re: billy kaplan is autistic, the twins are adhd/autistic solidarity or hostility, it depends on the day
NO YOU'RE SO RIGHT!! I actually headcanon Tommy as ADHD as well lol

re: billy kaplan is autistic, the twins are adhd/autistic solidarity or hostility, it depends on the day
NO YOU'RE SO RIGHT!! I actually headcanon Tommy as ADHD as well lol
Another ADHD thing Peter would do:
Feeling overstimulated that he lies down on the floor for a good few hours but then he also lies on the floor when he's understimulated which comes with painful boredom
Sometimes he will listen to music at full blast to battle loud background noise (lit very quiet background noise can be very loud to NDs :'3) as it doesn't help when Overstimulated and having no background noise at all doesn't help wirh being Understimulated. Somehow loud ass music through headphones works to help with understimulation/overstimulation
hey is it an ADHD thing for understimulation to cause panic attacks? cus I think that's what's causing them but I'm not sure but it's happened like three times not and I want it to stop skskekrkrk
Understimulation can cause us to go into a depressed state (it’s called Secondary Depression), so while it’s not common for it to directly cause panic attacks, it might be that the depression is causing them, or (if you’re prone to high anxiety levels) that when you don’t have anything to distract yourself with, you dwell more on the things you worry about, which causes the panic attacks.
Also, this probably isn’t related since you said understimulation rather than overstimulation, but we can have Sensory Overload, which can be easily mistaken for a panic attack, where everything just feels like Too Much, and we can’t cope.
i hate this so much i havent taken my meds in days including today so i cant focus and they keep nagging me abt cleaning but i cant do that without my meds and now im panicking and having a meltdown and they wont fucking listen to me all they do is yell and yell and complain
my stepdad called me insane, said "you hate your antidepressants but without them you're crazy" its not the pills that make me anxious its them, its my family. i hate this house i hate the constant stimuli and sensory input. fuck fuck fuck i hate this place i hate this family i hate everyone i wanna jump out the window
i havent taken my antidepressants or my adhd meds for days i feel so sick im crying and they keep yelling at me.
What are some of the major differences between autism and ADD/ADHD? Stuff like impulse control, executive function issues, stimming etc are pretty common to both of them, and i know a good handful of autistic people (myself included) who got misdiagnosed as ADD/ADHD as a kid. And the fact that the two can be comorbid just makes it more confusing
eokay so first of all: i have both. so of course i cannot distinguish between both, because both are “me”. so i’m making the distinction by what i read more often in ADHD or autism contexts.
the things i’m listing are not diagnostic criteria, just things that i have seen talked about often. you might not relate to all of them even if you have ADHD / autism. additionally, having one or a few traits of something does not mean you definitely have it, but if you go “yes! that’s me!” at most or all of them, you might check the thing out more thoroughly.
there’s a summary at the end
impulsivity. i get an idea and then i immediately drop whatever i am doing (often quite literally) and do the other thing. for example: i am preparing a sandwidch. i am in the process of putting butter on the bread. then i think: i want tea. in that same second i drop the knife, on the floor, turn around to the water boiler and switch it on. then i realize that dropping the knife was probably not such a good idea because it’s dirty now.
getting distracted. not by anything specifically, just.. anything. for example, i opened this ask and wanted to answer. then i got distracted for 15 minutes and forgot all about it until i accidentally opened this tab again. i described this in this slightly funny post: my general idea of functioning is getting distracted often enough so that i eventually come back to the thing i was originally doing.
constantly forgetting what you were just doing or thinking. this is pretty much what leads to both being easily distracted and impulsivity. it’s more than just forgetting. it is completely forgetting about the idea of a thing possibly occurring. you’re having an intense, captivating tumblr chat with someone and then you go to the bathroom and it is gone from your brain. you go bake some cookies, read a book, cut your hair, and when you come back to the computer it’s ohhhhh shit i was having a conversation until i suddenly disappeared… 3 hours ago.
being unable to sit still ever. it is more than just stimming. it is stimming 120% of the time. it is doing multiple stims at the same time always. i CAN not sit still. it does not happen. i am unable to not stim.
hyperfocusing randomly. like what i am doing with this post right now. i started typing and then i got completely caught up on it and now i cannot stop and i forget the time and anything else i was going to do because this post is my world now and i. must. finish.
hyperactivity. i cannot describe this better than ALALAL ALALALA KLHADFUILSDHFJKUIEF!!!!!!!!!! LKSKSHALALALAL!!!!!!!!! it’s jumping around the room. running up the walls. sitting upside-down on your chair while screaming from laughter. spamming your twitter with 200 tweets that just say “CACTUS!!!!!!!!!! MOLAR TOOTH!!! CACTUS!!!!!!!” while laughing your ass off.
losing every object. always. misplacing objects that you were actually using just now. pencils, headphones, jewellery, coffee cup, everything. where is my phone that i was using 20 seconds ago? i have no idea. 3 hours later i find it in the laundry basket. or on some door handle. losing ridiculously large objects that you cannot possibly lose and being unable to locate them for hours. objects that i have misplaced inside a 40 square meters apartment: laundry basket, mattress, chairs, tables, small oven, computer, and many others. you get the idea.
forgetting plans and appointments and everything really. i recently learned that some people can actually keep complex plans in their heads. a fellow autistic explained me that he can remember everything he needs to do and lie it down neatly in his mind. i don’t think every autistic is as good with that as he is, but most people have some sort of idea what their next big tasks are. i don’t. i don’t even know where i wrote them down. i also forget appointments because even if i remember that i have plans for wednesday, that does not automatically mean that i realize when wednesday is happening.
addiction to distraction and entertainment. boredom is torture, and i don’t mean that as an exaggeration. sitting in a waiting room drives you up the wall, sometimes quite literally. forgetting your phone is not just irritating and means you have to read the cereal box. no. you build a tower out of the cereal boxes and jump on the table. when the party is going slow you collect all the paper flyers and fold 100 airplanes and shred the rest of the flyers to pieces. not being able to concentrate without loud music in the background.
sensory hypersensitivities. not just getting distracted or annoyed by bad sensory input, but actually getting hurt and deeply uncomfortable. not being able to even sit near someone with deodorant on. starting to cry whenever you get cold. ripping your shirt off because the tag was too scratchy.
sensory hyposensitivities. not being able to feel the pain from scratches. not being able to enjoy music unless it is ridiculously loud drumming against your ears, while not being hard of hearing. only being able to calm down when something is pressing against your ribcage so hard you can hardly breathe. enjoying bright flickering lights right against your eyeballs.
the bliss that stimming is. it is not just “something that feels pleasant”. it is something that makes you feel whole. it is something that puts you in a place where everything is good and right and the right stim fills you up with pure bliss. you soak it up like a sponge and you feel like you’re flying and it’s the best thing. it clears your mind and soothes your soul.
the overwhelm of sensory overload. you literally cannot function in a loud, crowded area. sensory overload makes you forget how to think. you immediately shut down or meltdown. you become helpless. you can not get yourself out of this situation safely. you get lost. you are unable to figure out a way to get out of the situation. you can get in real danger because of sensory overload if you do not have help or luck.
auditory and visual processing difficulties. needing subtitles for every movie you watch, even though you are neither Deaf nor hard of hearing. constantly going “what? say that again? HUH?? i can’t hear you over that noise!” while everyone around you is conversing easily. being unable to decipher an image quickly. being unable to read maps or flowcharts.
trouble with verbal communication. you might be nonverbal sometimes or always. you might have problems saying the right words. you might rely on scripting heavily, that means you have fixed rules of what to say in which situations. you might be unable to react if your script stops working because someone says something unexpected. you might be unable to say what you mean because you cannot find words fast enough. you might say things that you do NOT mean because you have heard them somewhere so the words are more easily found.
trouble with nonverbal communication. not being able to read tone of voice, facial impressions and allistic body language. constantly being misinterpreted because you make the “wrong” body language or facial impressions or tone. not being able to recognize irony and jokes because you can’t take the subtle hints that people give about them. not being able to interpret emojis and emoticons. not being able to recognize the difference between “hello”, “hello!” and “hello…”. coming off across as “rude”, “weird”, “scary” or something else that you are not.
being unable to figure out social rules and conventions. why do you always have to answer “fine” to the question “how are you?”? why does a person think that i hate them just because i do not like talking to them? why do people think i like them just because i was talking to them? which people do you call by their first name and which by their last name? why do people laugh about me just because i hugged my teacher? nobody laughs when i hug my friend.
relying on sameness, rules, schedules and rituals. no, i cannot drink tea out of the coffee cup. it Does Not Work. i cannot sleep without my squishy pillow. i cannot wear my Outside clothes inside. when i make a plan, things have to go EXACTLY as planned or i melt down. i cry when i lose my favourite stim toy. it can also mean: having to do the same things every day at the same time. getting overwhelmed by changes. not being able to function in an unfamiliar schedule. not being able to do things out of order. not being able to sleep with the Wrong sheets. not being able to eat from red dishes. and many others.
needing to fidget or stim. being unable to concentrate or calm down without moving or specific sensory input. not being able to function properly when not allowed to stim. shutting or melting down when not being able to stim.
special interests or hyperfixations. “special interest” is the autism term and “hyperfixation” is the ADHD term. it means fixating on a certain subject so intensely that you can hardly think about anything else. some people learn subjects very deeply in a very short time. it means getting caught up in it. it’s what you think about in every second. like being in love, only with a subject instead of a person.
living in a fantasy world. retreating into a safe space to escape from a world that is not very kind to us. hyperfixating on a story or a fantasy world or dreamworld as an interest, either as a refuge or as a special interest or both.
trouble with socializing. being ridiculed for being “weird”. being unable to function well in social situations because of your specific disabilities. having a hard time maintaining friendships and other social relationships.
appearing eccentric. dressing and behaving in unusual ways. having unconventional interests and hobbies. being unable to connect with most other people, being the “different” person in most groups. having social positions such as the “class clown” or “the outcast” - entertaining everyone else or distancing yourself from everyone else.
appearing childlike or younger than you are. never getting rid off childlike behaviours. stimming and fidgeting because you like it or because it helps. not caring about how you look. having hobbies and interests that are seen as “childish”. impulsive actions that appear childlike. behaviour that is seen as childlike.
executive dysfunction. being unable to do things even though you really want to do them. being unable to start tasks or switch tasks. being unable to recall what you know in an unfamiliar situation. being unable to figure out the steps necessary for completing a task.
reactions to over- and understimulations. you might start to fidget or stim. you might try to get away or get angry or cry because things are too much or because there’s not enough stimulation. you might fall asleep in class because it’s too little stimulation. you might cry in class because it’s too much stimulation.
meltdowns / shutdowns. having reactions that are stronger than is deemed appropriate to negative things like adverse sensory input, emotional stress, etc. that means breaking down crying from small things, having rage fits over small things going wrong, or on the other side completely shutting down, flopping on the floor, freezing in place etc. in case of under- or overstimulation or emotional stress.
developing anxiety or depression. social or generalized anxiety as well as depression are common in people with ADHD and autistics because we often get bullied, our disabilities are often exploited to hurt us, and we may get excluded, ridiculed and hurt on a regular basis. we might despair because we never seem to fit in. we might overcompensate and overtax ourselves in order to appear “normal”. we might burn out as a result.
creativity and unconventional thinking. getting ideas that nobody else has. making connections nobody else would even think of. being good at finding similarities, patterns, and differences.
daydreaming and spacing out. shutting down or simply daydreaming your way through situations that you cannot function in because of your specific disabilities. forgetting what you were doing and just dreaming away. getting lost in thoughts. dissociating from adverse sensory input. escaping from the reality that is hard to bear or just getting distracted.
getting caught up in a task. hyperfocusing on a thing that you are doing or being unable to initiate the end of an action. being unable to interrupt your train of thought or action. being unable to switch tasks.
i don’t claim completeness for this list. so.
more ADHD than autism:
more autism than ADHD:
both autism and ADHD:
so that got a lot more elaborate than i was planning… anyway. i hope it answers your question, anon
-lhmod
Everyone needs kindness and respect. Maybe not everyone deserves kindness and respect, but it is not about what people deserve, it is about what you believe in. Do you believe you should treat yourself and others with the upmost kindness and respect at all times? For Autistic people “The golden rule” to “treat others as you wish to be treated” simply does not work for us because our wants and needs are often very different than other people’s wants and needs. This is because we often become physically, mentally and emotionally overstimulated easily, we have trouble with communication and social skills and we are usually far more creative, intelligent, perceptive, sensitive and caring than other people. Meltdown and shutdown behavior is not impacted by reward systems or by shaping efforts because it is not willful socially goal driven behavior. Meltdowns and shutdowns are due to sensory overload and/or due to communication issues such as not being about to express wants and needs or not understanding other people’s wants and needs. This is also why trying to use ABA (Applied Behavioral Analysis) which is based on reward systems to try to limit autistic people’s self-soothing/stimming, meltdowns and shutdowns will NEVER work for any autistic person. Studies have shown that ABA; also known as dog-training, can be used to help any person allistic or autistic learn step by step instructions to simple or complex tasks that need to be done though. Barbaric Painful blistering “shock treatments” have not been shown to be more effective at stopping self-harming stimming such as head banging and chewing on your own body (like fingers) to the point of doing serious physical damage than positive reinforcement, brushing therapy and/or working on better communication skills and trying new non-harming stimming practices and about a dozen other things are proven to be more effective at stopping autistic people from self-harming then hurting autistic people to stop them from hurting themselves.
Tantrum
Autistic person is in control, aware of surroundings and is not physically, mentally or emotionally overwhelmed by too much sensory input and/or lack of understanding or lack of not being understood. During a tantrum an autistic person appears to be emotionally overwhelmed/angered/frustrated/confused by feelings of powerlessness of obtaining something or loosening something.
Examples: Wanting a hug and not receiving one. Wanting something at the store and not getting it. Someone saying unkind things so you yell at them. Meltdown Autistic person is not in control, is not aware of surroundings and is physically, mentally or emotionally overwhelmed by too much sensory input and/or lack of understanding or lack of not being understood. During a meltdown an autistic person appears to be physically overwhelmed/angered/frustrated/confused by feelings of intense physical or emotional pain. The only thing this autistic person seems to want is to not feel so overwhelmed and in pain. This is caused by sensory overload, new sensations, certain external stimuli or too much external stimuli, a lack of being able to be understood or lack of being able to be understood or breaks in routine, or braking of perceived rules. Usually multiple things are happening at once before a meltdown. Examples: yelling/screaming, trying to make noise Curling up into a tight ball, running, kicking, breaking things pushing, biting, hitting, running away, isolating themselves form others, crying, energetic, confused, angry, in pain, repetitive, tries to correct perceived broken rule/ break in routine or repeatedly asks someone else to correct perceived broken rule/ break in routine. Having trouble self-stimulating (stimming). Trying to regain power over themselves or a situation but not to gain something other than perceived proper order and less pain. *more and more evidence suggests meltdowns and sensory processing disorders maybe caused by over active gamma motor neurons. (Over active sensory and motor nerves, not nerves/neurons of the brain and spinal column.)
Shutdown Autistic person is not in control, not aware of surroundings and is physically, mentally or emotionally overwhelmed by too much sensory input and is frightened by not understanding others or feels hopeless in feeling understood by others. This can also be caused by simple partial seizures; sometimes occurring at birth and never stopping. During a shutdown an autistic person appears to be emotionally overwhelmed/sad/ confused by feelings of powerlessness not understanding others, not being understood, breaks in routine or breaking of perceived rules.
Examples: not speaking/communicating little movement/no movement seems slow to respond, appears to be frightened or unresponsive or “in a trance” rocking back and forth, running away, isolating themselves, covering ears/eyes, taking off cloths, crying, trouble self-stimulating (stimming) *more and more evidence suggests non-verbal autistic people maybe experiencing partial seizures that “shut off” the part of their brains that helps them verbally communicate Many autistic people either sometimes, or always cannot speak at all and/or can only speak “in movie lines” can only sing, or only speak in a language they do not normally speak, French, Spanish (even fictional languages like Klingon from Star Trek or elvish from Lord of the Rings count) can only say “gibberish” or words that sound like songs such as “ting” zap” “pow” sometimes only 2 or word phrases or curse words; this is thought to be due to a dysfunction of the broca’s area of the brain that can be temporary or permanent. No matter how short or long these broca’s area dysfunctions last or no matter how much or how little they “suddenly” can or cannot speak this does not mean the autistic person is “faking it” and “could actually speak normally if they wanted to.” This is a common neurological problem for autistic people, and yes when an autistic person is feeling overwhelmed or not getting their way and “suddenly cannot talk” they many times are not “giving you the silent treatment” they are going through a scary neurological issue they cannot control and like any health problem stress can exacerbate any neurological issues they may be having. Example: If you were having a fight with someone and suddenly your arm went limp and you couldn’t move it you would start panicking, wondering if you are having a stroke, panicking if you will ever be able to move your arm again , you would start imagining how your life will be minus one of your arms. Let me tell you the LAST thing you would need is the person you are fighting with saying something like “Are you saying you can’t move your arm just to win this fight?”
How do sensory processing issues work exactly? I realized recently I may have some auditory processing issues as I usually hate loud noises that don’t bother anyone else, though half the time have a hard time hearing people/understanding what they’re saying, and I had a mental breakdown a few weeks ago caused by the loud environment I was in. I would like to know more about sensory processing issues from someone who experiences them to better understand them.
the ‘mental breakdown’ you’re referring to sounds a lot like either a sensory meltdown or sensory shutdown, two important terms to know when talking about sensory issues & autism.
If anyone knows of any good intro material on the subject, please drop a link in the notes
The ‘Darker’ Side of ADHD
I’ve been getting a little annoyed with how people portray ADHD as this like ’quirky, diet disorder’ so let’s talk about the ‘darker‘ side of this shit. - impulsiveness
people with adhd can be extremely impulsive. To dangerous extents. I’ve never severely hurt myself or lost anything really important. but I’d be surprised if it never happened.
- intrusive thoughts
(I get ones like, stab yourself in the eye, having sex with whoever I’m talking to. Including friends and family, cutting off my fingers while I’m chopping veggies, burning words into my skin with a wood burner, breaking someone’s neck on the edge of a table, stepping on nails while I’m walking etc.)
-meltdown/shutdowns/sensory overloads.
I’ve screamed and cried and felt empty and pushed people away. I’ve felt like tearing off my skin and forgetting I exist.
-the inherent ’wierdness’ that people bully you for.
I don’t think about it very much. But I was bullied as a kid. For years I convinced myself that being called ‘wierd’ was a compliment. I’ve only recently started realizing that I didn’t choose that word.
not to mention the inherent trauma of growing up nd in a nt world.
I can’t think of any more rn. But please add on if you can. I know there’s more.
I couldn’t find anything online that discusses more than a couple of symptoms found in both autism and ADHD so here’s a list.
Feel free to add to it.
1. Hyperempathy.
2. Being drained by social interaction.
3. Hyperfixation/ special interests.
4. Sensory processing disorders.
5. Depression and anxiety.
6. Stimming/ fidgeting.
7. Meltdowns and sensory overload.
8. Trouble finding the flow of conversations.
9. Easily bored or understimulated.
10. Avoiding eye contact.
I want to talk for a moment about emotional overload, because I don’t feel like I mention it enough.
While most autistics are aware that sensory overload can lead to a meltdown/shutdown, so can emotional overload, and just as easily, and just as intensely.
In fact the two can compound each other, where emotional stress can add to sensory stress.
The reason this is on my mind is because it just happened to me today. I got another new manager at work, and so I had to tell him I was disabled, because I need accommodations and he has to be aware of them in order to ensure I get them. I don’t have to disclose what my disability is, but I choose to, because for me, I like my managers to know why I need certain things so I can have an easier time asking it from them.
So I told him, and after I typed it out and sent the IM, he didn’t reply for a good 20 minutes. I know it’s because he was probably looking up my accommodation paperwork, but sitting there waiting for a response from him was emotionally overwhelming. My anxiety was getting worse and worse until suddenly, I couldn’t stand the sound of the fan anymore. The fan that is always, always on in the summer that I never notice, was suddenly piercing my ears like a freight train. And then I couldn’t stand the birds outside anymore, a sound I normally like. And then my partner walked in the room and his footsteps made the floor creak a little bit and I was ready to smash my head against the wall to make it all STOP!
Thankfully, years of practicing recognizing the signs of a meltdown made me realize that’s what was happening, and I hurried to put my headphones on with some really loud, loud white noise to drown it all out, and then it didn’t get any worse. And sloooowly I was able to focus a little bit, but ONLY if I had those headphones on, they were part of my face as far as I was concerned and they were NEVER coming off, I was so afraid of hearing anything, ever again.
It lasted about two hours, and then work ended and I was able to take them off. I wasn’t able to really focus, but I got a few little things done at work, and more importantly, I avoided a meltdown.
But the Bad Input, the trigger for it, was my emotional state. My heightened stress from talking to my boss was what initially filled my brain up so that it could no longer handle sensory input. And because you can’t turn your emotions off, or block them the way you can with outside input, that makes it all the more important to recognize it, so that you can do what you can to block the inputs you can control, such as sound, so that you give your brain its best chance to handle the Big Emotion.
tw // humor about self harm and intrusive thoughts
the intrusive thoughts are getting bad, i cant escape them even with music anymore. nothing seems to drown them out. maybe i should just stop fighting; its tiring to keep this up.
Found this on sh reddit (anonymousetracy), this shit hits too close😐