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““No, I don’t want to be a girl,” he said, as he checked himself out in his bedroom mirror and posed, Cosmo-style. “I just want to wear girl stuff.” “Why do you want to be a boy and not a girl?” I asked. He looked at me as if I were daft. “Because I want to be who I am!” By way of explanation, he told me about a boy in his third-grade class who is a soccer fanatic. “He comes to school every day in a soccer jersey and sweat pants,” P. J. said, “but that doesn’t make him a professional soccer player.””

—NYT-What’s So Bad About a Boy in a Dress?

My Korean teacher is awesome

He was talking about some words that change as you apply them to men/women or something, and he said “so there are only men and women, an—”, then he thought for a moment, and asked “or is there anything besides men and women?” (my jaw must have dropped at that. Most people aren’t even aware of the fact that here are more than two rigidly set genders)
Then, surprisingly, most of the class answered “yes!”. And he continued “so there’s men and women and others, and …”
My Korean teacher is now officially awesome.

The biggest disservice for a parent is to impose gender roles on their child

My cisgendered, straight, male partner called me “sir” today.

I love him so fucking much already and that made me love him so much more.

“When speaking about humans, I find it's helpful to distinguish between social categories and biological categories. "Men" and "women" are social categories. We have the freedom to decide who counts as a man and who counts as a woman. The criteria change from time to time. In some circles, a "real man" can't eat quiche. In other circles, people seize on physical traits to define manhood: height, voice, Y chromosome, or penis. Yet these traits don't always go together: some men are short, others are tenors, some don't have a Y chromosome, and others don't have a penis. Still, we may choose to consider all such people as men anyway for purposes like deciding which jobs they can apply for, which clubs they can join, which sports they may play, and whom they may marry. For biological categories we don't have the same freedom. "Male" and "female" are biological categories, and the criteria for classifying an organism as male or female have to work with worms to whales, with red seaweed to redwood trees. When it comes to humans, the biological criteria for classifying an organism as male or female don't coincide 100 percent with present-day social criteria for man and woman. Indeed, using biological categories as though they were social categories is a mistake called "essentialism." Essentialism amounts to passing the buck. Instead of taking responsibility for who counts socially as a man or woman, people turn to science, trying to use the biological criteria for male to define a man and the biological criteria for female to define a woman. However, the definition of social categories rests with society, not science, and social categories can't be made to coincide with biological categories except by fiat.”

—Joan Roughgarden, “Evolution’s Rainbow: Diversity, Gender, and Sexuality in Nature and People”

WHY MUST I BE ALL THE GENDERS ALL AT ONCE???

Seriously…

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