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“Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their "traditional" marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate "nice guys." The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don't is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it's unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy. Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy. Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.”—Lindy West for Jezebel: “If I Admit That ‘Hating Men’ Is a Thing, Will You Stop Turning It Into a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy?”
“Ladies don't you know when you look/dress/act in a way that men don't approve of, it forces us to respect you less? You should stop doing all the things that you enjoy and instead do what I think is best in order to avoid my abuse and ridicule. I'm only looking out for you.”—White male Facebook proverb
Tips on making your MRA movement successful:
1. Change the name of your movement
Since gender equality has been achieved, mens rights activism should really change the name of their movement to human’s rights activism. It’s alienating to women and people of other genders. Of course people who aren’t men don’t want to join your movement, it says “man” in it. I’ll join your cause as soon as you change the name, I swear. That’s the only thing holding me back. Other than the next several points I’m about to make, of course.
2. Educate us
It’s your responsibility to convince us that men have any value whatsoever. If you don’t teach us how can we learn?
3. Don’t be a stereotype
It’s not our fault we don’t respect your opinions. Until you go round up every MRA and police their whining and hat wearing decisions, no one’s going to take your movement seriously. And if you are one of those whiny, fedora-wearing MRAs, you’re the problem. Stop giving the rest of them a bad name.
4. How do mens rights benefit us?
One way to get us on your side is to tell us how mens rights benefit women and people of other genders. Talk about us and our needs. Because really, how can you expect us to care about you if we’re not getting anything out of it?
5. Stop being a victim
By complaining about rights that men lack, you’re just admitting that men are inferior and can’t do anything without our help. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Stop whining about it and do something. Empower yourself! You can’t be a victim unless you choose to become one.
6. Don’t feed the trolls
Most of them are just trying to get a rise out of you. Next time you hear someone make a misandrist comment, the best thing for you to do is ignore until it goes away. Don’t give them the satisfaction of knowing they ruffled your feathers.
7. Learn to take a joke
You guys are no fun and take yourselves way too seriously. That’s why no one likes you. Kill all men jokes aren’t making fun of men, they’re making fun of misandrists. And besides, even if they were making fun of you, they’re just words, they can’t hurt you. If you can’t laugh at misandry, you give it more power.
Also, give us the benefit of the doubt. A lot of us make misandrist jokes as a social experiment to see who actually cares about male oppreshun.
8. Stop with the reverse reverse sexism
Whenever you talk about women, make sure you specify “some”. We don’t ALL think you’re rapists. You have some serious issues to work out if you really think I, someone you’ve never met, could potentially think you’re a rapist.
Plus, how do you KNOW we think you’re a rapist just because you’re a man. We’re just as suspicious of women. Thinking we might think you’re a rapist just because we’re women is just as bad as women thinking you’re a rapist just because men make up 90% of all rapists.
But also keep in mind, if you’re one of the 0.00000000000000000001% who gets falsely accused of rape, it’s your own fault for not being suspicious enough of women.
9. Respect our opinions
Everyone’s entitled to their own opinion. If you want us to respect yours, then you have to respect ours that men are better suited as dog food than as human beings.
We’re actually really nice people if you would give us a chance. Just because we think you’re dog meat doesn’t mean we hate you. We can still respect you and think you’re dog meat. If you don’t like it you’re just going to have to be an adult and agree to disagree.
And besides, a lot of us are just playing devil’s advocate anyway. We want to make sure you’ve really thought about your stance from all angles. Has it ever occurred to you that you might actually be a can of dog food?
The way you know Mens Rights is a legitimate activist movement is how they dox people and send rape threats to those they want to intimidate. I mean, that’s how all legitimate human rights activists have gotten shit done. Remember when Rosa Parks was denied a seat up front so she made rape threats to the driver and put his nudie pics all over the internet? If she hadn’t does that we wouldn’t have buses.
I’m a woman in America and I have never been oppressed.
I have been belittled and ridiculed, but never has it been by a man.
I have been belittled and ridiculed by the women in my life. Female teachers, female peers, my own mother.
The best teacher I’ve ever met, who was the most supportive, was a man.
The friends who always have my back? Men.
My dad protected me from my mothers wrath.
Men are clearly not the problem.