): I just wanted you guys to know that it's possible to come out on top, even when you're the underdog
Joe Boynton (Transit): Whatever you're going through in life, there is a way out, nothing is permanent.
Jona Weinhofen (Bring Me The Horizon): Brush off the negativity and stay strong
Levi Benton (Miss May I): People should really watch what they say... and try to be nice to everybody, because it always comes back around
Austin Carlile (Of Mice & Men): If you're a fan of hurting others, talking down to, or trying to bring others down, then never call yourself a fan of mine.
Alex Gaskarth (All Time Low): I want you to fucking pinky promise me you won’t do it. No fan of mine will kill themselves. Don’t do it, for me. I love you
James Veck-Gilodi (Deaf Havana): There's nothing worse than losing a fan. I don't want to lose any of you guys. Stay with me.
Bottle, made of carved lead crystal glass with a silver mount and a cork stopper, believed to be created by German artist Johann Knuckle between 1675 - 1700
Femininity Tip 7:
- Voice/Tone. Babe, soften up that voice. You know that voice you put on when you’re talking to your crush, yeah, that one. Use that voice all day, everyday. This voice is the voice that makes you a feminine woman in any room. At any time.
- If there’s any thing that exudes femininity, it’s the soft, knowledgeable voice, leaving your luxurious lips. It’ll make everyone around you see you for who you are, the feminine woman you long to be.
- Feminine woman have kind eyes, kind mannerisms and extremely kind voices. Soft voices pull you in and make people extremely comfortable around you. It also makes people want to respect you because they see you as a warm, kind and seductive woman.
- Women who “seemingly” apply this to their everyday careers: (Ari Lennox, Jhené Aiko, Janet Jackson, Beyoncé.)
- Your voice doesn’t have to be extremely high but you don’t want it to be too low. Find your balance and picture yourself speaking with your favorite person/crush. That voice is your feminine voice.
- (Do’s: Hum, drink water, speak slowly and softly, speak quieter to reach your seductive tone)
- (Don’ts: speak too loudly, speak too lowly, speak too quickly.)
“Healing is layers. Healing is time. Healing is excruciating. Once you think it’s done, it’s not.”
— Mary DeMuth
A happy ending:
“She agreed to love herself deeply.She was finally the sun of her own life.”
-Juansen Dizon, I Am The Architect of My Own Destruction
I Challenge You To..
Be as delusional as possible for a week.
Take 2 selfies a day. You need to be very self aware of your beauty and pretty privilege. Do not wait 5-10 years and see how it’s like to feel average.
If you only drink water when you brush your teeth, begin drinking at least 1 bottle of water (16.9 oz) every 2 hours. Water changes your mentality and enforces self-discipline.
Literally embody your feminine archetype. If you’re worried you’ll be seen as an attention seeker because your archetype or femininity is trending on social media, GET OFF OF SOCIAL MEDIA AND SMELL THE ROSES.
Grandiose displays of femininity have ALWAYS been around but we now have pictures and audios within arm’s reach! Wear that outfit you’ve been staring at, hang up a woven teabag full of Epsom salt, orange zest and rose petals on your shower faucet, wear the lipstick that’s been sitting on your counter and speak the language you’ve been practicing for years in public!
Remove self-limiting beliefs and restrictions. You are the blueprint, a sex symbol and inspirational. You don’t need permission to wear what you want and to act emboldened because they’ll copy you anyways. Some people will sell their souls for your voice intonations, skin color and hair.
Pause overthinking. Referring back to displays of femininity, do not waste your time, sanity or money watering down what could happen if you take up space in a room or envision yourself as a desirable goddess.
View your self esteem as a trophy behind glass in a vault. No one can intrude unless they have your fingerprint.
Femininity Tip 8:
- Submission. Listen babe, stop blaming your lack of submission on other people. It’s all us and we know it.
- We were taught to be independent and do everything for ourselves but this is because we come from women who “did everything themselves.” We were taught to be a strong woman, just like them but baby, I’m here to tell you that those days are through.
- As long as your submission isn’t fumbling your finances or messing with your bank account, exude that submissive energy.
- Let him do it.
- Submission has been objectified and we’ve seemed to have lost the true meaning.
- Submission has never been inferior, submission makes you superior. And this does not apply to just relationships, you can use your submissive energy daily. Even as a single woman. Especially as a single woman.
- Homework: Allow that random man to open your door, allow that guy to carry your groceries, allow that dude to pay your tab at the register. You’re a woman for god’s sake, a feminine woman, a queen. If you wanted to do it yourself, you could, we all know that but you’re not. You’re way too pretty for that.
- As a feminine woman, the only thing you should be worried about is what nail color you’re going to get next week. Let the men, do a man’s job and trust me babe, they’ll enjoy every moment of it. Men love to feel needed.
- (Do’s: saying “yes”, “it’s so heavy”, allow a man to do it for you.)
- (Don’ts: saying “no”, do everything for yourself.)
How to Feign Your Life is Together
Have a signature accessory, clothing article, make up look, or hair style.
Have a fragrance. Make your hair scents and lotions match your perfume.
It’s okay to dine alone. Bring a book or people watch.
Love your hair. Research the best brands for your hair type and use masks weekly.
Your nails don’t need to be fancy, but keep them maintained.
Stay worldly. Know works of art, artists, designers, films, books, politicians. Spend your lunch break reading the paper or a magazine.
Crying is not a weapon. It’s okay to feel your emotions, but never use them as an excuse to avoid your problems.
Jealousy is boring. Love and appreciate others. If you can’t love them, forget them.
Boost others. Flatter others, but don’t deprecate yourself in the process.
Don’t sulk. Don’t let the whole world know your problems. If you don’t want someone to give their opinion, don’t share your situation.
Your life is between you and the universe. Don’t post your personal matters for others to see.
Don’t emotionally blackmail others. They hurt you? Let them know and then move on. It’s between the two of you and not the world.
Cook dinner. Cook dinner and listen to music, the radio, or a podcast.
Treat yourself to candles and flowers. Be your own cheerleader.
Take naps. Take a cat nap on a Sunday afternoon with the blinds open and the fan on high.
Drink your water, eat your vegetables. Take care of your body.
Never have time to take off your jewelry before bed, but always have time to take off your makeup. Your nighttime skin regime is important.
Mystery is beautiful. You don’t need to reveal much of or about yourself.
Never appear other than as you are. Don’t lie about yourself. Embrace who you are at your core.
Femme Fatale Booklist:
Books to become your dream girl. This list is curated to unleash the empowered woman inside, tap into your dark feminine energy, and help you succeed in every area of life. Sections are listed below:
- Self-Development/Mindset
- Seductive Psychology
- Femme Fatale/Dark Feminine/Feminist Reads
- Business/Finance/Entrepreneurship
- Productivity
- Mental Health
- Physical Health
- Fashion & Beauty
Get educated. Expand your mind. Enjoy xx
Self-Development/Mindset:
- Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
- The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz
- Atomic Habits by James Clear
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
- Don’t Believe Everything You Think by Joseph Nguyen
- The Mountain Is You: Transforming Self-Sabotage Into Self-Mastery by Brianna Wiest
- Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole
- The Confidence Formula: May Cause: Lower Self-Doubt, Higher Self-Esteem, and Comfort In Your Own Skin by Patrick King
- The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson
- Choose Your Story, Change Your Life: Silence Your Inner Critic and Rewrite Your Life from the Inside Out by Kindra Hall
- When You’re Ready, This Is How To Heal by Brianna Wiest
- Hunting Discomfort: How to Get Breakthrough Results in Life and Business No Matter What by Sterling Hawkins
- The Four Pivots: Reimagining Justice, Reimagining Ourselves by Shawn Ginwright
- The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron
- A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
- The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
Seductive Psychology:
- 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene
- Mastery by Robert Greene
- The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene
- How To Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
- Power vs. Force by David Hawkins
Femme Fatale/Dark Feminine/Feminist Reads:
- Unbound: A Woman’s Guide To Power by Kasia Urbaniak
- Pussy: A Reclamation by Regena Thomashauer
- Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl―A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov
- A Single Revolution by Shani Silver
- This Is Your Brain On Birth Control by Sarah Hill
- Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler
- Regretting Motherhood: A Study by Orna Donath
- Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Me by Caroline Criado Perez
- Women Who Run With The Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
- The Second Sex by Simone De Beauvoir
- The Ethics of Ambiguity by Simone De Beauvoir
- A Room of One’s Own by Virginia Woolf
- Women & Power: A Manifesto by Mary Beard
- Spinster by Kate Bolick
- What French Women Know: About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind by Debra Ollivier
- Living Forever Chic: Frenchwomen's Timeless Secrets for Everyday Elegance, Gracious Entertaining, and Enduring Allure by Tish Jett
Business/Finance/Entrepreneurship:
- Never Split The Difference by Chris Voss
- Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini
- The 2-Hour Cocktail Party by Nick Gray
- The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
- Girl On Fire by Cara Alwill Leyba
- Women, Work & the Art of Savoir Faire: Business Sense & Sensibility by Mireille Guiliano
- Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Joseph Grenny
- Living On Purpose: Five Deliberate Choices to Realize Fulfillment by Amy Eliza Wong
- The Earned Life: Lose Regret, Choose Fulfillment by Marshall Goldsmith
- The High 5 Habit: Take Control of Your Life with One Simple Habit by Mel Robbins
- Building a Second Brain: A Proven Method to Organize Your Digital Life and Unlock Your Creative Potential by Tiago Forte
- The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups by Daniel Coyle
- Rich As F*ck: More Money Than You Know What to Do With by Amanda Frances
- Rich Bitch by Nicole Lapin
- Like She Owns the Place by Cara Alwill Leyba
- So Good They Can’t Ignore You by Cal Newport
- The First Minute: How To Start Conversations That Get Results by Chris Fenning
- Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
- Build: An Unorthodox Guide to Making Things Worth Making by Tony Fadell
- The Hard About Hard Things by Ben Horowitz
- The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness by Morgan Housel
Productivity:
- The Science of Self-Discipline: The Willpower, Mental Toughness, and Self-Control to Resist Temptation and Achieve Your Goals by Peter Hollins
- Free Time: Lose The Busy Work, Love Your Business by Jenny Blake
- Vision to Reality: Stop Working, Start Living by Curtis Jenkins
- Deep Work: Rules For Focused Success in A Distracted World by Cal Newport
- Finish What You Start by Peter Hollins
Mental Health:
- Becoming The One by Sheleana Aiyana
- Attached by Amir Levine
- Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns
- Whole Again by Jackson MacKenzie
- Take Your Lunch Break by Massoma Alam Chohan
- Stop Overthinking by Nick Trenton
- Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
- Designing the Mind: The Principles of Psychitecture by Ryan A. Bush
- Radical Acceptance: Awakening The Love That Heals Fear and Shame by Tara Brach
- Recovery from Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse, Codependency & Complex PTSD by Don Barlow
- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Lindsay C. Gibson
- Inner Child Recovery Work with Radical Self-Compassion by Don Barlow
- What Happened To You?: Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing by Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey
- Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
Physical Health:
- The China Study by T. Collin Campbell
- The Blue Zones by Dan Buettner
- How Not To Die by Dr. Michael Greger
- Befriending Your Body by Ann Saffi Biasetti
- Brain Over Binge by Kathryn Hansen
- The Power of Self-Discipline by Peter Hollins
- Fit at Any Age: It's Never Too Late by Susan Niebergall
- French Women Don't Get Fat by Mireille Guiliano
- The Archetype Diet by Dana James
Fashion & Beauty:
- The Lucky Shopping Manual: Building and Improving Your Wardrobe Piece by Piece by Andrea Linett & Kim France
- Dress Like A Parisian by Alois Guinut
- Parisian Chic by Ines de la Fressange & Sophie Gachet
- Why French Women Wear Vintage: And other secrets of sustainable style by Alois Guinut
- Ageless Beauty the French Way: Secrets from Three Generations of French Beauty Editors by Clemence von Mueffling
- Skincare: The Ultimate No-Nonsense Guide by Caroline Hirons
being attractive isn't just about your looks. Its also your energy and the way you carry yourself.
When people aren't treating you right- stop begging and cut them off.
Decide on your personal boundaries and live your life based on them.
Stop playing hard to get. Play silly games, win silly prizes. Relationships and love isn't a game. You are only going to attract players. Instead BE hard to get. Know that not everyone deserves you and let people earn you. Let them prove to you that they know you're worth and see you as an asset. Invest your time in hobbies, studying, working out. Things that make you better, different from the rest and as a result, genuinely hard to find and to get!
Break toxic cycles quickly. If it doesn't serve you, you have no problem letting it go because you know your worth.
These few things alone make you so much more intriguing and will have men wanting to chase you.
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I powerfully give myself the most purest love. I powerfully give myself the most rawest love. I powerfully give myself unconditional love. I powerfully give myself radical self-acceptance. I powerfully give myself unconditional forgiveness. I powerfully give myself unbeatable love. I powerfully give myself everything I crave, need and desire. I’m powerfully obsessed with myself and only myself.
“And you were the only horizon of my night;”
— Michel Houellebecq, from “Twilight” Unreconciled: Poems 1991-2013; A Bilingual Edition (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2017)
