My take on friendship.
Friendship, to me, is not about loving somebody that is exactly like you. Someone who loves the same things I love, hates all the things I hate, bash on the same people I can’t stand as well- I mean, that’s great. But really, after seven years of this, I’m thinking that friendship is much more. I mean, if you take into consideration how many friendship breakups there were because of this universal ignorance of what friendship really stands for, we wouldn’t be losing friends and then gaining new ones to susbtitute for the old. (Which by the way, turn out to just be the exact same thing as the person before.)
To me, friendship is knowing that someone who doesn’t enjoy the same things you enjoy or is a friend with your long time enemy can still be able to go past that and still remain strong.
Friendship isn’t materialistic. You can’t buy your way into having a big group of friends or even one friend.
Friendship isn’t about bribery or promises. You can’t bribe your friends into believing that you could hook them up by getting into the hottest parties and that guy/girl your best friend is currently “in love with”.
Friendship isn’t about compare and contrast. “I love this.” “I don’t.” “Then, we can’t be friends.”
Friendship isn’t about any of these things. Friendship is about accepting the good and the bad; no filter. By accepting them and really, still loving that person for who he/she is, fully as a human being, is what I think friendship stands by.
Example: It’s 2:00 in the morning and you’re both working on a paper together, it’s not awkward. It’s not stressful, and the air isn’t tense. You both communicate either in silence from your own hard work or you’re able to have a good time, no matter the circumstance.
Friendship is about being there for the person. When they’re having a bad day, don’t be that guy who just stands there while she/he rants or cries without any act of concern. Just because it isn’t your problem, doesn’t mean you can’t help the other person feel better. Isn’t it your job as a good friend to be there for that person through thick and thin? How could you ever say that you would if you can’t even be a measily comfort therapist for a day? Instead of worrying about yourself and “oh, what if she/he doesn’t like what I’m about to say…” Fuck that! Say it! If you really love that person whose crying in your arms, make it known! Because if that person really, truly values you as a friend, they would know that you aren’t saying what you are out of spite, but out of compassion.
And most importantly, friendship is not about numbers. Whether you have a huge group of friends or just one or two by your side, it doesn’t matter. If you are able to still have a great relationship with each and every one of them, then the more the merrier. But don’t be alarmed when one tells a secret and it spirals down the row. That’s the price that comes with big numbers.
Every person has a different definition for friendship.
This is just mine. It’s not wrong, but it’s not necessarily completely right. It’s just, what I feel my friendships have been lacking and what I think is what the foundation for it truly is.
((Because I can.
Okay, so last night I decided to watch ‘The Last Airbender’, and honestly it really wasn’t as horrible as the fandom depicts it to be. Yeah most of the movie was kind of like ‘what the fuck’ but Shamalamadingdong got the just of the show down since obviously you can’t fit all 20 episodes in one movie. Although the character’s did seem ooc, that’s the way he saw it so I’m not totally upset. I actually cracked up at some of the things, but like I said it wasn’t horrible but it was disappointing.
