“I personally think that being a housewife has something to do with your subconscious that has been influenced by our sexist society. I believe that if you want to live that way it’s because you subconsciously believe that you either 1. Believe that you truly cannot provide for your family. Or 2. You are stuck in the sexist past that has been the main influence on violence, mutilation, and objectifying towards men.” - L. A.
I disagree with all of this completely. There is nothing wrong with just wanting to be a mom. It’s in my nature as a woman to want to produce offspring and to provide and nurture my children for as long as I’m alive. Modern society is expecting women to go out and get jobs while supporting a family on her own and I AM a feminist, I do believe that women should be treated as equals but when it comes down to it, gender roles have existed since the beginning of mankind and you can’t ignore that. You can’t ignore what we as humans are biologically meant to do like, a mother taking care of her offspring.
I can tell you this right now that I don’t want children if I’m just going to have to send them off to daycare all day to have someone else raise them. I never understood why women would do this. What’s the point in having babies if you only get to see them a few hours a day? I mean, what’s so wrong with being a housewife? What’s so wrong with doing something that is beneficial to my child’s development? Yes, I understand that we’re progressing as a society and our values and morals as a society are changing for the better that allows women to get a college education and work but why do I get weird looks when I say that I want to do something that I’m biologically meant to do? You can bet your ass that I’m going to get a college degree before I even consider getting married so if something were to happen and I were put in the situation where I had to support a family on my own, then I would be able to do so but I honestly just don’t see what’s wrong with staying home and just being a wife and a mother if financially I’m allowed to do so. (I also understand that every situation is different and I applaud single moms, or even married mommies that HAVE to work and take care of their children.)
Ever since I was little I would say that I wanted to be a mom when I grew up. Some girls wanted to be doctors, others wanted to be astronauts but no, I wanted to be a mom. I still to this day want to be a mom. That is my ultimate dream. You dream of being a lawyer well good for you, I dream of being a mom. What’s the difference? We both went to college, I just happened to choose a different career path as you. What makes my dreams anymore ridiculous than yours? If you call me dumb or lazy or ‘only wanting to be a homemaker because I’m not capable of supporting my own family’ then I say SCREW YOU for being an ignorant asshole. I can promise you that I will work at all other times in my life except during the most important part of my child’s development when he needs a constant nurturing mother in his life. I’m sorry if I’m wrong for wanting to devote my life to my family over devoting my life to a career and I’m sorry if as a feminist that offends you. But you should also realize that as female you do have a duty as a woman to raise your own kids. Men don’t have that motherly instinct. Taking care of children doesn’t come as naturally as it does to us females therefore gender roles in nature do exist, whether you want to believe it or not and I think that a lot of feminists nowadays are focusing so hard on equal rights that they forgetting our real role as women, which is to be mothers.
Edit: In no way shape or form am I questioning YOUR ability to raise your child properly nor am I judging your parenting etiquette. The point I’m trying to get across is that there is nothing wrong with just wanting to be a stay at home mom. That’s it, nothing else. If you want to be a career mom, then go right ahead, I think that’s awesome. I’m not implying anything else and it’s not my intention to offend you.