"On the need to listen and understand"
Cover of The Wisdom of Ptah-hotep
“It is useful for a spiritual son to listen. If a person immerses himself in listening, he will start to understand. True listening makes the word valuable. The person who knows how to listen can master what is enlightening and useful. Listening benefits the one who listens. Listening is better than anything-it engenders Perfect Love. How fortunate when a son can accept what his father says! Understanding that message he will reach a grand old age. God loves the man who listens but detests the one who does not. The conscience of a man’s heart determines whether he listens or not. For a human being, this heart-conscience is life, prosperity and health.
It is the man who listens who understands what is said. It is the man who loves listening who fulfils what is said. How fortunate when a son obeys his father.”
MAXIM 39: EPILOGUE 2
—Ptah-Hotep (taken from the translation of Christian Jacq’s book, The Wisdom of Ptah-Hotep)
A seemingly simple concept…Jesus stated the idea as did the Buddha and others…
a basic thought written thousands of years ago before writing became commonplace…yet…
I struggle with it as we all do…
I know sometimes, I still need to practice…
people have asked me, “haven’t you been listening to what I’ve been saying?”…
so, I listen to the question and process why it was asked…
and practice remaining silent while another speaks…
looking the other in the eye…
feeling what they say…
not thinking of a response…only…
listening to another human…
creating a relationship with them no matter who they are…for…
they are like me…
someone who just wants to communicate…
- Is He Listening? (12pondsofskyfish.com)
- Love Thyself (joyofspa.com)
- 2 - 19 (sloppybuddhist.com)
- Are You Listening? (Really?) (actlikeyoumeanbusiness.wordpress.com)
- Geek P.O.D.: Listening. (thetraininggeek.wordpress.com)
The Last Entry.
We break into pieces to be put back together,
We cry to become stronger
We have opinions so we know who we are
For all this, we are human.
My faith is with the master of creation
The divine, the best sensation
If you shine your spotlight towards him
You will feel his glow and reap the rewards
I do, you do KNOW
That you can do ANYTHING you want
Accomplish, act-on, speak on anything you desire in your heart
For all this is human nature, for we are all God
There is no bad, there is no ewvil
Only in the eye of the beholder
If you take my hand , come with us
I promise you will feel at your best
And forfil your dreams
For all this we are human,
For all this, you are the creator of your destiny,
For all this, we are God.
12 Essential Rules to Live More Like a Zen Monk
12 Essential Rules to Live More Like a Zen Monk
i found this article written by Leo Babauta in which i found incredibly insightful and helpful. i thought this could help anyone else who are trying to be more Zen.
by Leo Babauta.“We have more possibilities available in each moment than we realize.” - Thich Nhat Hanh
I’m not a Zen monk, nor will I ever become one. However, I find great inspiration in the way they try to live their lives: the simplicity of their lives, the concentration and mindfulness of every activity, the calm and peace they find in their days.
You probably don’t want to become a Zen monk either, but you can live your life in a more Zen-like manner by following a few simple rules.
Why live more like a Zen monk? Because who among us can’t use a little more concentration, tranquility, and mindfulness in our lives? Because Zen monks for hundreds of years have devoted their lives to being present in everything they do, to being dedicated and to serving others. Because it serves as an example for our lives, and whether we ever really reach that ideal is not the point.
One of my favorite Zen monks, Thich Nhat Hanh, simplified the rules in just a few words:“Smile, breathe and go slowly.”
It doesn’t get any better than that.
However, for those who would like a little more detail, I thought I’d share some of the things I’ve discovered to work very well in my experiments with Zen-like living. I am no Zen master … I am not even a Zen Buddhist. However, I’ve found that there are certain principles that can be applied to any life, no matter what your religious beliefs or what your standard of living.“Zen is not some kind of excitement, but concentration on our usual everyday routine.”- Shunryu Suzuki
Do one thing at a time. This rule (and some of the others that follow) will be familiar to long-time Zen Habits readers. It’s part of my philosophy, and it’s also a part of the life of a Zen monk: single-task, don’t multi-task. When you’re pouring water, just pour water. When you’re eating, just eat. When you’re bathing, just bathe. Don’t try to knock off a few tasks while eating or bathing. Zen proverb: “When walking, walk. When eating, eat.”
Do it slowly and deliberately. You can do one task at a time, but also rush that task. Instead, take your time, and move slowly. Make your actions deliberate, not rushed and random. It takes practice, but it helps you focus on the task.
Do it completely. Put your mind completely on the task. Don’t move on to the next task until you’re finished. If, for some reason, you have no choice but to move on to something else, try to at least put away the unfinished task and clean up after yourself. If you prepare a sandwich, don’t start eating it until you’ve put away the stuff you used to prepare it, wiped down the counter, and washed the dishes used for preparation. Then you’re done with that task, and can focus more completely on the next task.
Do less. A Zen monk doesn’t lead a lazy life: he wakes early and has a day filled with work. However, he doesn’t have an unending task list either — there are certain things he’s going to do today, an no more. If you do less, you can do those things more slowly, more completely and with more concentration. If you fill your day with tasks, you will be rushing from one thing to the next without stopping to think about what you do.
Put space between things. Related to the “Do less” rule, but it’s a way of managing your schedule so that you always have time to complete each task. Don’t schedule things close together — instead, leave room between things on your schedule. That gives you a more relaxed schedule, and leaves space in case one task takes longer than you planned.
Develop rituals. Zen monks have rituals for many things they do, from eating to cleaning to meditation. Ritual gives something a sense of importance — if it’s important enough to have a ritual, it’s important enough to be given your entire attention, and to be done slowly and correctly. You don’t have to learn the Zen monk rituals — you can create your own, for the preparation of food, for eating, for cleaning, for what you do before you start your work, for what you do when you wake up and before you go to bed, for what you do just before exercise. Anything you want, really.
Designate time for certain things. There are certain times in the day of a Zen monk designated for certain activities. A time for for bathing, a time for work, a time for cleaning, a time for eating. This ensures that those things get done regularly. You can designate time for your own activities, whether that be work or cleaning or exercise or quiet contemplation. If it’s important enough to do regularly, consider designating a time for it.
Devote time to sitting. In the life of a Zen monk, sitting meditation (zazen) is one of the most important parts of his day. Each day, there is time designated just for sitting. This meditation is really practice for learning to be present. You can devote time for sitting meditation, or do what I do: I use running as a way to practice being in the moment. You could use any activity in the same way, as long as you do it regularly and practice being present.
Smile and serve others. Zen monks spend part of their day in service to others, whether that be other monks in the monastery or people on the outside world. It teaches them humility, and ensures that their lives are not just selfish, but devoted to others. If you’re a parent, it’s likely you already spend at least some time in service to others in your household, and non-parents may already do this too. Similarly, smiling and being kind to others can be a great way to improve the lives of those around you. Also consider volunteering for charity work.
Make cleaning and cooking become meditation. Aside from the zazen mentioned above, cooking and cleaning are to of the most exalted parts of a Zen monk’s day. They are both great ways to practice mindfulness, and can be great rituals performed each day. If cooking and cleaning seem like boring chores to you, try doing them as a form of meditation. Put your entire mind into those tasks, concentrate, and do them slowly and completely. It could change your entire day (as well as leave you with a cleaner house).
Think about what is necessary. There is little in a Zen monk’s life that isn’t necessary. He doesn’t have a closet full of shoes, or the latest in trendy clothes. He doesn’t have a refrigerator and cabinets full of junk food. He doesn’t have the latest gadgets, cars, televisions, or iPod. He has basic clothing, basic shelter, basic utensils, basic tools, and the most basic food (they eat simple, vegetarian meals consisting usually of rice, miso soup, vegetables, and pickled vegetables). Now, I’m not saying you should live exactly like a Zen monk — I certainly don’t. But it does serve as a reminder that there is much in our lives that aren’t necessary, and it can be useful to give some thought about what we really need, and whether it is important to have all the stuff we have that’s not necessary.
Live simply. The corollary of Rule 11 is that if something isn’t necessary, you can probably live without it. And so to live simply is to rid your life of as many of the unnecessary and unessential things as you can, to make room for the essential. Now, what is essential will be different to each person. For me, my family, my writing, my running and my reading are essential. To others, yoga and spending time with close friends might be essential. For others it will be nursing and volunteering and going to church and collecting comic books. There is no law saying what should be essential for you — but you should consider what is most important to your life, and make room for that by eliminating the other less essential things in your life.
“I would rather feel contrition than know how to define it. For what would it profit us to know the whole Bible by heart and the principles of all the philosophers if we live without grace and the love of God?”—