Hate in the KPOP family. A Pledge.

I’m here to express my inner feelings about a topic that has been around for quite some time, but has increasingly gotten worse in the past year. I had recently come across a recent post that really broke my heart about a Baby/BBC named Courtney (aka letsbangyongguk). In short terms she had committed suicide because of the nasty comments anons left her. With those last few moments, she wrote a letter explaining how it finally got to her and said, ‘if people I don’t know feel this way, everyone else must too.’ I pray for her family, friends, and send my condolences and best wishes for recovery of loosing such an important person.

But this has happened way to often with the same story over and over. And frankly, I’m sick of it. I’m sick of the fanwars, the innocent victims who suffer from hate comments for no reason, and most of all I’m sick of myself always on ‘standby’ when I want to do something about it.

Dear victims,

When you think that you are alone, and you only have yourself to burden hate against you, you’re not alone. I want to let you know, I am willing to be friends with anybody and I’m sure there are TONS of people who are willing also. And just remember, there are others out there who are experience the same thing you are going through. Out of the over 1,000,000,000 people on this planet I’m 100% positive there is at least one person willing to stay by your side during the bad times, and the good times. I’m one of them. You also have your amazing KPOP idols who want you to live happily and enjoy their music that they’ve worked so hard on just for fans like you. Don’t even think you’re not special, because everyone is special in their own unique way, and you have so much to offer the world, so you must live it out. My motto in life, ‘whenever there’s a bad day, a good day always follows, so look forward to that, and keep reaching for a bright future, because you can always change it with the strength you have hidden inside, that even you might not think you have.’ So keep living, not just for me, not just for your KPOP idols, not just for your family and friends…but for yourself.

Dear haters,

I’m not going to sit here and bash on you just to make myself feel better, because I won’t. I just want you to look on your actions, and think to yourself ‘if this happened to me, would I like it?’. You might answer ‘I can defend myself, and I’ll just bash them back’. But that’s you, not everyone is willing to do that. This is the internet, not some battle arena. Now, I want you to ask yourself again before you press that ‘ask’ button. ‘What’s this person’s life like? What is their true personality? By sending this, how will that affect my life?’ That’s an easy one, it won’t affect your life at all. You know why? Because there is a thing called ‘growing up’. As you grow up, you will never have contact with this person again. You have control of your own life and even if it gives you temporary satisfaction, that’ll just all disappear when you get off that computer, and go back to the life you live. The real world is where you should be really focusing, and be worrying about how you will live your future life. If you have ill feelings towards this person, disconnect them from your life. There’s no reason to stay in contact with them, just let it go.

And now about the fanwars. In my personal opinion, fanwars are absolutely pointless and immature. So what if you don’t like a group? Just don’t associate yourself with them, but also, don’t go rubbing it in others’ faces either, because there’s no point in that. Sit back, and look at the BIG picture, you like KPOP, they like KPOP. We are all a part of ONE BIG KPOP FAMILY. No matter how much you will hate a fandom, or no matter how much you want your bias group to win an award, there is no point in fighting. Look at all the KPOP groups. Do they fight against hate comments? No. Do they have ill feelings towards  other groups because of an award? No. Do they instead root for each other, and enjoy each other’s songs, and even enjoy each other’s company? Yes. They don’t care about rankings to see who’s better than who. All they want to do is perform for their fans and see them smile. How would they react if they learn that one fandom is fighting another because of something small and meaningless? I’m sure they would be upset and even disappointed in some of the comments their fans are making.

With everything said, even if you might not read this all, it’s time to put a stop to all of this. Everyone needs to reflect on their actions and what they have done, including the ones who haven’t done anything (even I’m reflecting on my actions). Yes I haven’t done anything, but that’s the problem, which is why I’m doing something now.

When you like/reblog this post, you are pledging that you will not commit any hate crimes, and if you see a victim, you will step up and help them. Hear what they have to say and be there for them. This goes for not just the KPOP fandom, but for everyone. (But since I belong to the KPOP fandom, that’s why I’m addressing this to us).

Please take this seriously. If you break this pledge, that is guilt on your own conscience.