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A better, more positive Tumblr

Since its founding in 2007, Tumblr has always been a place for wide open, creative self-expression at the heart of community and culture. To borrow from our founder David Karp, we’re proud to have inspired a generation of artists, writers, creators, curators, and crusaders to redefine our culture and to help empower individuality.

Over the past several months, and inspired by our storied past, we’ve given serious thought to who we want to be to our community moving forward and have been hard at work laying the foundation for a better Tumblr. We’ve realized that in order to continue to fulfill our promise and place in culture, especially as it evolves, we must change. Some of that change began with fostering more constructive dialogue among our community members. Today, we’re taking another step by no longer allowing adult content, including explicit sexual content and nudity (with some exceptions).  

Let’s first be unequivocal about something that should not be confused with today’s policy change: posting anything that is harmful to minors, including child pornography, is abhorrent and has no place in our community. We’ve always had and always will have a zero tolerance policy for this type of content. To this end, we continuously invest in the enforcement of this policy, including industry-standard machine monitoring, a growing team of human moderators, and user tools that make it easy to report abuse. We also closely partner with the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children and the Internet Watch Foundation, two invaluable organizations at the forefront of protecting our children from abuse, and through these partnerships we report violations of this policy to law enforcement authorities. We can never prevent all bad actors from attempting to abuse our platform, but we make it our highest priority to keep the community as safe as possible.

So what is changing?

Posts that contain adult content will no longer be allowed on Tumblr, and we’ve updated our Community Guidelines to reflect this policy change. We recognize Tumblr is also a place to speak freely about topics like art, sex positivity, your relationships, your sexuality, and your personal journey. We want to make sure that we continue to foster this type of diversity of expression in the community, so our new policy strives to strike a balance.

Why are we doing this?

It is our continued, humble aspiration that Tumblr be a safe place for creative expression, self-discovery, and a deep sense of community. As Tumblr continues to grow and evolve, and our understanding of our impact on our world becomes clearer, we have a responsibility to consider that impact across different age groups, demographics, cultures, and mindsets. We spent considerable time weighing the pros and cons of expression in the community that includes adult content. In doing so, it became clear that without this content we have the opportunity to create a place where more people feel comfortable expressing themselves.

Bottom line: There are no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content. We will leave it to them and focus our efforts on creating the most welcoming environment possible for our community.

So what’s next?

Starting December 17, 2018, we will begin enforcing this new policy. Community members with content that is no longer permitted on Tumblr will get a heads up from us in advance and steps they can take to appeal or preserve their content outside the community if they so choose. All changes won’t happen overnight as something of this complexity takes time.

Another thing, filtering this type of content versus say, a political protest with nudity or the statue of David, is not simple at scale. We’re relying on automated tools to identify adult content and humans to help train and keep our systems in check. We know there will be mistakes, but we’ve done our best to create and enforce a policy that acknowledges the breadth of expression we see in the community.

Most importantly, we’re going to be as transparent as possible with you about the decisions we’re making and resources available to you, including more detailed information, product enhancements, and more content moderators to interface directly with the community and content.

Like you, we love Tumblr and what it’s come to mean for millions of people around the world. Our actions are out of love and hope for our community. We won’t always get this right, especially in the beginning, but we are determined to make your experience a positive one.

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Saw this an made me think of this YouTube video College Humor did on this lol 😂

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=CtUuab1Aqg0

i know, it’s very difficult for all of us. this is a hard time we’re going through.

i think the important things to remember is that this will pass, and as annoying and cliche that is, it’s true. other people in lgbtqa+ have had to go through this exclusionary bullcrap, and we happen to be the targets this time. there will probably always be a target, sadly. the d*scoursers are just ignorant, rude people that are too focused on making everything about them, so they get upset when something isn’t about them. they want the spotlight to always be on them.

i used to be ashamed of both being aro and the community, because it seemed like everyone in the comm is like the d*scoursers, but that’s definitely not true. as many have said, the annoying bullies on tumblr are just a small group compared to the whole comm. and yes, there’s no denying that you could coincidentally meet someone in real life who you find out is a d*scourser, but that doesn’t mean they’re bigger. we will get through this. we just need to believe in ourselves :)

if it makes you feel better, i’ve been seeing a lot of supportive people lately. the support will grow more and more, we just have to be patient.

There's not much we can do except wait. But if you really want to do something then just kill them with kindness. When you make your points add things in the end like " I hope you have a long happy life" or other things like that. It leaves them unable to answer with negative comments. And maybe the more we do it, the more we spread love and not hate the more people will accept us and want us a part or the LGBTQ+ community.

I don’t care if you’re LGBT or not, if you compare centuries of systematic oppression and violence aimed at gay people to a few people not understanding what asexuality is, you’re homophobic. if you make blanket statements that imply that ace people face the same amount of discrimination as LGBT people, you’re homophobic. if you compare ace discourse posts to oppression, you’re homophobic. stop erasing real pain just so you can feel special about your fictionalized oppression.

Or…ooorrrr….don’t oppress anyone? We’re all part of the same family, so why should one person’s pain be less valid than someone elses?

ace people aren’t oppressed for being ace so maybe don’t comment about it on a post pointing out homophobia thanks

people like  @aphobiakills are why i can’t stand allos. Asexuals are the most oppressed minority in the world

this has got to be a joke. I’m just going to assume this is a joke because what the fuck

@Asexual-Pearl the bible encourages abstinence and chastity but condemns men sleeping together like this shit is deeply rooted and you still have the nerve???

And yet when asexual does not want sex we are punished. Allos have so much nerve…..

the only people who are privileged for having sex/wanting sex at all are cis straight white men. nobody else benefits from sexual attraction.

ding dong you’re wrong! asexuals do not and I’m not white I’m Italian. try again :)

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 me trying to figure out how you being Italian makes it ok for you to be homophobic

I’M FUCKING SCREAMING “I’M ITALIAN” NOBODY CARES IF YOU’RE FUCKING OLIVE OIL WHITE

why are whites like this im dyign

They have “cishet asexual queer” in their description i’m screaming

What I don’t understand is how you all can go around talking about how oppressed you are but then go around and oppress someone else just because they’re not gay enough or Trans enough or whatever enough to fit into your box of LBGTQ+. Don’t be a hypocrite. Look at yourself in the mirror because you’re turning exactly into what you hate the most.

LGBT people can’t oppress ace people because we have no power over them and we can’t oppress our oppressors but nice to know you care abt cishet feelings more than LGBT lives !

First of all I’m cis aro ace not cis het and not straight. And I do care about LBGTQ+ lives. It hurts to see this stuff happen to them because I know it could happen to me someday if the wrong person finds out I’m aro ace and because i know they don’t deserve it. But you need to stop making this all about oppression because just because not everyone has gone through the same things you have doesn’t mean that we’re not all equal and deserve the right to be accepted.

you aren’t LGBT can you stop

Just because you won’t let me be part of your community doesn’t mean that I can’t care about the people who are part of it and that I shouldn’t believe that everyone should be accepted and equal. I’ve seen enough hate in the world and I’m sorry if you can’t deal with the fact that I care but no matter your opinions I will never stop caring about people and hoping that some day evey gender and sexuality and romantic orientation and race and religion and color and just in general every person will be accepted and equal. I don’t know about you but I’m going to do all I can to stop the cycle of hate.

you clearly don’t care about us you’re comparing our oppression to people disagreeing with you on the Internet

When did I say that? I would never compare oppression with something as stupid as that. And I do know what oppression is. It's hard not to when your an immigrant. And you can't say I don't care because some of my closest friends are part of the LGBTQ+ community. And even if it was someone who I didn't know, I would take a bullet for them. I would do whatever i could for them. Why do you find it so hard to believe that I have a heart and am actually a good person. Not once have I cursed at you or insulted you just because you keep arguing with me. And I don't know if something horrible happened to you or not but not everyone is out to get you. And I hope that you have a long and happy life.

I don’t care if you’re LGBT or not, if you compare centuries of systematic oppression and violence aimed at gay people to a few people not understanding what asexuality is, you’re homophobic. if you make blanket statements that imply that ace people face the same amount of discrimination as LGBT people, you’re homophobic. if you compare ace discourse posts to oppression, you’re homophobic. stop erasing real pain just so you can feel special about your fictionalized oppression.

Or…ooorrrr….don’t oppress anyone? We’re all part of the same family, so why should one person’s pain be less valid than someone elses?

ace people aren’t oppressed for being ace so maybe don’t comment about it on a post pointing out homophobia thanks

people like  @aphobiakills are why i can’t stand allos. Asexuals are the most oppressed minority in the world

this has got to be a joke. I’m just going to assume this is a joke because what the fuck

@Asexual-Pearl the bible encourages abstinence and chastity but condemns men sleeping together like this shit is deeply rooted and you still have the nerve???

And yet when asexual does not want sex we are punished. Allos have so much nerve…..

the only people who are privileged for having sex/wanting sex at all are cis straight white men. nobody else benefits from sexual attraction.

ding dong you’re wrong! asexuals do not and I’m not white I’m Italian. try again :)

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 me trying to figure out how you being Italian makes it ok for you to be homophobic

I’M FUCKING SCREAMING “I’M ITALIAN” NOBODY CARES IF YOU’RE FUCKING OLIVE OIL WHITE

why are whites like this im dyign

They have “cishet asexual queer” in their description i’m screaming

What I don’t understand is how you all can go around talking about how oppressed you are but then go around and oppress someone else just because they’re not gay enough or Trans enough or whatever enough to fit into your box of LBGTQ+. Don’t be a hypocrite. Look at yourself in the mirror because you’re turning exactly into what you hate the most.

LGBT people can’t oppress ace people because we have no power over them and we can’t oppress our oppressors but nice to know you care abt cishet feelings more than LGBT lives !

First of all I’m cis aro ace not cis het and not straight. And I do care about LBGTQ+ lives. It hurts to see this stuff happen to them because I know it could happen to me someday if the wrong person finds out I’m aro ace and because i know they don’t deserve it. But you need to stop making this all about oppression because just because not everyone has gone through the same things you have doesn’t mean that we’re not all equal and deserve the right to be accepted.

you aren’t LGBT can you stop

Just because you won't let me be part of your community doesn't mean that I can't care about the people who are part of it and that I shouldn't believe that everyone should be accepted and equal. I've seen enough hate in the world and I'm sorry if you can't deal with the fact that I care but no matter your opinions I will never stop caring about people and hoping that some day evey gender and sexuality and romantic orientation and race and religion and color and just in general every person will be accepted and equal. I don't know about you but I'm going to do all I can to stop the cycle of hate.

I don’t care if you’re LGBT or not, if you compare centuries of systematic oppression and violence aimed at gay people to a few people not understanding what asexuality is, you’re homophobic. if you make blanket statements that imply that ace people face the same amount of discrimination as LGBT people, you’re homophobic. if you compare ace discourse posts to oppression, you’re homophobic. stop erasing real pain just so you can feel special about your fictionalized oppression.

Or…ooorrrr….don’t oppress anyone? We’re all part of the same family, so why should one person’s pain be less valid than someone elses?

ace people aren’t oppressed for being ace so maybe don’t comment about it on a post pointing out homophobia thanks

people like  @aphobiakills are why i can’t stand allos. Asexuals are the most oppressed minority in the world

this has got to be a joke. I’m just going to assume this is a joke because what the fuck

@Asexual-Pearl the bible encourages abstinence and chastity but condemns men sleeping together like this shit is deeply rooted and you still have the nerve???

And yet when asexual does not want sex we are punished. Allos have so much nerve…..

the only people who are privileged for having sex/wanting sex at all are cis straight white men. nobody else benefits from sexual attraction.

ding dong you’re wrong! asexuals do not and I’m not white I’m Italian. try again :)

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 me trying to figure out how you being Italian makes it ok for you to be homophobic

I’M FUCKING SCREAMING “I’M ITALIAN” NOBODY CARES IF YOU’RE FUCKING OLIVE OIL WHITE

why are whites like this im dyign

They have “cishet asexual queer” in their description i’m screaming

What I don’t understand is how you all can go around talking about how oppressed you are but then go around and oppress someone else just because they’re not gay enough or Trans enough or whatever enough to fit into your box of LBGTQ+. Don’t be a hypocrite. Look at yourself in the mirror because you’re turning exactly into what you hate the most.

LGBT people can’t oppress ace people because we have no power over them and we can’t oppress our oppressors but nice to know you care abt cishet feelings more than LGBT lives !

First of all I'm cis aro ace not cis het and not straight. And I do care about LBGTQ+ lives. It hurts to see this stuff happen to them because I know it could happen to me someday if the wrong person finds out I'm aro ace and because i know they don't deserve it. But you need to stop making this all about oppression because just because not everyone has gone through the same things you have doesn't mean that we're not all equal and deserve the right to be accepted.

My biggest pet peeve is when people who are actually lgbt side with cishet aces

alright !! 

Hi I’m bi and trans and I love cishet Aces I think they’re the fucking best and they belong in the community and if anyone should be getting kicked out its TERFs :)

U mad OP lol

reblog ur an actual lgbt to peeve OPs pet

Reblog if you love harassing people online 😊😊😊😊😊😊

im screaming everything i’ve gone through for being aro/ace counts for nothing apparently but the real pain is me disagreeing on your “opinion” on my own orientation. you seem peeved.

That has literally nothing to do with the fact that you’re encouraging your followers to harass me but nice try 👌🏻

No offense to people who are giving support to aros and ace but can you not say cishet aces/aros cause the her implies that we’re heterosexual. Maybe some aros are heterosexual but they be other sexualities too. And me being aro ace I’m kind of uncomfortable with the het part being implied. Maybe it’s just me and I don’t mean any offense but can’t it just be cisaro/ace when talking about us?

Referring to what I said earlier -" No offense to people who are giving support to aros and ace but can you not say cishet aces/aros cause the her implies that we’re heterosexual. Maybe some aros are heterosexual but they be other sexualities too. And me being aro ace I’m kind of uncomfortable with the het part being implied. Maybe it’s just me and I don’t mean any offense but can’t it just be cisaro/ace when talking about us?"- Why is the term cishet used towards people who are not heterosexual as well. Cause cishet ace is really contradictory since it implies asexuals are heterosexuals. If we're trying to specify more than via can't we say cisace or cisaro or cishom or cisbi cause saying cishet is saying we're heterosexual even if we're not. Does that make sense? Or am I not making any sense?

My biggest pet peeve is when people who are actually lgbt side with cishet aces

alright !! 

Hi I’m bi and trans and I love cishet Aces I think they’re the fucking best and they belong in the community and if anyone should be getting kicked out its TERFs :)

U mad OP lol

reblog ur an actual lgbt to peeve OPs pet

Reblog if you love harassing people online 😊😊😊😊😊😊

im screaming everything i’ve gone through for being aro/ace counts for nothing apparently but the real pain is me disagreeing on your “opinion” on my own orientation. you seem peeved.

That has literally nothing to do with the fact that you’re encouraging your followers to harass me but nice try 👌🏻

No offense to people who are giving support to aros and ace but can you not say cishet aces/aros cause the her implies that we’re heterosexual. Maybe some aros are heterosexual but they be other sexualities too. And me being aro ace I’m kind of uncomfortable with the het part being implied. Maybe it’s just me and I don’t mean any offense but can’t it just be cisaro/ace when talking about us?

Sorry about the typos

My biggest pet peeve is when people who are actually lgbt side with cishet aces

alright !! 

Hi I’m bi and trans and I love cishet Aces I think they’re the fucking best and they belong in the community and if anyone should be getting kicked out its TERFs :)

U mad OP lol

reblog ur an actual lgbt to peeve OPs pet

Reblog if you love harassing people online 😊😊😊😊😊😊

im screaming everything i’ve gone through for being aro/ace counts for nothing apparently but the real pain is me disagreeing on your “opinion” on my own orientation. you seem peeved.

That has literally nothing to do with the fact that you’re encouraging your followers to harass me but nice try 👌🏻

No offense to people who are giving support to aros and ace but can you not say cishet aces/aros cause the her implies that we're heterosexual. Maybe some aros are heterosexual but they be other sexualities too. And me being aro ace I'm kind of uncomfortable with the het part being implied. Maybe it's just me and I don't mean any offense but can't it just be cisaro/ace when talking about us?

PSA

Hey “Ace positivity” bloggers!!! You know it’s possible to validate other Ace people without:

- Joking about STDS/STIS

- Joking about unplanned pregnancies

- Being homophobic

- Speaking over LGBT people

- Slut shaming

- Being prejudiced in general

So stop doing those things (:

I hope you know that not every ace is like that. It’s just that there are always people in every group that decide to be bigots and give everyone else a bad name.

The point of the post was to tell them they could be ace positively without being bigotted like that but ok

Sorry. I didn’t mean that in a bad way. I agreed with the post. No one should be doing that. I just wanted to tell anyone who reads it that not everyone is like that

We know not every ace is like that. A good majority of this side of the discourse is actually ace themselves. You’re fine, but all I said was that it’s possible to uplift asexual people without making it a “ACES R SO PURE AND CLEAN FUCK THE DIRTY SEX PEOPLE EWWWWWW” type thing. You’re okay I promise (: sorry if I was harsh bud

It's fine. It's just that I only get the chance to talk to other aces or aros on Tumblr. But then I see so much hate coming from all sides that I try my best to make the world less hateful when I can. Maybe it's just the naïvity in me but I kind of butt in when I probably shouldn't

PSA

Hey “Ace positivity” bloggers!!! You know it’s possible to validate other Ace people without:

- Joking about STDS/STIS

- Joking about unplanned pregnancies

- Being homophobic

- Speaking over LGBT people

- Slut shaming

- Being prejudiced in general

So stop doing those things (:

I hope you know that not every ace is that way. It's just that some people in every group are bigots and give all the good people a bad name.

PSA

Hey “Ace positivity” bloggers!!! You know it’s possible to validate other Ace people without:

- Joking about STDS/STIS

- Joking about unplanned pregnancies

- Being homophobic

- Speaking over LGBT people

- Slut shaming

- Being prejudiced in general

So stop doing those things (:

I hope you know that not every ace is like that. It’s just that there are always people in every group that decide to be bigots and give everyone else a bad name.

The point of the post was to tell them they could be ace positively without being bigotted like that but ok

Sorry. I didn't mean that in a bad way. I agreed with the post. No one should be doing that. I just wanted to tell anyone who reads it that not everyone is like that

PSA

Hey “Ace positivity” bloggers!!! You know it’s possible to validate other Ace people without:

- Joking about STDS/STIS

- Joking about unplanned pregnancies

- Being homophobic

- Speaking over LGBT people

- Slut shaming

- Being prejudiced in general

So stop doing those things (:

I hope you know that not every ace is like that. It's just that there are always people in every group that decide to be bigots and give everyone else a bad name.

k but I don’t get the arguments abt cis people not using cishet bc like?

if cis discoursers went around saying “cis ppl are our oppressors” or responding to discourse posts with “I hate cis ppl” then Yeah we’d have a major problem with cis ppl trying to opt out of privilege and trying to distance ourselves from cis ppl.

but if cis discoursers only use “het” to describe ppl who oppress us then like, that includes trans het ppl and I feel like saying “I’m oppressed by hets” ignores the fact that straight trans ppl don’t access straight privilege in the same way as cis straight ppl.

wouldn’t me saying het trans ppl have privilege over me/can contribute to my oppression suggest that I’m ignoring my cis privilege, more so than me acknowledging that cis hetero ppl specifically are the ones with actual power not only over me but over trans ppl??

idk I see a lot of ppl accusing aphobiakills of transphobia based on her using the term cishets bc some peeps on the other side of the discourse have decided it’s transphobic for cis people to use it but I don’t really get how not saying “het trans ppl are included in the group of ppl who oppress me” is transphobic…if I’m wrong someone explain.

im cis so correct me if I’m wrong or explain it to me but yeah I don’t get it.

I’m trans and this is what I’ve been trying to say. cis LGB people can use cishet because it makes a distinction between cishet and straight trans ppl, and they literally are oppressed by cishet ppl. aphobiakills hasn’t done anything wrong.

The only problem I see with using the term cishet is when you use it to define someone who’s not heterosexual and heteroromantic. Just say cis(insert correct sexual and or romantic identity here)

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Every time you say aces are straight, or imply it with “cishet”, this is clear disrespect of asexuality and aromanticsm (as well as the whole spectrum) as a separate orientation.

fun fact: you can be two things at once. shocking, i know

Also insisting aces can’t be straight is ignoring people who identify as straight and ace or aro

How about we just let people identify as what they want to be? It's their identity to choose. No one has the right to say otherwise.

I don’t care if you’re LGBT or not, if you compare centuries of systematic oppression and violence aimed at gay people to a few people not understanding what asexuality is, you’re homophobic. if you make blanket statements that imply that ace people face the same amount of discrimination as LGBT people, you’re homophobic. if you compare ace discourse posts to oppression, you’re homophobic. stop erasing real pain just so you can feel special about your fictionalized oppression.

Or…ooorrrr….don’t oppress anyone? We’re all part of the same family, so why should one person’s pain be less valid than someone elses?

ace people aren’t oppressed for being ace so maybe don’t comment about it on a post pointing out homophobia thanks

people like  @aphobiakills are why i can’t stand allos. Asexuals are the most oppressed minority in the world

this has got to be a joke. I’m just going to assume this is a joke because what the fuck

@Asexual-Pearl the bible encourages abstinence and chastity but condemns men sleeping together like this shit is deeply rooted and you still have the nerve???

And yet when asexual does not want sex we are punished. Allos have so much nerve…..

the only people who are privileged for having sex/wanting sex at all are cis straight white men. nobody else benefits from sexual attraction.

ding dong you’re wrong! asexuals do not and I’m not white I’m Italian. try again :)

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔 me trying to figure out how you being Italian makes it ok for you to be homophobic

I’M FUCKING SCREAMING “I’M ITALIAN” NOBODY CARES IF YOU’RE FUCKING OLIVE OIL WHITE

why are whites like this im dyign

They have “cishet asexual queer” in their description i’m screaming

What I don't understand is how you all can go around talking about how oppressed you are but then go around and oppress someone else just because they're not gay enough or Trans enough or whatever enough to fit into your box of LBGTQ+. Don't be a hypocrite. Look at yourself in the mirror because you're turning exactly into what you hate the most.

Aromantics: reblog and tag which aro flag you prefer!

(There might be others, but these are the only ones I’ve seen)

You can still reblog if you aren’t aro, but obviously I’m mainly interested in the opinions of aromantic people, since it’s our flag. Also this is just for my interest, not the decide on an ‘official’ flag or anything like that.

I’ve never seen the fourth one… If you know, who created it?

Definitely #2. Looks better without any yellow and orange in it

“You here?”

This could work.

I’m the most awesome candidate that you’re either here at my rallies or you wish you could be here. 

“Good Luck”

I’m not seeing that work well.

“You’re totally fine, no rush😊”

I guess I’m the new Jeb Bush

“shit”

Great.

I haven’t texted anyone in years.

“i cant”

“are minions circumcised?”

I’m here

“i just dyed my hair purple and pink”

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Bal

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“cool, call me when you’re downstairs”

“Yeah, I agree”

“I’m sorry” seems legit

“Yeah that is cool. I should be here.”

"A little after 12"

One of the most annoying aphobic arguments I’ve seen is anything along the lines of “if your main goal is visibility, then that says something”

Yeah, our main goal is visibility. You know why?

When you’re growing up, no matter how homophobic your family is, you now what gay is. Just about every middle schooler knows what bi is. They may not have positive connotations with them, but you at least know that there are people out there that exist and have this orientation

Aces and aros? Nothing. Not a word

This is reflected in our media too. I’m so so proud of how many mainstream shows and movies and books are making SGA characters. It’s so encouraging to see

But each on screen kiss, each canon relationship makes us go “that’s great! Where are we?”

Romance and sex are so indoctrinated into our society. Every show has a couple in it. Every movie has a romantic subplot or a sex scene. Too many books focus on the love triangle and not the beautiful friendships that are so easy to encourage. And that destroys aro and ace children

I grew up thinking you had to have a crush. If you weren’t crushing on or dating someone, there was something wrong with you, that you weren’t right or you hadn’t grown up enough. I put myself into anxiety causing situations for my “crushes”. I put myself in a romantic relationship that caused me panic attacks almost every day- not because of my girlfriend, but because I was so unhappy in a romantic relationship

Without visibility, there are children growing up feeling broken. Without visibility, there are people in relationships they shouldn’t be in. Without visibility, there are people having uncomfortable sex because they assume it’s always like this. Without this, we don’t even exist.

Don’t get us wrong. Visibility is certainly not our end goal. But without it, how can we address any of our other problems? Without people knowing asexuals exist and are valid, how will we spread awareness and prevent ace rape? Without people knowing about aromantics, how will we end or at least lessen amatonormativity? 

Visibility is important because it’s what makes your issues have worth to people outside of your community

“no matter how homophobic your family is, you know what gay is. Just about every middle schooler knows what bi is. They may not have positive connotations with them, but…”

But nothing. None of that is a fucking privilege, and gay and bpq people have issues with visibility too. Also have you considered that gay and mga aces and aros exist?

I’m not saying it’s a privilege and if it came across that way, it was not my intent. I know they struggle with visibility as well and I am well aware that gay and mga aces and aros exist

All I was trying to say with this post was that people disqualifying everything about us just because we’re trying to get visibility is hurtful and unkind. This post isn’t to rag on sga/mga people. This post is to talk about how aces and aros need visibility just like the rest of the LGBT+ community does

That section might have been a bit biased; I don’t know the setting that every person on the planet grew up in, but I know that I knew what gay and bi was from pretty early on in my life. It took me far too long to discover what aromantic and asexual was and even longer to come to terms with the fact that they were not bad things

The LGBT+ community came a long way to get where they are now. I think what you mean is that it's our turn to spread the word about the aro and ace spectrum. We have a lot of work cut out for us, but hopefully we'll be able to become more visible and recognized soon. :)

Acoromantic

Acoromantic / Acorsexual Experiencing romantic/sexual attraction that one wants to act on, at the same time having a strong aversion to engaging in a romantic/sexual relationship due to bad experiences, apprehension, or other misgivings about being involved in romantic/sexual relationships. (Straight outta the glossary)

The problem? We need a flag! It feels like no one else identifies as this and I think it’d be good for everyone if we had one so pour in the suggestions in the inbox if you want (Acoromantic or not, it doesn’t matter(or does it?)). I know it wouldn’t be mainstream but it’d still be nice to have. Color suggestions and symbol ideas needed.

–Mod Aco 💓

I think it would be really cool if you took some colors from allosexual/romantic and asexual/romantic flags and put them together. It would kind of show the clashing of feeling. I hope that helps! :)