Reblog if you are (were) Misha
This is frikken history damn it, and someone should write down the names of the survivors and the fallen.
- So, everyone who reblogs this will be written down as ‘Survivor’
- Everyone who likes this will be written down as ‘Fallen’
- …the ones who like and reblog…I guess you’ll be listed among the ‘Unknown’.
Then next year, I’ll do this again and see how our numbers grew!
I’ll post photos, I promise! and tag you guys in it!
True Facts Your Abusers Don't Want You to Know:
- You have inherent worth. You don’t have to do anything to prove it, just existing is enough.
- You deserve love, support and respect all the time. Not just when you did something particularly agreeable, not just when the person is in a good mood or physically and mentally well or is treated by others respectfully; you deserve to be treated well ALL THE TIME.
- You deserve to freely express your emotions and speak your own realities without fear of retaliation or shame.
- You deserve to be able to tell someone why you don’t like how they’re treating you and a) not fear retaliation, intimidation, violence or emotional manipulation because of it, and b) actually have that person listen, take it to heart, and then change their behavior accordingly.
- You deserve autonomy over yourself. You deserve to think, feel, say, wear, do, and associate with what or whomever you want without any outside pressure or control. [Clearly you aren’t free to infring on the rights of others or treat them oppressively, but pretty much everything else is up to you and your best judgement.]
- You deserve to put yourself first. You deserve to have your life be about you. Everyone else can come after.
- You deserve space when you need space.
- You deserve to reach out to whoever you want for support.
- Your emotions and experiences are valid.
- You are important.
- You deserve to defend yourself and fight tooth and nail to ensure that the above points are acknowledged and respected.
Feel free to add to this if you think I’m missing anything.
Stop.
take this moment to remember and acknowledge your own survival.
you’ve lived through many things and yet, you are here.
acknowledge and accept yourself for where you are (if possible.)
let us also remember those who didn’t survive
let us acknowledge & remember their strength and send them love.
let us acknowledge those of us who don’t feel strong, who don’t feel like survivors.
Acknowledge all of us; past, present, future.
Solidarity with survivors of multiple traumas.
Solidarity with unstable survivors.
Solidarity with survivors of multiple kinds of abuse, over long periods of time.
Solidarity with survivors with complex narratives.
Solidarity with quiet survivors.
Solidarity with survivors who can’t find their voice, survivors who can’t express themselves well or at all or in the ways that make other comfortable.
Solidarity with ‘bad’ survivors, survivors who can’t set an example.
“It is a myth that time heals all wounds. Time lessons the acute agony of the fresh injury, but time does not actually heal anything by itself. Like setting a broken bone, then putting it in a cast to protect it while it grows new scar and bone tissue, we must do the work within ourselves in order for any real healing to occur.” ”
—Paige Bartholomew
Survey on trans domestic violence
LGBT DAF, in partnership with Gender Matters, Gendered Intelligence, Broken Rainbow and Galop, are holding a conference on improving services for trans* survivors of domestic abuse, and would like to hear the thoughts and experiences of trans people. Complete the survey to inform the debate: http://svy.mk/RDh335
