doing basic self care things each day is important
keeping your living space clean
brushing your teeth
putting on a different outfit every day
going to sleep and waking up at the same time
taking medication at the same time
cleaning your email inbox
i feel so much better when i do little things for myself
Things I've learned from living with SBs (part 1)
A few of you ladies asked me to talk about some of the things I learned when I lived with Sugar Babies. Of course at the time I wasn’t really aware of what they were doing I did learn somethings from watching them.
First thing I learned. Always, I mean always look your best. The first SB I lived with had a membership to LA Sports Club and she would take my mom and I with her. She was very fit and would work out 4 times a week. Now this club had a lot of amenities and was always packed with Celebs and the rich. Now, I’m not saying you have to be thin to make it as a SB, just always be presentable.
Anyways, she would take us shopping and tell my mom (and me) how to dress and what to wear for certain occasions. Her number one go to outfit for a casual day was a nice, fitted tank top, designer jeans and cute shoes. I remember she gave me a pair of True Religion jeans and bought me a really cute tank top and she, my mom and I went to Robertson BLVD to go shopping and for lunch. While at lunch a guy at the bar ended up paying for our food ;-)
- Her Fashion Tip: Black, White or Gray fitted tank tops are always good for a casual day, paired with good jeans/ pants not necessarily designer but make sure they fit you well and have a nice look and cute shoes.
- Keep a nice leather or jean jacket in your car or a nice black blazer encase it gets a little nippy.
- Match your bra and panties. Ever since the day we went to VS and she told me that, I’ve always “tried” to keep my undies matching. Personally I feel sexy and grown up when I know my bra and panties match.
- Having a good bra makes a big difference. She had a boob job but she still would get the good bra and cute panties that matched. Sometimes she would wear a sports bra over her bra to help lift her breast up.
- Posture makes a big difference! At home she would wear a girdle (I use a waist cincher only 10$ on amazon) it keeps your stomach flat while forcing you to sit up straight.
- Keep your makeup natural during the day. Only wear a full face if you have a date or event to go to. If a SD sees you without a full face and you like a different person, it’s kind of a turn-off.
- Invest in yourself. She had a nose job and her breast done. She’d make sure she ate healthy foods so that what she put into her body would reflect to the outside.
She was lived for weave and even gave me and my mom some old (only used once) hair she didn’t use anymore. She wasn’t one who had the long, hair down your back kind of weave, she kept it simple so that it looked natural. A cute curly, blonde highlighted full head weave with a bang that looked very cute when straightened (being able to switch it up is always a plus).
- Find a look that works best for you. You might not need a weave but make sure your hair is always done even if it’s in a ponytail (which men love) make sure it slicked back and your edges are smoothed down with edge control or gel (white people use hairspray)
She made sure that whomever she talked to was doing something for her. One guy helped her pay her car off, a few guys paying her 4K a month rent and bills (idk how many guys she had but they all thought they were paying her rent) Her son’s private schooling was paid for and she studied scientology which is expensive (no it’s not a cult) and she met a lot of her sponsors at the scientology center in LA.
Smile! ALWAYS FUCKING SMILE!!! Her NUMBER ONE RULE was that, no matter what the situation was, when she was around her sponsors she always had a smile on her face. Even if she was cussing him out about something she would do it with a smile (literally I saw her do it) and especially smile when you have your hand out!
- Practice smiling in the mirror so that it doesn’t seem forced or fake. Try to make your eye’s wrinkle a little bit (that’s a sign of a real smile)
I don’t want this post to be super long so I will make other parts to it because I’ve lived with a few SB/escorts
45 Things I’ve learned while studying for the MCAT
- Have confidence.
- Study like you have a final. Every day.
- Facebook is NOT your friend.
- Do not even think about stumbleupon.com.
- Your social life is officially non-existent.
- Sleep at least 6 hours a night.
- Coffee is your friend.
- Do not get annoyed when someone asks, “how’s studying going?” Please note, that asking someone how their studying is going is one of THE MOST annoying questions to ask them.
- Alcohol: minimal at best, none preferred. Think of the MCAT as the second coming of prohibition.
- Try your best to eat healthy. With all the studying you’re doing, you should at least not get fat.
- Pick up a hobby, or go to the gym. You need stress relief, and for me it’s doing pushups.
- Naps should only be 30 minutes. Any longer, and you’re a goner.
- The later you wake up in the morning, the more sluggish you are for the rest of the day.
- Full length practice tests not only assess your competence but aid in your stamina. Everyone loves long staying power.
- Once again, coffee is your friend. Your best friend.
- Sex life? Better yet, what sex life? Your only partner should be the MCAT. Who should be continually raping you every day. That’s the only action you’ll need/get.
- Enjoy the little things. Times are stressful.
- Study in an environment you know that you will study in. Location, location, location.
- Tell your loved ones you will be cranky. If you don’t love them, you don’t need to tell them.
- Sleep before midnight if possible.
- Music or no music? No music. Use earplugs instead.
- Imitate testing environment as much/as often as possible. See #21. Use blank scratch paper, use only wooden pencils. Stick to the 10 minute break between sections and DO the writing samples.
- Stretch. 5 hours of sitting down is not an easy feat. You will get knots in your muscles. This is a marathon, not a leisurely walk.
- Expect the unexpected. No matter how prepared you think you are… no one goes into this test with 100% confidence. Control what you can to lessen the stress.
- Take things one step at a time. The pyramids weren’t built overnight. Thinking about how you don’t have clinical experience/letters of recommendation for medical admissions won’t help you when you’re studying for the MCAT. Focus strictly on the MCAT. Baby steps.
- Only talk to people you like. You aren’t going to be social while you study, so when you make time for others make them count. People who want to tell you how they’ve been ‘hurt’ or about their ‘problems’ are excess drama. Just this once, be selfish. Talk to your friends who will support you.
- Cherish break time. During break time, do not watch a movie or go on Facebook. Be active and happy! Walk outside, and feel the warmth of the sun.
- Stick to a schedule. Don’t take a ‘break’ whenever you feel like. Don’t just study ‘ochem’ because you have a feeling. Organization will save you time and boost efficiency.
- Have patience. Your parents will badger you. All the time. Your friends will do things that annoy you. Please be patient with them. You only have a ‘he’s taking the MCAT’ free pass for so much. Use them only when they matter.
- Set your music player to shuffle. The 7th song is your ‘official MCAT theme song’. I hope you like it. If you don’t, cheat until you do.
- Rest. One day a week, do not study at all. Don’t even think about the MCAT. Even God rested 1 day.
- Know your limits/cycles. I’m talking about your excretory system here. There is nothing more distracting while taking a test, then holding a bladder full of fluid. Know that drinking coffee now might mean a bathroom break in 1 hour. You have 10 minutes between sections on the real test. You should aim at going to the bathroom during those times.
- Distance. Try your best not to talk to other pre-meds taking the MCAT. They will make you feel inadequate about your own progress. A low spike in your self-confidence cannot be afforded.
- Understand progress. Don’t focus on how you’re stuck at a certain score. Realize that from the beginning, you’ve improved A LOT and focus on how that’s still happening. You will improve.
- ‘Don’t complain, just work harder’ -Randy Pausch.
- Stay calm. You know a lot more than you think you do. If you stay calm, you can figure out what the question is asking and how to apply your knowledge. You’ll be surprised.
- Everything is there for a reason. Every piece of information in a passage is there to tell you something. Especially in the Verbal Section. Read carefully and always ask yourself, “why is this here?”.
- Find some inspiration. When you feel blue, a good source of inspiration is Nike commercials. You might not like their shoes, but you can’t deny that Nike commercials are awe inspiring. Try finding some on YouTube. ONLY use YouTube for finding Nike commercials.
- Have good posture. 5 hours of test taking is made more difficult with bad posture. Sitting up straight will improve your attentiveness. Also, slouching is unattractive.
- Menstrual Cycle. A great mnemonic device is ‘Men, F Our Lives’. Menstruation, Follicular phase, Ovulation, and Luteal Phase.
- Using the internet is a double-edged sword. You can be really productive using it, or spiral into procrastination. I hope you have self control, because the practice tests on the AAMC website are very helpful.
- Take vitamins. A healthy body is the house to a healthy mind. Studying while you’re sick is not going to be pretty. Try your best to maintain good health.
- Be minimalistic. Guys, don’t take an hour to get your hair in the right ‘messy look’ and girls, don’t take a strenuous amount of time applying make-up. You are studying and aren’t trying to impress anyone. All your energy should be to studying for this test. However, please change your clothes/underwear daily, and also shower every 24 hours. Most of the days I study, it’s a ‘hat day’ because my hair is just crazy. That’s fine though, I’m studying.
- Utilize small time. Waiting for your cup of coffee (see #7 and #15), or waiting for your ramen water to boil is time you could spend with flashcards or listening to Audio Osmosis. Ten minutes may seem like nothing, but you can get a surprisingly large amount of things done.
- Have faith. Tomorrow is a brighter day, and the possibilities are endless. You decide your fate. Accept responsibility for your actions and study!
Here are 45 things I personally learned while studying for the MCAT. I hope it’s helpful for those who haven’t taken it, and I hope it’s funny to those that have. I have 1 more week until I’m done. I hope I can do it! Let’s all get 45’s!
Also, thanks for all the support!
Top Ten Things I've Learned About Weight Loss
1. Everyone is going to want to know “your secret”. And when you tell them the truth (move more, eat less) they’re going to think you’re lying.
2. It’s a lifestyle, not a diet. Diets take the weight off but unless you’re prepared to stay on it forever (and know that the chances of this happening aren’t high) it likely won’t help you. Change things you can live with.
3. Be honest with yourself. Make choices, not cheats.
4. What makes people successful is that they kept going even when they didn’t see results, had a bad day or their weight went back up. Accept that set-backs will happen and know that you will work past them.
5. There will be days when eating [insert food of choice] means more than losing weight and days when [insert activity of choice] will be more important than exercising. It happens.
6. Every day is a new day. Forget about yesterday. Focus on what you can do today.
7. A watched pot never boils. Similarly, stepping on the scale at every opportunity will drive you insane. Find a happy medium (I personally try not to weight myself more than three times a week).
8. Learn moderation. If you love chocolate then you don’t need to do away with it completely.
9. Be realistic and healthy. Starving yourself or binging and purging are not healthy. Your mental outlook is half the battle. Keep it positive!
10. NEVER GIVE UP.
Things I've learned so far:
- There are things that you just can’t bring with you on an air plane. Think kitchen supplies. Be prepared to spend a decent amount of money filling in all the holes in your suitcase when you get there but take solace in the fact that you only have to do it once
- Google Street View will be your best friend. If you’re as directionally challenged as I am you will need to look up how to get everywhere for the first few weeks. Use Google Street View. Use landmarks instead of street signs. It’s a lot easier to walk some where and think ‘oh I have to turn right at that pub with the blue sign’ instead of trying to turn right at Park Place then not being able to find a street sign. For some reason street signs are surprisingly hard to locate here.
- Don’t spend a lot of money on a phone. Really don’t. It’s not worth it. Sure it’s nice to be able to check the internet and post pictures to all your social media sites but then you’re missing out on everything that’s around you. Just suck it up and save that money for something more fun.
- No matter how much you think you’re blending in people will know you’re foreign as soon as you open your mouth. They’ll also probably ask you where you’re from. It’s fine. You may even learn something. I learned that alphabetically, my home state’s capitol is the last in the nation.
- Moving 3000 miles away does not change the fact that you are a lazy, anti social, recluse. You will still find excuses to stay in at night and avoid social interaction, but you should try a little harder this time.
- ‘Because I saw it in a tv show’ is a totally valid reason to go some where.
- You will miss/crave the stupidest things from home. That necklace you never wear? It would look great on you today. I eat Friendly’s Reeses Pieces Sundays maybe once a year and I would kill for one right now.
- Bargain stores like Pound Land and Pound Stretcher are your best friend. You don’t need top quality stuff, you just need it for a year.
- Buy something you really want for your dorm. You’ll be here for awhile and it’ll be easier to deal with homesickness if you actually feel at home here.
- Keep an umbrella on your person at all time. Just buy one of those tiny ones and shove it in your purse.
- Food stores charge for plastic bags, so bring your own.
- There’s less variety in cereal but if it has chocolate in the name it’ll probably do the trick.
- You will always feel like an awkward tourist while waking around and taking pictures. Suck it up.
- The fact that my grades are pass/fail is not a valid reason to do nothing all year.
- The peanut butter here isn’t as bad as everyone says it is.