I'm going through a break up stage I believe. We broke the 3rd of this month... and he hasnt said one word to me since then. It hurts you know he wasnt just my bf for 5 years but my best friend. Right now i'm going through family problems and i wish i could call him and he would make me feel better. But he broke my heart, he lied, possibly cheated and just ignored me. I know that this break up isnt my fault, i know it was him who gave up but everyday i wake up and I just cant believe this is
Hey there, lovely!
I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through a break up.
Know that although difficult and painful, break ups are a part of living and learning.
They happen to everyone, and I believe that we should take what we’ve learned in these situations and apply them to bettering our next relationships.
It’s understandable for you to still be very emotional.
You’ve only broken up a few weeks ago, so please don’t expect things to change and get better over night.
Some people take months to get over a break up, and others take years.
Whatever the case, know that you need time right now.
You need time to reflect over the relationship, why it didn’t work, and what you could do for improvement within yourself.
It’s very heart breaking when you’ve been close to someone for so long, however, some things just aren’t meant to be.
It’s ok to want him there to comfort you and make you feel better, however, know that that isn’t his job, sweetheart.
It’s yours.
And that’s not just because you are now broken up, but because it’s our own individual choice to determine our happiness and success.
Right now, you have to be strong and positive for YOU.
It appears like you’re still focusing so much on the break up, how much it hurts, and how much you wish things would change… however, none of that will necessarily change the current situation you’re in.
Nor is it helping you move on with your life.
You’re going through your own trials and tribulations right now, and you are the only person you can rely on.
He broke your heart, lied to you, and whatever else he did… and you’re broken up now.
Try your best to accept the past, know that everything happens for a reason, and work towards moving on.
Dwelling over the break up is just putting extra stress on you in this moment.
Also try not to focus on who is at fault.
It will all take some time and understanding of the situation, but if you need additional guidance, you can check out the tags and top questions. The tags on this post shall help you as well :) <3
Stay strong, lovely!
peace, love, inspiration
Tiary
Hey, I'm in college and I'm feeling really stressed out because I don't know what I wanna do. I have an interest in almost everything except math, so almost everything appeals to me in some way. Everybody just makes it seem like college is aone shot thing, like once you're done you have to start paying bills and living life. And I'm just really scared that I'm gonna choose the wrong thing and I'll look back years from now and wish I had done smething else, and not get a do-over.
Life can be such a frightening thing.
Especially when you’ve reached a point of adulthood, and are faced with choosing what path you want your life to go in.
I’m a senior in college, and i’m still working on figuring out what it is that I want to do with my life.
Although it seems like you have to decide on everything right now, you still have time.
You’re young, and you have your entire life ahead of you!
Sometimes people take a little more time to figure out what it is that they want out of life, you know?
And that’s fine!
That just means that perhaps you are a bit more intrigued by life and the possibilities that it has to offer… thus you need a bit more exploration in order to discover your niche.
With all of that being said, although I’m a college student, I am already swamped with bills and living life.
I’m not as fortunate as a lot of other people, so I have to work a job after classes, pay my own credit card bills, phone bill, buy my own groceries, etc etc.
The stress of life already puts enough of a strain on me, and I’ve learned that I must not get caught up in solely “making money to make ends meet.”
I still enjoy my life and explore the possibilities that are out there for me.
I’ve chosen to stay an extra semester in order to give me more time, and get all of the credits, internships, etc etc that I’d like to try.
Life is about exploration, sweetheart!!
And sometimes, we make the wrong choice and have to start something over, however, we shouldn’t live our lives in fear of what is to come.
If somewhere along the line you decide you’d like to change your career, then so be it!
It happens all of the time!
At least you’d have the college education under your belt. Some people aren’t even fortunate enough to have that.
Just enjoy your life, and do the best you can.
That’s the least you can do.
It’s ok to be a little unsure of what you want; in due time, things will unfold for you.
peace, love, inspiration
Tiary
hello, my boyfriend recently found out his boss likes him. i thought all those times where his boss drives him around, takes him out to eat, drops dinner off for him was like treating a son she never has before. he already hinted to her that he's not interested in her already indirectly, but he still needs keep a good relationship with her. but idk why im so insecure, like everytime i know his boss wants to spend time with him like to take him out on his bday, etc.
Hey there, lovely!
I totally understand what you’re going through.
I’ll give you my opinion (in a sort of biased point of view) and then typical guidance.
The situation with my ex fiance and her boss was one thing that really impacted our break up.
I’m not a naturally jealous person, but the extent of the flirting and unease was near unbearable.
I felt like for me, it was best to talk through those issues. My ex new what did/did not bother me, her boundaries, ect ect. Although it still ended shitty anyway on my end, perhaps talking to him and letting him know of your concerns would help you.
I think it’d be the adult way to approach the situation.
That is if things are so uncomfortable for you that it must be addressed…
Maybe you can come up with some boundaries, or talk through how you’d like the situation to be approached and handled.
I believe that it’s only natural to have some concern or feel somewhat insecure when there’s another person person that has feelings for your significant other.
However the test is in your faith for one another, and how much you are secure and loving of yourself.
peace, love, inspiration
Tiary
