Tips for Looking more Confident
1. Pay attention to your posture. Stand straight, and don’t slouch.
2. Smile.
3. Look people in the eyes. Averting your gaze or looking down at your feet sends the message that you’re feeling insecure.
4. Take your time - so you look more relaxed and ease with yourself, and with your ideas and decisions.
5. Speak slowly, carefully and with self-belief. Don’t mumble or continually apologize for yourself.
6. Accept compliments from others (don’t deflect them, or quickly brush them off).
7. Dressing with confidence often helps us feel more confident about ourselves. Don’t be afraid to try new things, and to look as if you have a (positive) statement to make.
8. Be aware of your positive qualities and strengths. Keep reminding yourself that it is great to be you!
How to Stop Apologizing
1. Know when it is a good time to be sorry. It’s appropriate to say something when someone has received bad news, or you’ve really made life difficult for someone else. However, a lot of the time an apology is not required. Learn to know the difference between the two occasions.
2. Notice who you tend to apologize to. Are there certain people who undermine your confidence, or who leave you feeling as if you’re always wrong? In those situations, you’re allowing someone else to act as if they’re more important than you.
3. Try to notice when you’re starting to apologize. Habits are often hard to recognize. They’re usually automatic, and we’re only semi-conscious of patterns we fall into, and things we tend to say. For example, do you repeatedly find yourself saying sorry for someone else’s mistakes? Do you tend to just say sorry to stop an argument?
4. Try and look for the roots, or the need, you’re covering up. For example, perhaps an authority figure (parent, teacher, older sibling, coach) used to get angry if you didn’t “just shut up” or take the blame. Alternatively, you may feel you can’t really share the way you feel – so you just apologize and repress your true emotions.
5. Related to the above, consider how your drive to apologize to others is likely to affect you much further down the road. For example it is likely that you’re building up a heap of grievances, or you may pull back from get close to those you love.
6. Decide to establish and enforce your boundaries, and to say “no” to others – without also saying “sorry”!
Beauty
- Think you are too fat?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Think you are too skinny?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Think you are ugly?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Don't have a thigh gap?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Don't like your thigh gap?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Have acne?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Hate your skin?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Think no one would ever love you?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Can't see your collarbones?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Think your collarbones are too visible?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Don't wear makeup?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- Don't go out of your room without makeup?: you are beautiful just the way you are
- No matter what you look like you are beautiful just by being you
