“I am a gender failure. You are free to call me trans* and I am proud to lift this name up and hold it right there in the sun, and you would not be wrong. But it still feels like I’m borrowing this word from someone else, that it’s not all the way mine and my friend who lent it to me might need it back or they might need it more than me. Really these are all just words and words are always imperfect.” 

-Ivan E. Coyote in “Gender Failure” with Rae Spoon.