Arguably the most attractive characteristic that can be found in a woman, is the nurturing of her beauty.
To me beauty is composed of both the exterior and interior elements of a woman. In regard to the exterior elements, these extend from the purity of her smile to her innate attributes. In regard to the interior elements, these encompass her unique qualities and characteristics.
A woman who embraces this characteristic within her primarily allows the opportunity for growth. Growth in regard to her interior elements. This aspect allows for infinite growth, and increasing the beauty of such an astounding element that is already unique, is unparalleled.
Allowing ones unique qualities and characteristics to grow definitely become visible through the exterior elements. From the purity of her smile to her innate attributes, all are enhanced by the beauty within.
Conversations like the one I just had with my dear mommy are so wonderful. I know she gets lonely when I’m up North since my sister is so busy as a first-year kindergarten teacher, and my lil teenage bro is busy playing LoL all day…which is why, I’m trying to spend as much quality time with her as possible. We have little weekly movie marathons and we watch the Best Pictures of recent years. Anyway, this past week has been filled with good company and nurturing conversations. And although all the things I listened to and discussed this week have always been in the back of my mind most of the time, I find that since we put it on back burner, we sometimes, forget just how important these simple concepts are.
Being around people that make you want to be a better person, that make you want to continually improve yourself…those are the people you want to surround yourself with. These are the people that matter. To be honest, we’re all guilty of caring too much for trivial and absurd matters—whether it be jealousy, greed or some other monster—but admitting that we are guilty of this is the very first step to fixing the problem. It takes a lot to admit that we’ve been wrong, especially when we’ve gone so far down that path, but it is okay. Because, the moment we realize we have gone astray, we can finally start looking for a way back.
There are so many of these thoughts flowing around in my little head and I’m not even quite sure that they make sense…but for what it’s worth, we should all take a little time everyday to appreciate all the wonderful people and good things we have in our lives, and moreover, channel this appreciation into bringing goodness and happiness into other’s lives as well. Each day, we should choose with goodness in our hearts to be a better a person, to continually improve as a being.
Good night my lovely followers
May we all strive to live, love and laugh with sincerity
The Environment and Intelligence
What kinds of experiences hinder intellectual development and what kinds of environmental “nutrients” promote it?
Here are some of the factors associated with reduced mental ability:
- Poor prenatal care. If a pregnant woman is malnourished, contracts infections, smokes, is exposed to secondhand smoke, or drinks alcohol regularly, her child is at risk of having learning disabilities and a lower IQ.
- Malnutrition. The average IQ gap between severely malnourished and well-nourished children can be as high as 20 points (Stoch&Smythe, 1963; Winick, Meyer, & Harris, 1975).
- Exposure to toxins. Lead, especially, can damage the brain and nervous system, even at fairly low levels, producing attention problems, lower IQ scores, and poorer school achievement (Hornung, Lanphear, & Dietrich, 2009; Needleman et al., 1996).
Many children in the United States are exposed to dangerous levels of lead from dust, contaminated soil, lead paint, and old lead pipes, and the concentration of lead in black children’s blood is 50 percent higher than in white children’s (Lanphear et al., 2002).
- Stressful family experiences. Factors that predict reduced intellectual competence include, among others, having a father who does not live with the family, a mother with a history of mental illness, parents with limited work skills, and a history of stressful events, such as domestic violence, early in life (Sameroff et al., 1987). On average, each risk factor reduces a child’s IQ score by 4 points. And when children live in severely disadvantaged neighborhoods, their IQs decline over time, even after they have moved to better areas; the drop is comparable to that seen when a child misses a year of school (Sampson, 2008).
In contrast, a healthy and stimulating environment can raise IQ scores, as several intervention studies with at-risk children have shown. In one longitudinal study called the Abecedarian Project, inner-city children who got lots of mental enrichment at home and in child care or school, starting in infancy, showed signficant IQ gains and had much better school achievement than did children in a control group (Campbell & Ramey, 1995).
In another important study, of abandoned children living in Romanian orphanages, researchers randomly assigned some children to remain in the orphanages and others to move to good foster homes.
By age 4, the fostered children scored dramatically higher on IQ tests that did those left behind. Children who moved before age 2 showed the largest gains, almost 15 points on average. A comparison group of children reared in their biological homes did even better, with average test scores 10 to 20 points higher than those of the foster children (Nelson et al., 2007).
(Since this study was done, Romania has stopped institutionalizing abandoned children younger than 2 years unless the infants are seriously disabled.)
Perhaps the best evidence for the importance of environmental influences on intelligence is the fact that around the world, IQ scores have been climbing steadily for at least three generations (Flynn, 1987, 1999).
The fastest increase in a group’s average IQ scores ever reported has occurred in Kenya, where IQ scores of rural 6- to 8-year-old children jumped about 11 points between 1984 and 1998 (Daley et al., 2003). Genes cannot possibly have changed enough to account for these findings, and most scientists attribute the increases to improvements in education, the growth in jobs requiring abstract thought, and better health.
We see, then, that although heredity may provide the range of a child’s intellectual potential—a Homer Simpson can never become an Einstein—many other factors affect where in that range the child will fall.
from: Invitation to Psychology by Carole Wade, Carol Tavris
I buy a seed.
I buy a seed. I choose a spot.
The effect of an event, a moment in time ripples … it is endless.
Each line below creates its own story that echo’s from the first, splitting further still into more. Life does that … life is that …. each action a seed that ripples away from us through time and reality.
Do we have the ability to control it? Not really. We have some level of control in the early stages, the seed stage, but the life of a seed, an object, a word, an action … an idea…extends. It is touched by far more than our own individual hand. It is touched by our collective hand.
Each hand shapes the idea…the moment, the relationship, the campaign, the organization, the world.
Some hands caress, some nurture, some chop, some burn.
What is your hand shaping right now?
What seed are you planting?
- I plant the seed.
- I water the plant.
- The plant grows.
- I continue to care.
- It becomes a sapling.
- I protect, nurture.
- The plant becomes self-sustaining.
- I watch it, a tree, grow.
- It becomes shady.
- Birds roost, squirrels play.
- A cat gets stuck. Firemen come to rescue. The neighbors gather.
- I am older.
- My tree is strong enough to hold a swing, a tree house.
- Children, grandchildren, neighbors swing on the tree, play there.
- The tree is their fort, their castle, their ship, their lighthouse…
- Family & friends enjoy picnics under the tree.
- Asphalt is shaded & cooled … air is cooled. My house is cooled.
- One child, now an adult, writes a story that includes the tree. Readers, who’ve never seen this tree, know the nature of it. Some plant a tree.
- It is time to move on, sell the house.
- New children swing, play, climb.
- Generations of birds, squirrels, worms, insects, grass & other plants are sustained by the tree, the leafy loam underneath.
- Air, always more fresh air. And shade.
- Someone photographs the tree … others witness the life of this tree through a picture. One plants a tree.
- Filled with lights, the tree becomes the place of a marriage proposal. A memory is created, a dream fulfilled.
- The couple tells the story of the moment…and the tree…over and over.
- Someone plants a tree.
- And so on…and so on…