For four years, Tegan Quin has been in a relationship with L.A.-based photographer Lindsey Byrnes, and even though the two would like to marry (and could, in Quin’s native Canada), they’ve postponed the idea indefinitely, abstaining until it’s a right enjoyed by all. “I just don’t feel it’s fair, and it makes me feel so sad,” she explains. “I don’t feel like I should benefit. And while I will fight to have that right in America, I absolutely do not feel I have to get married right now, no.”

-Under the Radar

This quote means a lot to me. While I think it’s kind of bittersweet, I also think it’s making a huge statement about Tegan and Lindsey as people. They care so much about the LGBTQ community that they’re willing to sacrifice their own marriage and that means a lot to someone like me, who is struggling to find acceptance, to know that someone in the world—whether they know I exist or not—is thinking about people like me.