Holy fuck. You are a piece of shit parent. A piece of shit PERSON. And you don’t deserve to have children.
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man, fuck postsecret
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A feminist vent session
- Yes, sexual assault and rape are prevalent on college campuses.
- Yes, there are cases of false sexual assault and rape reports, but they are no higher than other falsely reported crimes (2-8%).
- And saying that girls (even though girls in college are women not girls) get drunk and regret it later, is an example of VICTIM BLAMING!
- It always amazes me when people are so oblivious or rude. Especially when they have daughters! And I get real pissed when they discredit my work with the Interpersonal Violence Prevention initiative.
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Someone just followed me, so I went to their page and their most recent post is some horrid victim-blaming about all the ways women should modify their behaviour to avoid getting raped. Included on this wonderful list were gems such as: don’t have long hair, don’t be in parking lots or public restrooms, don’t sit in your car doing errands (filling out chequebook, putting on make-up, making lists), don’t ever take the stairs, and my favourite, don’t use your cell phone, look through your purse, or otherwise, “be distracted”.
It’s funny too, how on that whole giant list, it never mentions that women are by far most often raped by people they know, not random strangers.
So yeah, I will definitely NOT be following that person.
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Really, PostSecret? -_-
I like PostSecret a lot, and I try to take everything with a grain of salt because I understand how deeply personal it is, but why would they put this one up? Come on.
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What a caring parent.
This is why I cannot stand people who insist on giving “advice” on how not to be raped. Worse, there will be people who defend it, simply because they think that it is sound “advice”.
Remember ladies*:
- Don’t go to parties alone (infact, don’t go at all)
- Don’t drink
- Don’t try to sleep it off
- If you do any of this, it is your fault.
*Rules do not apply to men.
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[TW: Victim blaming, Rape]
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Whoever you are, you are the worst fucking parent ever. I hate you. Fuck you.
[Post Secret: If my daughter goes to a frat party alone, drinks shots on an empty stomach, and spend the night, I will blame her if she gets raped.]
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If you want to have sex with someone, then fucking ASK THEM FIRST. If they say yes, then go for it!! But if they say no?!? Leave it at that and move on to someone else. Don't rape them and then find a way to place the blame on them, saying, "Oh, they asked for it," or, "Oh, they said yes first, but then said no, but them saying yes first means they still want it after saying no." NO. It doesn't work like that. Ever.
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Secret from PostSecret.com
I know this is a secret for a reason and the poster probably feels ashamed for thinking this way… but I’m shocked and disgusted. I hope this girl’s other family members are less victim blaming, regardless of if she does ever get assaulted.
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Rape as a compliment
Unfortunately, in the society that we live in, a lot of people still have the opinion that rape is a compliment. I have heard the comment, when watching the news with my friends; ‘why would anyone want to rape her?’. After all, only attractive women get raped, right? So if you’re raped, really, you should take it as a compliment that you’re just far too attractive and sexy - men can’t restrain themselves around you, they HAVE to rape you.
This again links in with the view that society has that somehow the victim was asking for it. After all, rape is just sex. If someone finds you sexually attractive, that’s a great confidence booster. So surely being raped should be the ultimate confidence booster? You were just THAT attractive.
Take it from me. Rape is not a compliment. Rape destroys lives.
Small people, tall people, thin people and fat people get raped. Rape is not about sex. Rape is not about passion. Rape is not about being attracted to someone. Rape is about control and dominance. Anyone can be raped and it’s just the matter of being in the wrong place at the wrong time.
Some people laugh at women - and men - that become intimidated by someone else. I have heard people wondering why a certain person is so anxious, when they’re obviously nothing special to look at. What rapist would chose an ugly person to rape, when he could have the pick of far more attractive women? This, again, suggests that rape is on the same level as consensual, passionate sex - yes, it’s a bad thing, but it’s not that bad. It’s just a guy that’s had too much to drink and doesn’t realise that the passion isn’t recipricated. Rape is just on the far end of the spectrum of consensual sex.
In reality, rape is on a completely different spectrum. Rape has nothing to do with sex. Rape is about ascerting your dominance, it is about proving that you are better and stronger than another person. Rape is about killing a part of a person. It is about destroying free will. It is about making a statement of ownership. It is about saying ‘your life is in my hands, you have no control, you mean nothing. You are less than nothing’.
Rape makes a rapist feel powerful, invincible. He (or she) is in complete control of another person. He is forcing himself onto someone else. Your body is no longer yours - all that you are, your mind and your body, is at the mercy of the rapist. He can do whatever he wants with you.
Rape is painful. Rape is humiliating. Rape is torture. Rape destroys.
Rape is not a compliment.
