This has been said eighty-eleven-dozen times by now, but I want y'all to listen, because I love you.
All y'all who are disabled or have issues that make things hard sometimes, who struggle to get things done, listen up.
You are allowed to solve your problems. You sre allowed to solve your problems in the way that is best for YOU, and you actually do not have to care whether other people don't even have that problem, or would solve it another way, or would hate your solution.
If you need to use paper plates because doing the dishes uses energy you really need to free up to wash your underpants, do it. If not separating your whites or putting your clothes away and switching to a two-hamper clean/dirty system means you actually have clean underpants, do it. If eating takeout means that you eat something today instead of nothing, do it. If putting a big ol' 14 gallon kitchen trash can in every room and beside all your fave sitting spots means you don't throw trash on the floor, do it. Keep a thing of Clorox wipes in every room for messes so you don't have to hike to get them. Stash baby wipes in your bedside drawer for when you can't be arsed to go shower but would like to be a bit cleaner. Throw away things you would otherwise save because they could maybe be fixed someday, perhaps -- the clutter is depressing you way more than the broken thing is worth. Shop where it's easiest, forgive yourself if it is not the cheapest, or if it's Walmart.
Cut yourself a break whenever you can and caredully consider whether, in struggling to solve a problem the "right" way, you may be making things unnecessarily hard on yourself.
Laundry hampers, trash cans, those can be hidden if you have company but feel ashamed. You can KEEP a set of clean real dishes to use for company. You can cook when you feel like it, or for occasions, but not always.
You can try to think outside the box, try to make a life where things are easier for you because you aren't struggling against your own needs.
Cut yourself a break. Solve the problem you have, not the problem other people might have with things being done the "wrong" way. Their expectations are silly. You do you.
