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5 simple exercises to awaken dormant muscles

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I appreciate this video a lot--people don't realize how important it is to start slow if you're trying to come back from a completely sedentary lifestyle, and they get really hurt as a result. Straining your muscles too much, too suddenly can land you in the E.R. and the wrong joint injury can permanently affect your mobility, so please start with absolute basics and easy stretches!

Your attention didn’t collapse. It was stolen by Johann Hari

let me tell you, i could barely make it through this paragraph, but this shit is important

Another part of the article that really grabbed me:

“At the moment it’s as though we are all having itching powder poured over us all day, and the people pouring the powder are saying: ‘You might want to learn to meditate. Then you wouldn’t scratch so much.’”

yall have got to be more normal about Southern people and I'm not kidding. enough of the Sweet Home Alabama incest jokes, enough of the idea that all Southerners are bigots and rednecks, and enough of the idea that the South has bad food. shut up about "trailer trash" and our accents and our hobbies!

do yall know how fucking nauseating it is to hear people only bring up my state to make jokes about people in poverty and incestuous relationships? how much shame I feel that I wasn't born up north like the Good Queers and Good Leftists with all the Civilised Folk with actual houses instead of small cramped trailers that have paper thin walls that I know won't protect me in a bad enough storm?

do yall know how frustrating it is to be trans in a place that wants to kill you and whenever you bring it up to people they say "well just move out" instead of sympathizing with you or offering help?

do yall understand how alienating it is to see huge masterposts of queer and mental health resources but none of them are in your state because theyre all up north? and nobody seems to want to fix this glaring issue because "they're all hicks anyways"

Southern people deserve better. we deserve to be taken seriously and given a voice in the queer community and the mental health space and leftist talks in general.

i feel like we should be taking advantage of this website in more useful ways like it shouldnt be jarring to anyone when i post my grocery list we literally have a bulleted list function

when they said tumblr could be the next pdf i understood

yeah i know we all hate gender binaries but don’t worry guys THIS binary that is related to gender is different. THIS system of classifying people as one of two things based on some aspect of their gender is fine don’t worry. this one’s never going to have transphobic or intersexist implications bro. this time it’s totally fine and correct to try and separate the complexity of the human experience into two categories. trust me bro. this is a GOOD gender binary. trust me

Which is why it’s important to not be mean.

Their cult teaches them that the world is full of scary monster people who hate them for being so good and loved by god. If you swear at them and call them names or get in their face you’re just doing the cults work for it.

I’m not saying you have to listen to their presentation or try to debate them (and really getting into a debate without thoroughly understanding what they’re being taught will just make things worse)… I am just saying to be polite and say no thank you like if they were trying to hand you a flyer for something you don’t care about.

It’s easier for them to see the world outside their bubble as less scary if they see everyday people just going about their business and being as nice to them as you are to everyone else. This goes doubly for anyone who happens to dress modestly, not swear, and not drink or smoke because whatever you believe, they’ll see you as a “good” person who happens to strangely have no interest in their “message”, and that might be enough to get some curious about the possibility of themselves living in the real world.

It’s sometimes hard to be nice to people who seem to represent something you dislike. Just remember these “elders” are sheltered young men, some of which are getting their first real contact with people of other/no faiths.

They are not your enemy. They are victims.

They aren't being sent out to actually convert people, they are being sent out hoping that they will be harassed and treated poorly so they view those outside the cult as dangerous and evil and stick to the safety of the familiar group.

You being mean to some teenager isn't sticking it to anyone, you're doing exactly what their church elders want to happen.

PLEASE READ THIS.

Please read this.

Don't do the church's work for them.

If you're kind to enough of them, they put you on a block list.

They were such sweet kids, they'd turn up at my door with the thatch of raspberries out front and try to share their word with me, and I'm me, so, I fed them.

Then it was one of the wee 'elder's' birthday, so I made him a cake, and all the little lads came, and they asked about my books and board games and CCGs, I was just a nice frumpy middle aged Jewish lady, I was no threat, so I fed them and made them cakes and took them to the local gaming store and listened when they talked.

One loved yu-gi-oh cards, and it turns out, one of the other wee lads, we'll he loved him back, so I got them in touch with some resources so they had support and a different way to pay for college, they're still together 15 years later, they have dogs, they send me ecards on their birthday. No-one figured out I'd.helped them, I was just the nice lady who made them tea and listened when people were slamming doors.

The next one really wanted to be an artist, so I left out art books and resources, my eldest shared their coptic markers, they draw comic books now, no idea why his folks were insisting he needed to be a dentist, but, he's not a Mormon anymore, (not a Jew either before anyone makes any counter conversion claims).

The first 2 lads were the only dramatic ones, the rest went back into the network but, like Hugh of Borg, they spread the word, sometimes I'd get Mormons from other cities come and make the journey to break bread at my Sabbath table and be seen.

I still think very fondly of that time.

Many of those boys still email me now and then.

Most of them aren't Mormons anymore.

Someone higher up spotted the pattern and suddenly no more Mormons at my door.

I was blacklisted, for kindness.

So there you go, if you don't want Mormons at your door, just love those kids for a couple of years, feed them, help them, and eventually, no more will be allowed to visit

Nobody better ever fucking tell me the fight for rights is over.

Reminder this is where "no kink at pride" leads. You demand everything be family friendly you'll learn who's families are the standard

(via FlimsyFlamingo on Twitter)

and my favorite:

yall r forgetting the best one

What abt when they r meaningfully changed by a soul-crushing traumatic event but relearn to love & be loved. what then

YOU. YOU GET IT.

Hey uhh Lyft what the fuck

I get what they're trying to do, but like... how many people who have actually driven Lyft or Uber for any length of time were involved in this? How many people who were AMAB and are non-binary, or who are Just Fucking Sick Of Being Treated Like Women+ or Spicy Cis Women?

For fuck's sake, they literally CALLED IT WOMEN+.

Got shut out from an LGBT programming scholarship because I'm a genderfluid AMAB. They said "it's only for women and nonbinary women." Then they called me a nonbinary man and I wanted to rip out someone's throat

... wow.

real

Deeply important. When purity-consciousness overwhelms a movement, it often ends up doing its enemies work for it. Direct link to thread below, above images screenshotted for posterity:

kind of insane that i keep seeing stuff like "dating an abuser" or "married to an abuser" on callout posts for celebrities, especially young women. like.... your instinct is to call them out for this? you're not worried that they're being abused themseves? ok

???????????

what only being able to conceive of human relationships through the lens of moral decisions and callout posts does to a mf i guess

as someone who was in an abusive relationship for four years i cannot express to you how many self proclaimed progressives just straight up consider themselves morally superior to me when i tell them i was abused. because they think it could never happen to them, they’re too smart, too strong, too perceptive, they’d never let it happen to them. they think i saw the red flags right away and just chose to keep dating him, when in actuality people like him hide those red flags and introduce them slowly to see how far they can push your boundaries. toward the end of the relationship, i knew i was being abused. i said it out loud. i said it to my best friend, who responded “when you’re ready to leave, i’ll be here”. but when i tried to talk to other progressive people about what i was going through, their response was always something along the lines of either “what did you expect when you chose to date a man?” or “and you’re choosing to stay with him?????” or even “you staying with him even though you know he’s a Bad Abusive Person means you’re clearly a Bad Abusive Person too.” it made it SO much harder to actually leave because that messaging paired with my abuser telling me i’d never find anyone else who would “put up with” me had me believing that being abused was what i deserved. because i’d chosen to date a man, because i’d chosen to date someone who wasn’t a good person, because i’d chosen to be abused. every day i hope the people who said those things to me never have to find out firsthand that no one is immune to manipulation and abuse. no amount of wokeness or moral purity will save you. the only thing that will save you is compassion and community.

this is such a horrendous dogshit mindset, so much of emotional abuse is about cutting off outside support, I'd either be dead or as good as if i hadn't had the like two whole people who knew what was going on & were still there for me

this can't be true can it

Apparently yes and I cannot wrap my head around this. You're telling me most of these teens and early 20 something's dominating social media do not even have a laptop full of organized directories of favorite images? They aren't downloading and playing with creative SOFTWARE rather than stupid little "apps??" They already can't navigate what was supposed to be the new standard level of technological familiarity!?

what the fuck

oh so this is why no one pirates media anymore

As a college instructor, this is something I've found has really hurt my students in a number of ways. Like, for instance:

We tell them to look for things in the syllabus before asking us.

The syllabus+course calendar is a 20+ page info packet.

They can never find anything in it.

Why? Because they can't use control+f to search. They don't even know what that is. Every time these students try to look something up in the syllabus, they're trying to scroll through the whole thing on their phone. No wonder they can't find anything!

We've tried to get around this by creating a syllabus FAQ page in the LMS- basically a version of it with the important dates and assignments that leaves out the course policy, university policy, and other mandated material- but it's really quite jarring to see that these kids are on the same level of "can't computer" as my parents.

Not feminist as in "women should be included in the draft" but feminist as in "being drafted is a violation of bodily autonomy for any gender".

The draft should not exist. Drafting people into the military is a violation of human rights. You should not be able to force someone to risk their life. If you can't find enough people who care about a conflict to keep it going then it simply shouldn't keep going. You can't even force someone to donate a kidney using government power, why the fuck can you force them to donate their whole body and life to a cause they don't agree with or don't care about?

That’s not quite true. The reporter behind the story, Daphne Caruana Galizia, was murdered.

(Source here)

To say the Panama Papers accomplished nothing is an insult to Daphne Galizia’s memory. Her work, and the work of the hundreds of other journalists who contributed to the Papers, changed the world.

Disinformation like this is designed to discourage you, to make you feel you’re powerless against the monsters of the world. They want you to feel that way, because they are terrified of your power to make change.

Take your power back. Demand better. Keep fighting for a better world, because a better world is possible.

you don’t like country/folk/americana? you don’t like the soulful lamenting and colorful storytelling of poor workers and immigrants of the past? banjo banjo🪕?

She’s a CIS woman, for the record. So, yes, transphobia hurts *all* women.

Not to mention verbally insulting Brock Lesnar’s daughter is, like, the worst life decision a person can make.

I acknowledge she will beat the shit out of you too, before her father has too.

This is reverse Taken.

“Pa, they kidnapped me!”

“I assume you took care of yourself.”

“Oh, Pa. They are all dead.”

“My beautiful little girl. I am so proud.”