What To Do When You Are Unproductive or Lazy

For days where you feel unproductive, here are 5 possible self help tips. These tips are most suitable for individuals who have something to do, but just feel like not doing it. 

1. Find out why you are feeling or being unproductive. Jot down a list of reasons or explanations. Attach as many emotional words to each. For example, I am feeling ‘lazy’ because I am tired. Why are you tired? I am tired, because I have too much to do and I don’t know where to begin. Once you have a list of explanations, come up with a creative solution for each. For example, to overcome ‘stress’ from having too much to do, I will begin with the smaller task first. By starting with a smaller task first, I hope that it helps me build momentum. 

2. Once you’ve diagnosed your problem and came up with a solution, start executing your solutions. If your solutions are working, that’s good! Keep at them. If it does not, perhaps, you have to go back and re-evaluate the list of explanations and solutions you’ve came up with. Check if you’ve missed an explanation that you failed to address. Evaluate why the solution might not be working. For example, you might learn that ‘starting with a smaller task’ didn’t help because you were actually working a task irrelevant to the bigger picture. And this keeps you from building momentum. 

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Common relationship problems part II

Inadequate partner support

Both partners need to support each other in a relationship in order for it to last.

Some common problems are:

• Having unrealistic expectations and relying on your partner to always compromise for your sake. Doing this will allow unneeded stress and pressure to your partner to perform which will end up hurting him/her.

• Not communicating effectively with each other will for the most part result into arguments (ie: When one partner gets upset because they did not do what they were supposed to do)

Solution:

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