“The fear of failure component of procrastination was associated broadly with all the perfectionism dimensions. Overall, the results suggest that procrastination stems, in part, from the anticipation of social disapproval from individuals with perfectionistic standards for others.”—Flett, G.K., Blankstein, K.R., Hewitt, P.L., and Koledin, S.
Why do we procrastinate?
Procrastination is a problem for most people – and for some individuals it becomes a way of life. We tend to put things off until we’re backed into a corner, and we’re staring at a deadline, and feeling super stressed. So what are the reasons for procrastinating?
1. Poor work habits. There are some who procrastinate on everything. They are always way behind and never schedule anything. They say they work well under pressure – but they are bad organizers who wait to the last minute before starting on a task. For them it’s only important when it’s due RIGHT NOW.
2. Feeling overwhelmed. When we don’t know where to start, and we don’t know what to do, it’s tempting to do nothing – as that’s so much easier! Also, sometimes work piles up, and we feel it’s all too much. So procrastinating here is a quick form of relief.
3. Aiming for perfection. There are some individuals who are sticklers for details. They can’t miss a thing and all their work has to be perfect. They’re under so much pressure to achieve an ideal standard that it takes them forever to complete a simple task.
4. Wanting to do something else instead. We all have projects that we just don’t want to do. It may be writing a report, or filing in a “stupid” form. We’re avoiding what’s unpleasant as it’s really not much fun. But delaying getting started won’t make it disappear.
Some advice for those who tend to be procrastinators …
• Acknowledge what you are doing; don’t pretend it’s not a problem
• Tell yourself that you don’t have to do it all at once. Make a start on something – that will help to change your feelings.
• Make your focus “getting started”, instead of finishing.
• Break those large assignments down and make a start on something small.
• Don’t beat yourself up. It’s a very common problem. You’re not the only one, and you can change your behaviour!
what is wrong with me
- Me at 3pm: lol im not doing anything
- Me at 11pm: let's do spring cleaning and bake a cake and make kandi and listen to obnoxious music and thrash around and write a book and organize my ponies and make my bed and become the leader of the free world and fly to mars and rule another galaxy
The feeling of procrastination is a result of the pressure to participate in this “game” society has us playing. We’re expected to keep busy with tasks that other people consider worthwhile. Because God knows, if we don’t have that dream job, big house, flashy car, and family vacations to Maui we have little to no value in this society.