“Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their "traditional" marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate "nice guys." The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don't is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it's unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy. Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.”
—Lindy West for Jezebel: “If I Admit That ‘Hating Men’ Is a Thing, Will You Stop Turning It Into a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?”
“Regardless of individual men's behavior, the facts of patriarchy give women ample reason to resent men collectively simply because "male" is a privileged social category in relation to which women experience oppression. This is quite different, however, from holding individual men accountable for the existence of patriarchy and blaming them simply for being men. In other words, when a woman says, "I hate men," this doesn't necessarily mean she hates me, Allan. But, living in a society dominated by individualistic thinking makes it easy to lose sight of the crucial distinction between men as individuals and men as a category of people. [...] Women's anger is an important engine for change, and if women have to tiptoe around worrying about whether it might hurt a man's feelings, they're going to be silenced.”
—Allan G. Johnson, The Gender Knot“In a perfect world, none of this would happen. In a perfect world, you could tell a woman she’s hot and she would smile and say thank you because there would be no millenia-long history of women’s bodies being used and abused by men, no notion of women’s beauty as being “for” men, no ridiculous beauty standards. Complimenting a woman on her appearance would be just like complimenting a person on their bike or their shoes or the color of their hair; it would not carry all the baggage that it carries in this world. But that’s not our world, and it may never be. Yeah, it sucks that women often take it “the wrong way” when you give them unsolicited compliments. You know what sucks more? Yup, patriarchy.”
—Why You Shouldn’t Tell That Random Girl On The Street That She’s Hot » Brute Reason
from 'If I Admit That 'Hating Men' Is A Thing, Will You Stop Turning It Into A Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?'
Part Four: A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of any gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
extract from this article.
Tattoos and Other Easy ways to Ruin Your Body
karamazov1989.wordpress.comWomen, let me tell you something that your friends and many guys will not. Your tattoos are ugly. We do not like them. We respect you less for them. We think you’re a pawn without a sense of solida…
I did not write the above article, the comment below this is my two cents on how stupid aforementioned article is.
This is why we need feminism. What a misogynistic and clearly poorly educated moron! There is so much wrong with this I don’t even know where to begin. Having tattoos does not dictate the kind of person you are, nor does it define your worth.
First of all this idiot is claiming that HIS opinion, is the opinion of every male in every society, which is beyond absurd. Tattoos, in many cultures, symbolize not only beauty, but spirituality. So that trumps his reasoning of “tattoos are symbols of prostitutes.” Tattoos have been used for thousands of years in hundreds of different places for many many reasons. Its amusing that Western society is just about the only one who demonizes tattoos and sees them as taboo, whereas the rest of the world in fact views them quite differently.
ALSO, assuming that women with tattoos are “easy to conquer sexually with minimal effort” is not only complete bullshit, but extremely enraging. What you do with your skin does not determine your sexual preferences. So assuming that women with tattoos are “loose, easy and likely diseased” makes you the most idiotic person on the planet. That’s not old fashioned, that’s just moronic.
I could go on and on about this. The fact that someone else thinks they have ANY right to dictate what is attractive or right about another persons body is beyond wrong. This guy is clearly has some serious issues regarding women, and thats really sad to me because he came from one, and could possibly be a father to one some day.
We need feminism because there are actually people who agree with this mindset. There are people who believe they are right, and we need to stand up and tell them just how wrong they are./rant. Sorry this just pissed me off completely.
“The paradox between male privilege and male misery is often used to argue that women's oppression is balanced by a similar or even worse lot for men. Warren Farrell, for example, writes that societies such as that in the United States are both patriarchal and matriarchal, with each gender having its own areas of oppressive domination. As with other false parallels, Farrell draws attention away from patriarchy to men as victims who deserve sympathy as much as women do. At the extreme, men's woes are used to blame women for the price men pay for privilege, even though the price usually is exacted by other men. Men's reluctance to open themselves fully to their inner emotional lives, for example, is based far more on fear of being vulnerable to other men or of being seen as insufficiently manly-not in control and controlled by others-than on worries about women. In similar ways, the competitive grind, insecurity, or fear of violence that many men experience is overwhelmingly in relation to other men, not women.”
—Allan G. Johnson, The Gender Knot“In spite of the fact that she's a full human being, a woman is expected to content herself with being something less than half of that. She's expected to allow men to see themselves as superior to her, to subordinate her needs and interests to his; to accept lesser occupations, slower promotions, lower pay, higher standards, to shape and mute her intelligence to avoid threatening men's egos, to endure being ignored, unheard, and invisible because she's a woman in a man's world, to do the work he won't do because it's beneath his status as a man. She's expected to accommodate herself to often impossible patriarchal standards of female beauty, an accommodation that often involves relating to her own body as an enemy or a failure, and molding, squeezing, and even starving herself in order to satisfy the male gaze. And she has to do all of this on top of being an adult in her family and community, holding up at least half the world with her labor, keeping herself and her family together whether her husband is there or not, raising children, and maintaining ties with extended kin. None of this comes naturally to any girl simply by physically maturing into a woman. The extent of her "obligations" requires her to deny, mask, and distort the fullness of who she really is or could be.”
—Allan G. Johnson, The Gender Knoti really need white gay guys to stop
- groping me and then saying “it’s okay because i’m gay”
- using words like “ratchet” and “ghetto” to describe fucking anyone
- acting as if they “have a black woman inside” — there is no black woman within you and you’re making all poc pretty grossed out at the idea of standing anywhere near you
- thinking that their sexuality entitles them to use “slut”, “bitch”, and “cunt” as nicknames for their female-identified friends
just…fucking…stop
