- quietgrrrl: also, i think people should start using queer neck bandanas as a way of flagging
- enasmathematikos: Like the hanky code?
- quietgrrrl: yeah
- enasmathematikos: What color would mean 'down to cuddle?'
- enasmathematikos: And which one 'down for heavy consent play'
- quietgrrrl: snort, consent play
- enasmathematikos: 'down for discussing heteronormativity and the patriarchy while snuggling naked under the covers'
In the USA, wearing a towel in his right pocket above would be a code called the Hanky Code, for homosexuals to recognize between them and know what they like to do during the act. Currently the hanky code mean : I’m gay, I like bondage and I love beeing passive.
The handkerchief code (also known as the hanky code, the bandana code, and flagging) is color-coded system, employed usually among the gay male casual-sex seekers or BDSM practitioners in the leather subculture in the United States, Canada, and Europe, to indicate preferred sexual fetishes, what kind of sex they are seeking, and whether they are a top/dominant or bottom/submissive. The hanky code was widely used in the 1970s by gay andbisexual men, and grew from there to include all genders and orientations.
Just saying. Just sharing. And im not sorry.


This summer ...
If you are flagging with an American flag bandanna, it means Wet Hot Queer American Summer, ok? I googled, it isn’t assigned, and Danny and I decided. We mean business!
Tops on the left, bottoms on the right! Switches, put it around your neck! Femmes and other nail polish identified folk - flag it on nails too!
I’ve been really into flagging lately. I don’t really do it, but I think it’s pretty cool. So, I work at a vegetarian restaurant, and there are a lot of queer people who come in. Today I saw this dude with a pink bandanna hanging out of his left back pocket and I was like, “oh, he likes to fuck people with dildos,” ‘cause I’ve sorta just been pretending that everyone with a bandanna in their pocket is actually flagging, whether or not they really are.
But then I saw him holding the man next to him affectionately, and I noticed the guy he was holding had a yellow bandanna hanging out of his left pocket, and I was like “oh, he likes to piss on people,” and I realized they probably were flagging IRL.
Anyway, I’ve never really been into the idea of tattoos mostly because I’m really fickle and I know that anything I get I’ll probably hate in a year or so. But the other day I found out that according to the hanky code, a stalk of celery in your left back pocket means you expect brunch. So obviously, I plan to get a stalk of celery in a pocket tattooed on the left side of my butt, because really, I can’t imagine a point in my life when I wouldn’t be in to someone buying me brunch.