I feel sometimes that some of the ideas promoted on Tumblr lead to unhealthy behaviours
For those who read my posts, I stared the year wanting to lose more weight and with the stress of everything happening in my life (ie a very unwell partner) I actually started down a very dangerous ED related path. Thankfully I clued on and decided to do what was best for my health at the time: let go of trying to lose weight at the time and move it down my priority list because it didn’t belong at the top of the list and it was actually damaging my health.
I find Tumblr throws around the “no excuses” mentality a lot. I get a lot of negative messages about having “excuses”. But I don’t understand how I can possibly be making excuses right now for something I’m not actively doing. It comes down to the fact that in my life right now, spending time with my recovering partner is more important than a work out. Seeing my family as much as possible before moving internationally is more important than an afternoon if food prep. Working as much as I can to help fund our move is more important than going to the gym.
I’m not saying it will always be like this, but at least for the time being, weight loss isn’t a priority to me. And that’s ok. It doesn’t mean I’m making excuses or slacking off. It means I’m doing what’s best for myself, my partner and my sanity.
So what I’m trying to say basically, is that just because you choose to live by a no excuses policy, this doesn’t by default make others who choose a different approach lazy or excuse makers. It just means your approach doesn’t work for them. That’s all.
One year ago,
I saw that this very handsome and mysterious man started following my blog. I then decided to read every single on of his posts and eventually found him on Instagram. For some reason I was determined to meet this man. We started making small conversation on tumblr and also on IG and one night I was at a friends show at the Beat Kitchen and I didn’t really know anyone there. Ryan happened to comment on the photo I had taken at the venue and I asked him if he wanted to come hang out with me. He did. I talked his ear off, a little because I was nervous and a little because I talk too much haha He stood there listening. Probably thinking what in the world he had gotten himself into.
At the end of the night we exchanged numbers and went our separate ways. For some reason I decided it was okay to immediately start texting him haha There was just something about this man!
We met up again two days later. It was another hot and beautiful summer day in Chicago. We went for a walk and I talked his ear off and he patiently listened. I didn’t really know what I was doing. He was so different from the previous men I had dated but I just wanted to be around him. We eventually went back to his apartment and he immediately sat down and started playing his guitar. For some reason, that was it for me. It was like a huge light bulb went off in my head and my heart was just aching for him. I felt like he knew everything about me, and I fell in love with him right then and there.
That was one year ago.
I’m so lucky to call Ryan not only my lover, but also my best friend. Happy Anniversary my love. I can’t wait for out future together and thank you for being so wonderful.
I love you always,
Daina
Dati, hindi ko talaga alam kung bakit sabi nilang “dito sa tumblr kailangan maging friendly and meet new friends” Sa totoo lang kasi nun di ako nakikipag usap sa mga ibang bloggers e, kasi ano IDONTTALK TO STRANGERS, waht hahaha. De pero seyoso basta ako nuon, follow dito follow dun kung sino sino finafollow ko, tapos wala lang. haha Then reblog lang ako ng reblog tapos napunta ako sa point na nag po-post na ako ng sarili kong post, pero puro oneliner lang. Tapos, tapos na.
