It brings me greater joy to know that Allah has accepted one good action of mine, than owning the entire world full of gold.
Abdullah ibn Masud (Radiallahu Anhu)
Don’t ever put your happiness in someone else’s hands. They’ll drop it. They’ll drop it everytime.
C.Barzak
One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was to say “thank you” instead of “sorry”.
Due to guilt or any number of emotions, we sometimes end up apologizing when we shouldn’t.
And it can be draining to both you and the other person.
Learn to say “thank you”. This is less draining for the other person, but also can make them feel appreciated and good. And it also can help teach you that it’s okay to need support/help/etc.
“I’m so sorry I’m so terrible to be around” - > “Thank you for spending time with me!”
“I’m so sorry that I vented to you about my problems. -> “Thank you for listening to me!”
“I’m sorry that I keep messing up” -> “Thank you for being patient with me”.
Things I learned in therapy today:
Giving your partner the silent treatment during a fight is a form of emotional abuse. They are not mature enough to handle their emotions correctly, therefore not ready for a stable relationship.
Good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt.
Michelle Obama
Value yourself. The only people who appreciate a doormat are people with dirty shoes.
Leo F. Buscaglia
"The soul will never become pious and purified except through undergoing afflictions. It is the same as gold that can never be pure except after removing all the base metals in it."
Ibn Qayyim رحمه الله [Al-Fawaa'id, p. 365]
