A cis guy walks into a doctor's office
- A cis guy walks into a doctor's office.
- Cis guy: Hi doctor, can you help me?
- Doctor: Sure. What's bothering you?
- Cis guy: I have severe gynecomastia. I've been teased and bullied about it all my life. It's so horrible. Can you please refer me to a surgeon who can remove my breasts?
- Doctor: Hmmm, okay. But first you have to wait a year. You see, we do this thing called a "real life test". Before we give you a mastectomy to fix your gynecomastia, you have to wait a year. Just in case you decide that you're really a woman and start liking your breasts.
- Cis guy: But you don't understand doctor!!! This is such a huge burden for me. I'm so self conscious about it. Do you know how awful it feels to have bigger breasts than your wife? Can you at least put me on testosterone to fix the hormone imbalance that caused my gynecomastia in the first place?
- Doctor: Sorry, we have to be TOTALLY SURE that you want to get rid of your breasts first. I'll think about referring you to a surgeon after your real life test.
- It would be absurd if a cis guy would be put through such barriers to have access to gynecomastia surgery, but the unfortunate reality is that this is the treatment trans guys face for a surgery that is exactly the same as that performed for cis guys with gynecomastia (which is fancy medical term for "man boobs" for those who don't know). Let's not forget to mention that gynecomatia surgery for cis guys has been covered by the government for decades and NOBODY has complained about it, yet, when surgeries for trans people were included to be covered by the government, there was so much controversy.
- It really goes to show how deeply rooted cissexism is in the medical field.
Another pregnant man steps forward
drpate.wordpress.com
Scott Moore and his husband, Thomas, have decided to follow in the footsteps of Thomas Beatie and Ruben Coronado by going public about Scott’s very much wanted pregnancy and impending delivery in order to raise awareness.
Article continued on:
http://drpate.wordpress.com/2010/01/27/another-pregnant-man-steps-forward/
I think I’ve left my packers on display so many times already that there is no point in keeping them in private places in my room. in fact, I should probably get a glass display cabinet for them in the living room and just embrace the fact that the whole household has seen my dick in random spots that aren’t my trousers.
signal boost! help for Knute! I will draw you things!
gofundme.comthis is REALLLY awkward but
My wonderful boyfriend Knute (pictured on the right) has hit a challenging and complicated spot in his life. He’s a transgender man living in Canada and his chest surgery is coming up soon in June. He is also disabled and struggles with several mental illnesses, including depression, ADHD and anxiety.
He lives in an abusive, unsafe environment that gets worse every day and will soon be too costly, both financially and emotionally, to continue living in, and fears the very real possibility of becoming homeless before he can even achieve his surgery. He is currently unable to find work until after his surgery due to being trans and disabled, as well as trying to finish school. As it is, he receives a very small amount of money from the government that barely covers his cost of living.
While I (his girlfriend, Rae, on the left) am making money, I live in the US (we are long distance) and have to save more than 2/3rds of every paycheck I receive to be able to cover flying and traveling expenses to see him, as well as food and other necessities while I’m there. As it is, I’m the only person available to take care of him after chest surgery, so it’s essential that I save my money to be there.
If he could raise 1000 Canadian, it would tide him over before chest surgery and help him to move to a safer location to rehabilitate in afterwards until he can go back to work. If we can raise money by mid-March, he can look for an apartment away from the abusive people he lives with and will exponentially improve his mental and physical health before surgery.
Obviously, it’s not easy to be asking others for money, and it was not Knute’s idea to start a campaign, but he desperately needs help. I am an artist in college working for my BFA in New Hampshire right now. I go to school full time and work 30 hours a week. For every donation above $25 I’ll do a pencil or pen drawing of your choice (I don’t have a lot of time to make really elaborate drawings, but I’m willing to draw whatever you want! Contact me after your donation for details). Thank you so much for even a signal boost, and to anyone who donates - thank you times a million!!
Contact Rae: raelaven1@aol.com
applied for a new ID today! it should be ready within the next 2-3 weeks. wish there were more pictures for you to compare, but I had a tendency to purposely loose my school IDs in the past. new picture didn’t turn out great, but it’s better than my previous ones ;) oh well, maybe one day I’ll learn how to smile in front of a camera. judging by the evolution of my hairstyles above, by the time I add another picture to these, I should be bald.
For anyone interested, here's a compilation of links for changing your gender on your driver's license
tsroadmap.comI know the Texas one is, unfortunately, broken, but as far as I know they all work.
I’d love that if anyone finds a broken link, to let me know. I’ll try to update this post with the State’s links that don’t work with ones that do, or the required info
Texas — Need: Court ordered gender change, amended social security card and old license. Est. Fee: $10
New York
I’ve been so busy I completely forgot I hit that two years mark this Sunday. people tend not to get as excited after they have reached one year, but it’s kind of a big deal, if I think about where I was at this time just a year ago, how much I’ve experienced and learned about myself throughout the past 12 months. I got my chest surgery done, got my name changed, buzzed my hair for the first time, started growing facial hair, begun exploring my queer identity. I’m excited and looking forward to what another year brings me!
Transitioning is harder for trans* women >:(
- The trans woman tag:
- Murder, rape, murder, murder, homeless person looking for an apartment, murder, rape.
- The trans man tag:
- I bought some manly trousers, I bought a new STP, I want a pen pal, trans men masturbating, story about someone saying a mean thing, my STP arrived, more trans men masturbating.
listen, y'all
i’m talking to all you, my fellow AFAB trans* and queer folks.
i’ve got a couple things to tell you
i was going to say “secrets to let you in on”
but they’re only secretive because no matter how many times someone says them to you, y’all act like you’ve never heard it before, and then promptly forget it as soon as, i don’t know, the sun rotates or something
here we go:
- “tr*nny” is not ours to reclaim. it refers to an extremely negative image of trans* women, portrayed and perpetuated by our society. the only reason it is ever used against us is because it likens us to trans* women, which society considers to be negative. therefore, even if it’s been used against you, it’s not because you are a trans*masculine person — it is because being trans means that you are more like trans* women than cis people, and to this world, that is a bad thing.
- there is no such thing as “cisphobia” or “anti-cis hate speech” or anything of that caliber. every time one of you claims that someone (especially a trans* woman) says something “hateful” toward cis people, you are literally sucking the patriarchy’s dick like a fucking hoover. this is exactly what the forces in power want you to think: if we’re nice, they’ll give us what we want. that’s your privilege speaking, loud and clear, because you can be nice and suck up to the authorities and get away with whatever you want. CeCe McDonald defended herself, saved herself from being murdered like her other sisters of color by hateful white cis straight people, and she’ll be in jail for almost 4 years for surviving — a plea bargain that was taken because the “trial of her peers” was going to be white cis straight people in order to “prevent any bias.”chew on that next time you tone police a trans* woman.
- i know that not all of you are into being radical/queer/or even trans*, and that’s fine, assimilate all you want, i won’t stop you. but do not become part of the system that discriminates against, blatantly hates, robs, rapes, hurts, and kills your sisters (primarily of color) because i will find you and fuck you up.
- being trans does not absolve you of all other privileges. if you are white, you have white privilege. when you “pass,” you have privilege, and the reason that we must be constantly reminded to check our privilege is because when we pass as male, we are awarded male privilege.
- for those of us who are genderqueer, when we pass as either binary gender, we are awarded cis privileges, because we are not identified as a “gender threat.” and because of our society’s gendered hierarchy, when we, AFAB people, are perceived as masculine, we are not nearly as badly vilified as AMAB people who transcend gender boundaries, so even if you feel the need to say, “but i’m genderqueer/non-binary!” recognize that we are awarded so much more freedom to express ourselves because we are AFAB. i can find plenty of masculine clothing in my size and my department; when was the last time you saw dresses in the men’s department or in sizes that accomodate AMAB bodies?
**NONE OF THIS IS SAYING THAT AFAB TRANS*/NON-BINARY PEOPLE DO NOT HAVE ISSUES OR STRUGGLES TO OVERCOME**
BUT THE FACT THAT I HAVE TO ADD THAT DISCLAIMER REALLY FUCKING SUCKS
if you feel like arguing this with me, go right ahead. take your internalized cissexism, transmisogyny, and transphobia out on me. don’t do it to the AMAB trans* bloggers who are already dealing with a shitstorm from the rest of the world. got a problem? bring it here.
