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That bit of the hetalia fandom that seems to think that Spain is irrelevant without Romano

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“I have been a dad for 6 years, a mom for 12, and for a time in between I was both, or neither, like some parental version of the schnoodle or the cockapoo. [...] I understand the reluctance many people have to play down the importance of gender, or for that matter, biology, in parenting; a world in which male and female are not fixed poles but points in a spectrum is a world that feels unstable, unreal. And yet to accept the wondrous scope of gender is to affirm the potential of life, in all its messy beauty. Motherhood and fatherhood are not binaries. And that, I’d argue, is a good thing. [...] All of this gives me great hope for the future of the American family, for our open-mindedness and the great potential of our sons and daughters. But just as I begin to become overly optimistic, I remember seeing some television show featuring transsexual women and their children, back in the 1970s. My grandmother was watching it. “Oh for God’s sake,” she said, sucking on her Kent filter king, “those people aren’t women.” “They’re not?” I said. She had no idea that I was a woman like the ones she was dismissing. How could she have known? I was just a boy then. “Of course not,” said Gammie. “They have children,” I pointed out. “And breasts. And — you know. Vaginas.” She shot me a look. Ladies of her generation didn’t say vagina or vote for Democrats. “That’s not what makes someone a mother,” she said. “Really? What does?” Gammie took a long drag on her cigarette. “Suffering,” she said. For mothers and fathers alike, there are times when the line between suffering and joy can be as vague as the line, for transgender people, between masculine and feminine. But surely it is those moments we feel everything at once — maleness, femaleness, melancholy, ecstasy — that make us most human.”

Absolutely beautiful essay on what makes a mother by Jennifer Finney Boylan, who used to be James Finney Boylan. Pair with the New Yorker’s heart-warming celebration of gender diversity this Mother’s Day.

Boylan’s fantastic recent book, Stuck in the Middle with You: A Memoir of Parenting in Three Genders, is a must-read.

A Classic Example of 'Don't Read the Comments.'

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This post was pointed out to me earlier today, and while it was a great entry/interview with Kris Anka about costume design, scrolling further down and reading comments was nothing short of infuriating.

It’s depressing to think that a very vocal minority of the audience think a certain way about characters and costumes. The new Psylocke design has become a point of contention.

The character is a telepathic ninja. Her previous outfit is a fucking bikini, and while it looked cool for a time, it just looked ridiculous if you think of the context behind the character, but yes, complete eye candy.

Anka redesigned her and gave her something akin to a catsuit, which works perfectly for the character. And you know what? It’s STILL sexy. Also? She looks like a complete bad ass.

Sexy isn’t defined by how much skin is exposed. It’s about how the character acts and how a character carries their look.

Now, 

if Abaddon comes back as a dude next season, I will be so pissed. Alaina Huffman introduced this character and made it her own. The fact that this vessel is now burnt is enough, but if she’s replaced by a man, I swear you’ll learn the meaning of all hell break loose.

i wish schools didn’t teach kids that failure isn’t an option

or that it made you a failure as a person

because that is bullshit and failure is normal and if you don’t learn how to deal with it early on then it becomes a major deal when it doesn’t have to be and when you inevitably fail later in life it really hurts

Listen, guys, Ness is the perfect OTP, arguably out of any that I have ever shipped, and let me tell you why.

  1. They have an emotionally healthy relationship. Do you know how rare that is on TV? They are not angsting and pining over each other. They do not need each other in order to function normally. They do not torture each other. They laugh and tease each other and they don’t know what they are, but they know they want to be together, so they don’t fight it. They go with it. They drive off into the distance without a destination, bickering about going right or left, and laughing along the way.
  2. They are friends first and foremost. They are giggly and silly with each other. She inspires him to grow up and take himself more seriously; he brings out her fun side. They love each other, but they don’t make a big deal about it, and the loft chemistry remains intact.
  3. They are flawed. Nick is grumpy, immature and not good with expressing his feelings. Jess is judgmental, kooky, and sometimes hard to handle. But they complement each other. They make each other happy— but they also make each other better. She has her doubts about him (what sane person wouldn’t?) but she believes in him anyway. And he blossoms because of it.
  4. Jess brings out Nick’s romantic side. He has the credit score of a homeless ghost, and he doesn’t like to do his laundry (ever), and he drinks too much (and knows it). But for Jess— he will wear Schmidt’s clothes. He will make a reservation at a nice restaurant. He will try to keep Schmidt and Winston in line. He will try to prove everybody wrong. He will sweep her off her feet (literally) and take a chance with her. And I don’t think he’s trying to be someone he’s not— I think he’s trying to be the person he is. Because Nick is a good guy, but he doesn’t know it, he doesn’t believe it. And with Jess, he’s beginning to.
  5. Jess and Nick’s chemistry is off the charts. Of course, this has a lot to do with Jake and Zooey, who work like a dream together— but the characters just have this spark. You believe them together. They are funny and crazy and sweet and real. They could be your own loftmates. They make magic when they are together.
  6. Their trajectory has been believable. Jess moved in and she was just weird. She was coming off a bad breakup, and watched Dirty Dancing all day. Nick, who is closed-off and crotchety, thought she was insane and tried to keep his distance— but he was intrigued by her. She wasn’t like anyone he’d ever known. (Not because he hasn’t dated weird girls, because we all know he has, but because she is the kind of weird that is perfect for him, even if he didn’t know it at first.) Even from the start, he was the one she was close to— he was the one who convinced her to get her stuff back from Spencer in ep2. And from there, they relaxed into each other and became really good friends. Platonic, but with sparks. And when the sparks got too big to handle, and of course they started to wonder— well, the show was fearless. The show went with it. Liz Meriwether and the crew really need mad props for their boldness, because some shows would have just dragged out the will-they-won’t-they for seasons to come. But nope. Nick and Jess admitted their feelings for each other, and began the bumpy road to figuring out who they are together. No fuss, no pretention. And it actually made the show better. The New Girl writers were very honest about Nick and Jess and their relationship, which was refreshing and fun to watch.

The finale proved all this and more. Nick and Jess have no idea where this is going— but they know they love each other. They came to that conclusion together. Nick came out to tell her he wanted to “un-call” their earlier decision, and before he could even open his mouth, Jess told him that she wanted the same thing. They are on the same page. They get each other.

Nick is not ideal, in many ways. And Jess— well, she’s not an easy girlfriend either. But both are sunny, lovable people who will try for each other, and that makes for satisfying television, and satisfying shipping.

Heto na naman po tayo sa pagkukumpara ng Tumblr noon sa Tumblr ngayon. Guise kelan kaya mag sisink in sa utak ng bawat isa na iba talaga ang noon sa ngayon. Lahat ng bagay nagbabago, at inevitable yon, there’s nothing we can do about it. Wag nyo namang ipamukha sa mga baguhan dito sa Tumblr na sila ang dahilan kung bakit naging ganito ang site na ito ngayon. 

I am genuinely worried about what Yahoo could do to tumblr. , this site is more than just a "hip" fad, it has changed people's lives, it's an escape... Don't change that.

I Hate Your Tank

While we’re on the topic of things I hate, let’s talk about designer, betta fish tanks.

Most things labeled as ‘for betta fish’ are lying to you.

See that above photo? Credit of this. It’s 0.5 gallon tank. Look at how bare bones the tank is. In fact, in the information they provide, it says, “Inhibit the Betta’s tendency to jump by decorating with an ornament or plant that extends beyond the water level (not included)”. It’s not really a suggested instruction, just sort of, “Hey, do it if you want, bro. We’re down for anything.” 

That tank is not suitable for a betta fish as shown above.

This goes back to ‘fish are not furniture’.

These trendy, fad tanks just promote the idea that fish are something not living, but instead moving pieces of furniture. They’re promoted as trendy furniture rather than as pets. Or, you know, alive.

I see so many of these tanks.

I see these tanks all the time. None of them can be properly heated, as any heater will cook the fish. none of them can hold a proper cycle, and most aren’t cleaned for weeks.

They just ingrain in my brain how much of a showpiece betta fish are. They’re everything I hate and everything that makes me frustrated within the hobby. So, when I see you with one of these tanks, just know I’m sitting over here, silently judging you. I know it’s bad, I know it’s awful, but I can’t help it.


So, I guess, consider this little rant a product review of sorts. What do you guys think about designer tanks?

With XKit

Tumblr is Tumblr, and a blogging platform is a blogging platform. Let us not redefine the essence of Tumblr. Let us not complicate ourselves. Let us not rebuild Tumblr as a social networking site. Anong gamit ng Facebook at Twitter? 

Yes, we create friends here. But with these trending browser extensions, we may lost the reason why we are here. And we are here to blog; to express and convey ourselves and our ideas to the rest of the world. 

We are not here to track who unfollowed us, and loathe them for doing such. 

These tools may help our blogging activities easier, but we should realize that somehow, these tools make our life here in Tumblr more complex. Let us stick to what David Karp created for us; for he knew this current interface of Tumblr unleashes our kraken to blog more often.

Let us not slay our significance. Let us be prolific bloggers. 

Anti-Black Prejudices in Tunisia: Breaking Down Taboos

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“Blacks are our brothers and friends. They are good luck charms for me, a source of blessing,’’ said Walid Ezzaraa, a Tunisian TV presenter, on Monday’s “Bila Moujamala” program.

Such a statement is perceived by some as treading the slippery slope of racial generalization, deeply ingrained in the Tunisian culture. A black is reduced to a good luck charm that blesses people when their paths cross.

Among the stereotypes foisted upon Tunisian blacks are their societal roles as evil repellents and talismans as well as their sexually potent, lazy, and unmotivated personality.

“I went to a neighbor’s marriage, and during the ceremony one of the white relatives of my neighbor came to me asking if I wanted to ride the horse in the feast (the horse is always present in southern traditional marriages over which they put the dowries of the bride). I refused as I became aware of my mother’s warning,” said Abdul Malek Tayeb, a young man from Gabes.

‘Never say yes to them if they ask you to ride the horse, they will be looking for a black to ride it, this is part of their traditions’ was the admonishment of Tayeb’s mother.

“In fact, they were looking for a black to do that in order to meet their racist traditions,” he stated in regards to the incident.

In southern Tunisian weddings, blacks are considered as part of the decorations of the ceremony. A Black woman is needed to dye the bride’s hands with henna, take care of her, and accompany her in order to cast away and avert evil.

Racism for many Tunisian blacks is a daily routine. Bullying and name-calling with epithets like Wsif, Zombak, Kahla, Shoushen, Guira Guira, and Negrita are recurrent incidents for almost all Blacks.

“I was standing in the street of Kheireddine Pacha in Tunis, waiting for a taxi, and a man came to take a cab too. A taxi came, and the man tried to take it before me, though I had been the first one raising my hand to hail the taxi. The taxi driver told me blatantly that he would prefer having his Tunisian brother in the cab than a black woman,” said Sarah Intitoury. “I couldn’t react. I just let them go,” she added.

Blacks in Tunisia are mostly thought to be former slaves. Yet, according to historians like Habib Larguesh, there are indigenous blacks native to North Africa, who were never displaced or enslaved.

“Slavery is not uniquely related to blacks. There were many white slaves, who were called Mamlouk, but after being freed, those Mamlouk went from being former slaves to acquiring a social category while Black former slaves went to a racial category, which is as freed slaves,” said Salah Trabelsi, a Tunisian historian.

“166 years now since the abolition of slavery, yet still, the Tunisian society is soaked in racism and intolerance,” said Trabelsi.

Today, many Blacks in Tunisia still bear the legacy of slavery in their identity cards. Some have written in their cards “X, emancipated slave of Y,” or, for instance, Ahmed Atig (freed slave of) Ben Yedder.

“Why should this past keep haunting him (the slave) and his grandchildren?” asked Sana Bent Khayat from Djerba. Many blacks in Djerba still shudder at this anachronistic reference in their identity cards.

Marouen Mahroug, a white Tunisian from the island of Djerba, denied any kind of racism in his island. “I think that the issue of racism in our island is approximately absent in general. In terms of color, it proves to be totally absent since we do have a good atmosphere where white and black Djerbians co-exist without any problem. On the contrary, I think we enjoy our life together, especially if we remind ourselves that “black” Djerbians really have a specific sense of humour,” said Mahroug.

Trabelsi traced the problem to a whole social ailment that is due to the lack of freedom of individuals in a country that is still looking for its identity, autonomy, and true self. “Stripped out of its primary sources, Tunisia is still under construction, and now  after the revolution people still did not fully grasp the meaning of who they are,” stated Trabelsi.

The racial climate in Tunisia can be summed up in the problem of an identity crisis. Asia Turner, an African-American woman who lived in Tunisia for 4 months, came to the conclusion that it is all about “a singular and close-minded ideal of what it means to be Tunisian.”

In her four month stay, she managed to see how people reduce the richness of their culture to believe that Tunisians are Arab people or they try “to align themselves with a more European identity, but it doesn’t really cross their mind that Tunisians can be black people too or Tunisians can be Asian or anything other than Arab and white.”

“I think that Tunisians are receptive to the idea that other Tunisians may not be Muslim… So in that way, they acknowledge religious diversity in their country, yet I doubt they acknowledge the racial diversity in the same way,” said Turner.

Tunisians, Trabelsi says, are stuck in a mental “ghetto” that fixes both whites and blacks in a certain rank to which a majority of both blacks and whites subscribe. “Many blacks now do not encourage other blacks as they believe that they are not meant for a certain higher class and thus will try to hinder their way,” stated Trabelsi. In such a way, black Tunisians may be doomed to not rise above the social class that is preset for them.

Being black and beautiful, black and smart, or black and rich are controversial combinations that mostly shock white Tunisians. According to some Tunisians, blacks ought to remain inferior to whites. “For blacks to be smarter than them (whites) is an offence in Tunisia. A white person can accept that another white person is better than him, but if this man turns out to be black, that is very offensive and can be very frustrating and insulting in their mind,” said Ali Rahali from Gabes.

Turner recounted that during her 4 months in Tunisia, Tunisians always questioned her, thinking that she must be from Senegal or Nigeria. At first, she thought it was so because she did not speak the language, and therefore people could tell that she was not Tunisian.

“But then in my talks with black Tunisians, they shared with me that even though they speak the local language and some even wear the headscarf, they are still perceived to be foreigners in their own country. So, with this said, I believe the root of the problem is a singular idea of Tunisian identity,” stated Turner.

“I lived with two host families, and they socialized often and brought people to their home, yet I never saw a black person welcomed into their home. Tunisians I spoke with always said they had black friends they went to school with, but honestly I think those black friends were just classmates and they probably don’t engage with them much outside of their classroom, university setting. There’s an issue of denial. Blacks are to a degree well-assimilated into the culture, and I often heard people say that there was no racism because blacks are in the schools and universities,” stated Turner.

Despite her different language and style, which clearly marked her as different, Turner said that being black added another layer to her experience in Tunisia and made her a target to racist remarks in public spaces.

“I can’t necessarily say that every incident was racist (…) I think I had some different experiences as foreigner compared to all my other classmates that were not black,” she said.

According to Trabelsi, instances of racism are used by their perpetrators as a method to affirm their own identity.

“In the struggle of the individual to establish his identity, some Tunisians are creating binary oppositions to establish themselves as individuals,” he concluded.

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Not the most politically correct/sensitively worded article but a real eye-opener to the climate of anti-black racism in Tunisia.

Dear BOYS

  • Kaming mga BABAE, magaling magpretend.
  • Kapag nasasaktan kami, nagpapakamanhid kami. 
  • Kapag may nakitang hindi maganda, nagbubulag bulagan kami.
  • Kapag may narinig na mali, nagbibingi bingihan kami.
  • Pero kapag mag isa nalang kami, dun kami naglalabas ng sakit.
  • Dun kami umiiyak.
  • Kaya ang pangarap naming lalake ay yung sensitive sa mga nararamdaman namin.
  • Yung kayang i-handle kung anong nararamdaman namin.
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